a refresher on references...a primer on pussy!

I thought atxguy laid it out pretty well. I only have to read a few posts to decide whether that person belongs on my ignore list.

My experience with references:

Met a girl on BP who is also on here. She told that I really need to get on here to get references. Hmmm... okay never needed them before, but why not. Asked said lady if she would give me a reference if I did. Of course! she responded. Checked out some ladies and decided I would see Paven (still love your simple kind of man cover if you are reading this). Contacted Paven and gave my "reference" and waited and waited.... Finally got a call from my "reference" - uh do I know you? Tell me something that would make me remember you?



Great system!
Originally Posted by cckid2006

No, he laid nothing out, but complaints. You said you had solutions. I've yet to hear them. If it has been a while, they may not remember. I don't think that's any great secret, nor do I think jumping through a couple of hoops should cause such consternation. She didn't ask for your firstborn, just something to jog her memory. Is that SUCH a big deal. CK, I don't imagaine you do need them. You plan all the socials; you are something of a known entity. I try to be reasonable when going about this. For instance, when I saw Bugle Boy, I didn't check his references. I've seen him on the board enough times, I know who he is. But, alot of times there is not enough information availabile to me without a reference. But, you're whole statement that there are so many other ways to screen. There really is not.

It's no secret that Austin providers have terrible TCB. I've had several visiting providers tell me that Austin providers will not reply to their PM'e or emails when they are trying to check references.

I can understand using references if you are a newbie but I've been a PA member on this board for almost 5 years and have several reviews. I think giving references is overrated. Check my reviews or posting history and decide if you want to see me.

I also think P411 is a waste of money if you have several reviews. It's great for the providers because they get to use it for free if they don't post ads. It's not worth $129/year. From my experience, provider TCB is just as bad at P411. I let my membership expire after using it for 8 years.

I actually tried giving references a few times recently just to see if it worked and a couple of providers didn't remember me and one I actually wrote a review on. I don't like seeing the same provider twice unless I have good chemistry with her. If you are not seeing one of these high volume providers 4 times in a couple of months, she probably won't remember you. Originally Posted by atxguy2006

I never used P411 and I saw every single Provider I wanted to see......total waste of money if you are not Traveling city to city for work.....

just something to jog her memory. Is that SUCH a big deal. CK, I don't imagaine you do need them. You plan all the socials; you are something of a known entity. But, you're whole statement that there are so many other ways to screen. There really is not. Originally Posted by chelseabean

Now I see why you don't use the board to screen and rely on someone else instead of your own cognitive skills.



CK1942 plans the socials not me.

I never used P411 and I saw every single Provider I wanted to see......total waste of money if you are not Traveling city to city for work..... Originally Posted by RALPHEY BOY

Well, your post history is something along the lines of "I have real big muscles and I've been sport fucking for two decades." Rarr!

I don't really know why dudes can't provide proper screening info. But I also don't understand how ladies can run an ad and then ignore P411 requests. I HAVE learned that providers don't remember clients very well unless they are established regulars.

Having said that, I've looked at provider ads, gotten really heated up, then tried to make an appointment and eventually realized I've not only seen her before but written a review and received a P411 okay from her. I wish I could say that's only happened once.

In other news, I don't know who these clients are getting robbed, outed, blackmailed or whatever. In over twelve years, the worst thing I've ever had happen is a lousy session. Screening works both ways.

I think that bruise on your noggin is from the headboard.

Now I see why you don't use the board to screen and rely on someone else instead of your own cognitive skills.



CK1942 plans the socials not me. Originally Posted by cckid2006

Wow. that was a little harsh. I feel like I'm one of the few women who is willing to ope up the dialogue on screening on here. I felt like my post really showed that.l I guess not....

Well, your post history is something along the lines of "I have real big muscles and I've been sport fucking for two decades." Rarr! Originally Posted by JennsLolli

Yes, I tend to boast about my body/looks, hell since all the girls do it I figured I might as well throw my stats out there.

Now, I bust my ass day in and day out making sure I eat right, exercise, don't smoke cigarettes, don't drink alcohol, no soda, no juice.
I get 7-9 hours sleep every night. I am 46 years old and extremely proud of my body!

