FYI: It is rude to arrive early.

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Pimps don't like it!
Yep. I was wondering why TT brought this thread from Jan 2012 back up?

Found the topic interesting and still appropriate for today.

I try to time my arrival for 10 mins prior, but allow for more time in rush hour traffic. Often will txt at the 5 min point that I have arrived and await an invitation to enter.

One provider has told me to just come on in without knocking, the door is unlocked. We are long-term friends, and she has quite a bit of flexibility on time; however, I always let any provider know if I will be late because of ATX traffic--it does happen.
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Didn't look at when the last post was but I just recently found it. LOL. And it is something that is always appropriate.
Late or early arrivals are the reason that I set aside enough time aside. No reason to feel rushed on either side.
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I always show up 20-30 minutes early to check things out. Amazing what you'll see. At 10 till I send a text: A gentleman NEVER keeps a lady waiting. Ready when you are!
I always show up 20-30 minutes early to check things out. Amazing what you'll see. At 10 till I send a text: A gentleman NEVER keeps a lady waiting. Ready when you are! Originally Posted by Still Looking
Actually that sounds pretty wise assuming you can sit parked in the car without drawing suspicious attn. from neighbors.
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I see nothing whatsoever wrong about arriving early for a session. The big difference is I don't knock on the door until the agreed to time. I also text the lady first and let her know that I'm there and ready to play when she is but I also stress "take your time, I'm in no hurry, I just wanted to let you know" in case she's ready as well. When she responds, it let's me know if she needs more time and exactly when to knock on the door. This isn't rocket science.....it's called common courtesy. Originally Posted by Who's Your Daddy
Agreed.

My unsolicited two cents : the above is pretty near the ideal handling of the early client scenario from a provider perspective (at least my own). The client arrived early but did not impose-in fact, he uses his early arrival to demonstrates an above average level of appreciation for his companion's company, I.e., "Hi, I'm very eager to spend time together (hence early), but your comfort and state of mind is equally important to me so although I arrived early, I did so with no expectations of entitlement. I also realize I am meeting with a vooomahn in a pseudo-romantic context, and realize it is the nature of the beast that things may not always start at precisely the second it is scheduled, lolol."

It's a delicate balance. I do not know the OP personally, but her post struck me as straightforward-even a little funny (waiting room remark, lol). At any rate, the word "rude" never came to mind when I read it. I think she made several valid points in the appropriate setting. After all, neither client nor provider want to be inconvenienced, our time abused, held hostage, whatnot...lol.

Neither do either of us, presumably, wish to do anything to intentionally dispel the illusion of romance, meaningful intimacy, etc, (such as the male witnessing the incall or provider herself in anything less than pristine condition or the provider being unnecessarily reminded of the commercial aspect of the arrangement by a client's disregard of social norms and the customary niceties of male/female "dating").

I definitely agree with an earlier comment about the impropriety of admitting a client early when unprepared...where's the magic in that? Continuing to ready one's self and surroundings after that would be pointless-like having been backstage during the breakdown of a magic show...lol, the real trick was in the disappearance of the entertainment value-after all, didn't you just witness in fluorescent detail exactly where the rabbit went and how it got there?!

My suggestion for the OP's "20%" (since they are apparently the ones veering off script by arriving at a time other than the one agreed upon) is to let the provider know ahead of time that it is their wont or habit to arrive early, so that each has the opportunity to discuss their expectations beforehand...such as the client being in a time crunch and unable to wait or the provider's scheduled time being the scheduled time expressly because she is unavailable beforehand.

....OKAY.

Maybe that was more a dollar than $.02, lol, but, hey,...guess that makes it a tip, doesn't it?

XO M
I am always early. Either in the hobby or in rw. I simply announce that I have arrived and let the lady decide when it is time for me to come up. Some say come on up they are ready. Others ask for a few min. I usually find a place to hold up that is near my final destination so I not some dude hanging out in a truck. It is simple communication. Not being pushy or trying to ad time. Just how I operate.
Everyone should realize the guy's time is just as valuable as the provider's time as well so showing up early shouldn't be a 'big deal' if the provider isn't like so many of the meatpackers these days with back to back not even taking care of their hygiene. I recently read on a social media post by a well known provider that her client's smelled downstairs. Trust me guys don't want DATY or DATO either after 5 others came through and you used a wet wipe.

If providers are really professional and handle their calendars like other professionals, then the 'early' arrival would not be an issue. My experience has been the providers who don't like early arrivals are either the ones who go back to back all day every day or the ones with pimps not in place.
Everyone should realize the guy's time is just as valuable as the provider's time as well so showing up early shouldn't be a 'big deal' if the provider isn't like so many of the meatpackers these days with back to back not even taking care of their hygiene. I recently read on a social media post by a well known provider that her client's smelled downstairs. Trust me guys don't want DATY or DATO either after 5 others came through and you used a wet wipe.

If providers are really professional and handle their calendars like other professionals, then the 'early' arrival would not be an issue. My experience has been the providers who don't like early arrivals are either the ones who go back to back all day every day or the ones with pimps not in place. Originally Posted by The Player
In my profession a 2:30 appt. means 2:30. A provider doesn't necessarily need to be over booking in order to need that free time in between.

Often she'll have extremely important RW business or family issues to attend to in between appts. and very limited time to get it done.
Perhaps she would like to be able to sit down and enjoy a much needed meal after a highly stressful day without worrying about someone knocking on the door to get their dick sucked early.

It seems basic common sense that waiting around to get fucked isn't the extent of a provider's life.

In my profession I leave a 15 minute buffer between clients to allow for bad traffic but if one shows up early they get to wait in the waiting room regardless of whether or not I'm available otherwise I'm training them to make a habit of devaluing my time.

I've learned in business that when you give an inch clients will ALWAYS expect a foot the next time around. It's human nature to push the boundaries so therefore it's up to every professional to take control of his or her valuable time by setting those boundaries.

Business is business and basic professional courtesy applies to all businesses.
SK,

Thank you for making life easier. There are so many nice providers in Austin. The list just got shorter.
SK,

Thank you for making life easier. There are so many nice providers in Austin. The list just got shorter. Originally Posted by TerraFirma
Do you realize the OP posted this thread almost three years ago?
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If providers are really professional and handle their calendars like other professionals, then the 'early' arrival would not be an issue. My experience has been the providers who don't like early arrivals are either the ones who go back to back all day every day or the ones with pimps not in place. Originally Posted by The Player

I have to disagree... When not traveling, I do not like seeing more than 2 gents a day, yet, because of my private life, I do not sit at my incall waiting for clients to arrive. If we have a date set for 3 pm and I am not at my incall, I will arrive around 2:45, quickly jump in the shower, refresh my make up, and ensure I am all set. If, by chance, I was already at my incall, I wait until about 15 min prior to appt to do the same, as I want to be perfectly ready.

If you arrive early, chances are you will have to wait for your appt time. If you tell me you are there early, I will do my best to get ready as quickly as I can.



Kindly,


Camille