Developing feelings for my provider

I wouldn't worry about it too much if I were you. I fall in love all the time with providers. I can think of at least three I'm in love with right now, plus another girl who I knew a long time ago who is back in my life and I never stopped loving her. Nope, failing in love with providers is not my problem. My problem is finding the time to fuck all the gorgeous girls out there!!!
By the way, PFMTony had a great suggestion for dealing with girls that love you who you aren't in love with and/or don't wish to support. Fuck their sister or friends and they will hate you. Try to avoid the psychopathic ones, though!

I speak from experience . Most will suck you dry. I fell in love with a provider. My money lasted 2 years ? She lasted 2 years and a day

I speak from experience . Most will suck you dry. I fell in love with a provider. My money lasted 2 years ? She lasted 2 years and a day Originally Posted by renoman

Look at it on the bright side. You got one free day.

Now that's a positive attitude Luke!

Look at it on the bright side. You got one free day. Originally Posted by lukeskywalker7667

Keepinitreal is really a nice guy. It takes a big man to say hey this is what happened to me. How many men are reading this thread and thinking to himself should I tell or not tell.

Renoman was the last day the day she found out you were broke?

Yes. There was a lady I visited at least once a month. She always seemed so happy to see me. Always very sweet. When I walked in the door she would throw her arms open and give me a big hug and kiss. I wish my wife would do that once in a while.

And we clicked sexually too. She would say she liked the way I fucked her. I used to think it would be cool to have a relationship with her. But I know that for her I'm just a customer. Look at it this way, if a provider really had feelings for you she would probably tell you.

Keepinitreal is really a nice guy. It takes a big man to say hey this is what happened to me. How many men are reading this thread and thinking to himself should I tell or not tell.

Renoman was the last day the day she found out you were broke? Originally Posted by Truly Passion

______________________________ __________________________

Truly you are right. And KeepinItReal, I apologize for calling you out in my post, I was wrong. You very clearly stated "from my own personal experience", and somehow I missed that I'm very sorry. I was just feeling super sensitive for some reason, I feel a little awkward being back after being gone for so long, and I let my Irish go Belfast IRA! But when I'm wrong, I admit it, and I do admire people who do let the rest of us know their experiences, good or bad. And there was no excuse for such rude behavior on my part and I really am mortified, and very sorry.

I advise using this twist from a song from Finian's Rainbow

When I am not near the girl I love --- I love the girl I'm near.

just change it to....

When I am not fucking the provider I love. ---I love the provider I'm fucking.

I'll be the one to say it. OP, the thing is, you aren't really in love with her. I'm not saying your feelings aren't genuine, I'm sure they are. The problem is that we providers have a working persona and then there's our, the rest of the time, persona.

We (most of us) create a persona to protect ourselves because we work so intimately. There are aspects of our personalities that we let you see and others that we keep to ourselves. When it's love, you love that whole person. How can you when you don't get to see all that she is?

Take it for what it is. A wonderful thing that you're going to get to experience many times. It's not often that we get to be with wonderful guys who really care about us.

This is my opinion, there are different ones out there.

I'll be the one to say it. OP, the thing is, you aren't really in love with her. I'm not saying your feelings aren't genuine, I'm sure they are. The problem is that we providers have a working persona and then there's our, the rest of the time, persona.

We (most of us) create a persona to protect ourselves because we work so intimately. There are aspects of our personalities that we let you see and others that we keep to ourselves. When it's love, you love that whole person. How can you when you don't get to see all that she is?

Take it for what it is. A wonderful thing that you're going to get to experience many times. It's not often that we get to be with wonderful guys who really care about us. Originally Posted by Dharma

image.jpg

Dammit Dharma, you are on a great roll! Great post!

I'll be the one to say it. OP, the thing is, you aren't really in love with her. I'm not saying your feelings aren't genuine, I'm sure they are. The problem is that we providers have a working persona and then there's our, the rest of the time, persona.

We (most of us) create a persona to protect ourselves because we work so intimately. There are aspects of our personalities that we let you see and others that we keep to ourselves. When it's love, you love that whole person. How can you when you don't get to see all that she is?

Take it for what it is. A wonderful thing that you're going to get to experience many times. It's not often that we get to be with wonderful guys who really care about us.

This is my opinion, there are different ones out there. Originally Posted by Dharma

Dharma that was very insightful, well said.

Originally Posted by DickEmDown

OP, I'll echo what's been said repeatedly, step away for a time, see other providers, gain some perspective, and before long it will pass, most assuredly. And if you're still sprung after all that, at least you'll be having fun seeing other providers, so you got that goin' for you, which is nice.

Great post Dharma.

______________________________ __________________________

Truly you are right. And KeepinItReal, I apologize for calling you out in my post, I was wrong. You very clearly stated "from my own personal experience", and somehow I missed that I'm very sorry. I was just feeling super sensitive for some reason, I feel a little awkward being back after being gone for so long, and I let my Irish go Belfast IRA! But when I'm wrong, I admit it, and I do admire people who do let the rest of us know their experiences, good or bad. And there was no excuse for such rude behavior on my part and I really am mortified, and very sorry. Originally Posted by GingerKatt

It's all good GingerKatt. My first post was kinda harsh as well and I definitely wasn't trying to offend you or any of the other great ladies I have had the pleasure of spending time with here. There are no hard feelings and Welcome Back lady

Keepinitreal is really a nice guy. It takes a big man to say hey this is what happened to me. How many men are reading this thread and thinking to himself should I tell or not tell.

Renoman was the last day the day she found out you were broke? Originally Posted by Truly Passion

Sssshhhh Truly P, don't blow my cover, lol. I still owe you that bottle honeychild. You know I'm in your neck of the woods often

I don't think that other guys would tell, it has come to my attention that I am not the first one this lady has tried to play these games with, but you know me, I must keep it real.