I do not have big muscles anymore, to much work.. now I am very lean and toned. think swimmers body with more muscle definition. and yes I was blessed with a bigger than average cock and I know how to use it

I don't really know why dudes can't provide proper screening info. But I also don't understand how ladies can run an ad and then ignore P411 requests. I HAVE learned that providers don't remember clients very well unless they are established regulars.
Some do make lasting impressions the first visit. But in all honesty, what information really needs to be passed on except that yes, I've seen the guy and there were no problems with him. If it is a regular that likes certain things, I may volunteer that, but I don't feel that is necessary.
Having said that, I've looked at provider ads, gotten really heated up, then tried to make an appointment and eventually realized I've not only seen her before but written a review and received a P411 okay from her. I wish I could say that's only happened once.

In other news, I don't know who these clients are getting robbed, outed, blackmailed or whatever. In over twelve years, the worst thing I've ever had happen is a lousy session. Screening works both ways. Originally Posted by FloridaShark

Looking at our reviews is one way for you gents to screen us, to go along with any alerts and google. If a guy isn't willing to give screening info then I will ignore the request. Sometimes while I'm on the phone with the guy, I'm googling their number or if they've given handle, I'll already be looking for them on here. I prefer being PMed before calls though and will ask for guy to PM if he hasn't already. If a guy has an active screen presence, I look at threads or topics, etc. And I do this without being obvious to him. If they are well known on here then I may not ask for more information. Same goes for guys I've met at socials, but those are rare instances.

no juice. Originally Posted by RALPHEY BOY

Juice is unhealthy?

Juice is unhealthy? Originally Posted by Centaur

to much sugar, yes it not processed but none the less I keep my sugar intakes low, just eat the damn fruit!!! eat an apple, eat an orange, eat grapes, think about it, how many oranges can you eat?? one maybe two. eating your vitamins and minerals always is better than trying to drink or take a pill
http://www.hookedonjuice.com/

12 oz glass of:
oj: 8 teaspoons of sugar
apple juice: 10
cherry juice 9
grape: 15

not sure about you but do you put 15 teaspoons of sugar in your 12 oz coffee?

Yes, I tend to boast about my body/looks, hell since all the girls do it I figured I might as well throw my stats out there.

Now, I bust my ass day in and day out making sure I eat right, exercise, don't smoke cigarettes, don't drink alcohol, no soda, no juice.
I get 7-9 hours sleep every night. I am 46 years old and extremely proud of my body!

I do not have big muscles anymore, to much work.. now I am very lean and toned. think swimmers body with more muscle definition. and yes I was blessed with a bigger than average cock and I know how to use it Originally Posted by RALPHEY BOY

However, he is also very bashful...

Plays the ukulele, loves long walks on a moonlit night, is kind to animals, volunteers his time to unwed mothers foundations (like Eccie), speaks well of his mom, is a choir boy at church, brushes his teeth & never farts in public.

Ralphy is the best of us...and if you don't believe it, just ask him...

{{{fucking with ya Ralphey boy-keep up the good work}}}

However, he is also very bashful...

Plays the ukulele, loves long walks on a moonlit night, is kind to animals, volunteers his time to unwed mothers foundations (like Eccie), speaks well of his mom, is a choir boy at church, brushes his teeth & never farts in public.

Ralphy is the best of us...and if you don't believe it, just ask him...

{{{fucking with ya Ralphey boy-keep up the good work}}} Originally Posted by Toyz

no worries, all in jest!

however, my father could do a tune or two on the Ukulele

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I've enjoyed this thread. Not only has it been entertaining, but very useful as well.

I'm getting caught up on my PM and email requests this evening. I had a request from an a member here to start a conversation about my Cock Worship skills. I sent him a very kind email in response, going into the specifics of a session and my requirements for screening. A few minutes after I sent my response to his inquiry, I received a short, but incredibly vulgar PM in return. Simply because I requested references. Should it have been so difficult to extend a no thank you, I'd rather not provide references, or, take a look at my reviews and feel free to contact any of those Ladies?

I honestly strive to treat other members of this community with great respect. Not only are you a potential client, a member of this community, but I try to treat others the way I would like to be treated in kind. To offer assistance to those without references, I cleaned up and maintain the Newbie Friendly Thread. It's no secret that I tend to have a tender heart, which I try my darnedest to guard at all times. But goodness!