so how would one handle a no connnection apt?

Hey, I'm sure you have noticed my lack of interest in your posts. I have to multitask to not call you out of your name, so it would seem I multitask just fine, no??..

Lack of connection does not mean lack of rise from the little soldier. Lack of connection could easily mean personality conflicts. It could mean he sought something more PSE and the provider was more GFE.

It could mean he hates star trek geeks or prefers a less chatty appointment. "a little less talk a lot more action." The lady might prefer the opposite. A little connection to amplify the results on both ends. There are extreme circumstances, where a particular fetish or fantasy is brought up that the lady cannot or will not be able to fallow through with.

I cannot continue a date where a man starts to speak of intimate acts with children. These statements have instantly made it impossible to connect and thus the date was terminated for both our benefits. If a lady can accept x amount of dollars to listen to a man discuss these depraved acts with children all power to her. She is most certainly not me. I would be far from able to purr and stroke hearing it. That is just me of course.


Yes the provider is "hired" to be at her best. To be the friend and lover. One man's friend and lover is another man's worst nightmare or boring date. Sometimes it is best to terminate the date in the favor of the gentleman.

Personally I am not a small donation. Why would I be so cruel as to force a man to spend half his paycheck on a date he realizes (or I realize) is going to go miserably. Yes, most can be caught long before that bedroom door closes but sadly not all. Of course speaking personally, I have never terminated a date once we have made it between the sheets. I would not make it to the sheets if I suspected I would be anything less than optimal for my gentleman caller.

Hey, I'm sure you have noticed my lack of interest in your posts. I have to multitask to not call you out of your name, so it would seem I multitask just fine, no??.. Originally Posted by Gemma34

LOL
I haven't noticed your lack of interest, no
I was making a joke since I read the sentence and initially seemed like you were texting and sucking, so I made a joke

It depends. There are varying layers of the complication. For instance if it is simply a personality conflict verses a physical connection. Or vice versa.

If I find the gentleman domineering, demanding or makes me feel uncomfortable on a personality level I tend to refund the full donation the moment I realize this. (usually this happens long before we slip between the sheets.) I politely state "I appreciate the invitation to meet you, However I do not feel we will enjoy our time as much as, I am sure, we both hoped." Based on his personality conflicts with mine I may make a few recommendations of other ladies he might like to see instead. I try to convey honestly, openly express my discomforts and try to avoid hurting his feelings. Just because he makes me uncomfortable does not mean he is a bad person.

If the conflicts extend to a more intimate level I try to guide or help him in that department. If he is resistant to learning my body and/or resistant to expressing what he would like, then I wait until after our date and should he attempt to reschedule a new date later, I politely decline again I will offer up some recommendations.

Neither of these happen often. More often I discover the lack of connection before we set the date. During our pre-communications and emails. I have had at most four dates last year that fell into the above two categories. I have had at least 15 that I caught before we set the date to meet.

I have never had a gentleman sever the appointment in person. hypothetically if this was to happen due to lack of connection I would react differently depending on how far into our date we had gotten and how he handled the situation. Best case scenario, I would return his full donation and offer my regrets. I may inquire about details, such as if it was something I had done or said. Worse case scenario is the client is simply attempting to "scam" me. Which does occur sadly. I would still likely return the full donation however I would also put something about him in the infoshare section. Originally Posted by JayceeRivers

Well thought out and written, as usual, you sexy thing.

I would agree with the above. You can tell a lot about a person through their correspondence. How they contact you, where they contact you, if they have visited your site, if they ask questions their are clearly answered online, etc. This doesn't mean that you have to be a certain kind of writer or a great writer....I would call it intuitive thinking, which is an art that Jaycee has perfected. The two of us would have never connected if it hadn't been for our writing.

If there is a disconnect while screening. I will decline the appointment. If you make me mad before I ever meet you, I will also decline the appointment, as should you.

If there is a chemistry problem, I will politely accept responsibility for the disconnect WHILE approaching the door... with phone in hand and emergency call ready... and invite you to leave, or vice versa.

