How do you start off your meeting?

If it is someone I have not seen before, I usually just start with basic chit-chat and keep the topics light. I get nervous to cross it over to something more exciting and probably spend the first 20 minutes just talking - and I feel like that is wasteful?

Question for providers and other guys: do you discuss menu, what you'd like to see happen all up front? Or do you just kind of talk and then slowly move into the bedroom?

One lady attacked me as soon as I walked in her door, deep heavy kissing, it was a complete stranger to me and felt so awkward. I like to let things develop naturally and not come off like a creepy, sex-starved weirdo. Originally Posted by WanderingKC

I guess you should schedule an appointment long enough for you to warm up comfortably.

And that's fine - not everyone is ready to disrobe and go to town in the first minute.

If it takes 20 minutes to get comfy, then you shouldn't schedule a 30 minute session, either.

I like to talk first to make you comfortable plus I like to get to know people... Most my clients are suprised that I talk to them for so long Originally Posted by b@ileythepistol

Does that include the time it takes to go through their wallets?

Just kidding!!!

Say Hi: you look great. That's enough talking. Now time for moaning and the fun stuff.
Times up.
Talking kills time, and your paying for their time. Just something to think about.
Why be nervous, In your dream you aren't nervous. Your only nervous if you think something bad is going to happen. Peter Pan it, think happy thoughts, and pretend she is tinker bell, and fuck her wings off.
If Capt. Hook walks in than your really fucked. Aka police, pimp, dad, boyfriend, drunk friend, management. That's when you can get real nervous.
Enjoy your time as an hour goes by fast, and the provider is most likely thinking of the next client.
It's like being an Olympian your time is short-lived. You worked so hard for this one moment. Originally Posted by Helicopter206

The legend continues....HC you have contributed so much..and now you can actually see into a providers mind and tell what they are thinking..

Copter, excellent answer! and damn funny, too! Originally Posted by Smoking Monkey

Funny?? "funny how?"

I look around to see where the camera's are hidden, if there are any undercover cops under the bed. I think about how this is going to look in the newspaper.

Are there mens clothes sitting out, etc.

do you discuss menu, what you'd like to see happen all up front? Originally Posted by WanderingKC

Hell no. I'd wave goodbye if a person started asking me what we're going to do. Even though not voiced, in my mind I would be thinking: What the fuck do you think we're going to do?

Shy away from quizzing, always. Talk about anything...... except the "activities" to occur.

If you research, you can know what to expect.

If meeting a provider without reviews, ask around about her, this way you don't have to ask her directly.

Do anything you can to put the provider at ease. If she's comfortable, you will likely have a great time, and possibly even an extended menu.

Yes, if she is so new that no one knows about her, you may get ripped off, but that's the risk you take by meeting a provider not yet reviewed.

Most importantly, if you get ripped off, don't just chalk it up, write it up. Review it. Save others the money. After all, wouldn't you have saved your money had someone else done the same thing yesterday or a week ago?

If I could yell at all of the providers in the city and on this planet, I would tell them next time they are meeting with a client face to face and he asks, what are we going to do? My answer would be: SHOW him, don't tell him. Otherwise you're a dumb bitch taking a risk and if you get snagged it would be hard for me to extend sympathy.

What's it cost to attend one of your seminars ?

I can appreciate you MW for the example you are setting for the OP.

As with any educational/informative seminar, business meeting, lunch date, anything where funds might be related, 'tis always best to run through numbers. Everything else could be perfect, but many things in life come down to one thing: numbers.

To answer your question MW, most seminars range from $100 per hour, to $350 per half hour, to $800 for two hours.
Seminar cost is determined by if your seminar will be held in public, if a seminar has previously been attended this calendar year, or if no seminars have been attended this calendar year.

Seminar topics include:

To cash.
Simplicity.

To barter.
Businesses comp things all the time. Add a little 20 percent convenience fee to the above method, and voilà.

To save men.
Giving up that squeaky clean record if snagged.
Losing your ass in the event of divorce.
Eliminating the need to pay an attorney.

To save women.
Staying out of jail for dummies.

The material.
Teach me quick, one pamphlet and minimal instruction.
Teach me more, personalized pamphlets and novelties.

Free bonus.
How to avoid asking questions that have already been answered.

I am quite comfortable fucking without knowing providers background.
They know why I called them. Count me on the side of coming off like a creepy, sex-starved weirdo. The op asked a loaded queston in the first place. He can spend his ffirst 20 minutes getting to "know" the providers life storry it is his time.
Just do not lump all that do not like to engage in hooker talk into
coming off like a creepy, sex-starved weirdos.

The op asked a loaded queston in the first place. Originally Posted by big country

Loaded questions are great! Someone needs to ask them.

I am quite comfortable fucking without knowing providers background.
They know why I called them. Originally Posted by big country

+1

Would you fuck someone without ever being able to see them? Would you be turned on by not seeing the person you are fucking? What if you were blindfolded or in a pitch black room, could you get off with never seeing your cock pound in and out of the bitches vagina, or never visually seeing what her face or body looked like? Are you into that señor creepy, sex-starved weirdo?

He can spend his first 20 minutes getting to "know" the providers life story it is his time. Originally Posted by big country

At what point does getting to know the provider become "off the clock" and if the provider only wants to chit chat and share her life story during time which she is compensated for, would that give her the label of being...... disrespectful?

I am quite comfortable fucking without knowing providers background.
They know why I called them. Count me on the side of coming off like a creepy, sex-starved weirdo. The op asked a loaded queston in the first place. He can spend his ffirst 20 minutes getting to "know" the providers life storry it is his time.
Just do not lump all that do not like to engage in hooker talk into
coming off like a creepy, sex-starved weirdos. Originally Posted by big country

BC you have just identified the basic difference between hobbyists.

You fall into catagory one, you know what you called, you have sexual energy to get rid of, you get down to business and then on with your life. Then you have the second kind, Copter falls into this catagory, they want the fantasy, they want a girl friend, hiring a provider is like going on a date, its not so much the sexual release they crave, rather is the mental release they crave, when they are on the date they are man ho's, players, lady killers, all the things they arnt in real life.

I am quite comfortable fucking without knowing providers background. Originally Posted by big country

I was, too, until I boinked the pimp by mistake that one time.

I don't think he meant that he was upset when times up, when it's up it's up, might as well be upset about the sun rising and setting!
I think it was more of a comment on how the paid time is spent, as all providers are different and unique in some way, so are clients! Some could probably talk the whole hour, while some want to get straight to business, he's obviously a straight to business guy, and nothing wrong with that imo Originally Posted by buttmann

Sorry - let me clarify:

1 hour is definitely 1 hour, when the time is up it is UP! But I was just saying that I personally feel like I want to spend a little time getting to know the other person first. And I guess I was asking providers if that is normal for a guy who wants to do that or is it more normal to just jump right into things?

Also, is it expected to discuss what physical activities will be involved in the date (in advance)? This is something I have never done....should I be doing this? Ladies, do you like to have that ironed out?

I start pouring the wine real quick, gotta put on my "beer" goggles

I J/K I J/K!!!

My technique is advertising strictly sensual massage. I never chit chat because it could lead to the client feeling uncomfortable. I mean he his spending a lot of money for a professional and discreet provider, not a girl friend. I recommend letting the client lead the conversation topics and ask only questions for that moment. For example I always have a drape set out and dim the lights with aromatic candles so he is immediately relaxed. I shortly introduce myself and immediately dim the lights and ask him his draping preference just in case he had body image embarrassment.

I then comfort him by explaining there are chain and indoor dead bolt locks on all entrance ways into my location and also assure him we are alone and he can completely relax and let go of all his weekly events and lay back and enjoy. I then gently towel rub him head to toe with astringent which 99% of the times they immediately release tension. I then softly inform them that she you're with me, you are permitted to 100% let go and relax that what goes on in Bella's massage room, Stays in this room and he can be himself and I will ensure him that he is perfectly in another reality with no identity, no judgement, and if limits are crossed that I will be gentle and speak up.

I fully respect their time and out of respect I get straight to what they are paying for. The verification is done before the session ever takes place so I do not waste his time or money by asking him questions. I don't need to know him unless he wants to vent then I will listen.

Other than that, the moment the client arrives in my opinion he deserves the full hour of pleasure he is paying for that way I can slowly take the time to make him feel good as long as I can in the 1 hour and not bother with questioning.

I deserve my discretion as well as does my client and wasting his time and money by asking him questions before giving him what he wants is not what he is paying for. Simply pre-verify and when he arrives, ask him if he wants to drape, to undress and lay down and also inquire about the temperature and if he needs blankets or refreshments.

This is just my suggestion but if he wants to go on a date that may lead to nowhere but 200 questions, he would do so. He's here for pleasure and not pressure. All I can suggest is be laid back and relax him and give him the royal treatment without pressure. Chit chat is great but never ask questions just let him lead the conversation while you're doing what he's paying for.

Please don't take this as an insult. I am only sharing what I suggest from my own personal opinion. For that hour he is with you, he should be relaxed, non rushed, not questioned, only pleased within your discretion.
Hope that helps and isn't taken the wrong way as I mean no disrespect.

Hunny Bunny

Also, is it expected to discuss what physical activities will be involved in the date (in advance)? This is something I have never done....should I be doing this? Ladies, do you like to have that ironed out? Originally Posted by WanderingKC

^^ No this is not normal.

I do not discuss BCD activities before hand. Every session is different with every guy. So I can not discuss what our session would be like if I've never met you.