If you schedule time with me and are not a gentleman or rude and inappropriate, or if there is a lack of hygiene etc. (any of the basics)..I will keep the donation and politely invite you to leave or vice versa. We both should know expectations. I keep my end of the deal and you keep yours. Fair and square. ( I love that word!)

If my safety is compromised or I am in danger I will call LE. Safety is my number one priority and I would not hesitate to call if I were in danger, nor should anyone else, client or provider. This is the "hobby....." it's not that deep or worth your life, whatever the consequences may be.

Now, if you are a perfect gentleman I will spoil and adore you and entice you into meeting with me over and over again. Years may pass, but you will never forget me.

Jaycee.....about that photo shoot!
Guys....about me and Jaycee!

I understand & appreciate the value & importance of a "connection." However, & I may be in the minority on this, but this hobby is about "services rendered?" With that perspective in mind, except in cases of duress, (hygiene, safety, re-negotiations, unrealistic expectations of services, etc) I feel whomever balks on completing the agreed upon encounter is responsible for making the other participant whole, as they were willing and able to fulfill the agreed upon arrangement. After "getting thru it," the absence of a connection issue can be handled by moving on to a different provider & the provider choosing not to visit that client in the future. As adults we can all discreetly move on from situations that weren't to our liking knowing we've learned from it. If I realized I was not into a provider, that's not her fault. It's my responsibility to, at a minimum, fulfill my part of the agreement in full & vice versa for her. This is just my opinion mind you. Enjoy all! :-)

Well thought out and written, as usual, you sexy thing.

I would agree with the above. You can tell a lot about a person through their correspondence. How they contact you, where they contact you, Originally Posted by Ari816

exactly
I used to tell girls that a lot when I got their email/text full of abbreviations/text talk.
I'd even ask them, "if you can't spend 3 seconds doing a good job communicating with me now, why do I think you'll do a good job with me at all?
A person can either do a good job or not do anything at all.
If they do a half-ass job, then they are judged on that.

I understand "no connections" with people make a job harder, but so what? You are getting paid to fall in love with astronaut mike dexter a few times a day/week, you are getting paid to make us happy.
US, not you,.
That's why it's called a job and not a vacation.

exactly
I used to tell girls that a lot when I got their email/text full of abbreviations/text talk.
I'd even ask them, "if you can't spend 3 seconds doing a good job communicating with me now, why do I think you'll do a good job with me at all?
A person can either do a good job or not do anything at all.
If they do a half-ass job, then they are judged on that.

I understand "no connections" with people make a job harder, but so what? You are getting paid to fall in love with astronaut mike dexter a few times a day/week, you are getting paid to make us happy.
US, not you,.
That's why it's called a job and not a vacation.
Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

Agreed, however, most of my clients enjoy making me happy too, a mutual pleasure. Perhaps just benefits of aiming to please.

bcpl, i surmise that the more selfish traits a person has they must look deeper to find any desire to please others.
it's the act of mutual pleasure that makes an engagement fulfilling.

bcpl, i surmise that the more selfish traits a person has they must look deeper to find any desire to please others. . Originally Posted by algrace

that's a lot of words, did you mean to string those together?

it's the act of mutual pleasure that makes an engagement fulfilling. Originally Posted by algrace

again, depends
sometimes I find it fun to talk to people I see at the supermarket or even when I come home, i enjoy talking to my neighbors..makes living near them more enjoyable, yes?
but other times I just want to buy stuff and leave or walk from my car to my home without talking to others.

I don't want to be unable to buy my groceries unless I connect with the cashier, etc.
there are lots of thread around here that talk about how providers arent your friends, you pay them for the illusion they give a shit about you, as a GF would, but you are paying for that.
so why do I want to pay then so I can please them?
Do I also want to bus my own table at a restaurant, you know, so I enjoy it more?

Agreed, however, most of my clients enjoy making me happy too, a mutual pleasure. Perhaps just benefits of aiming to please. Originally Posted by Ari816

thanks
I agree, I do things to make the interaction go well... using the analogy from the last post, I had plates to the server or take plates, etc
much in the same way if I am buying a lot of groceries, I dont stand and watch them bag, I'll bag also.
I'll help get the gal in the mood,etc. but I don't want a provider expecting me to do anything, so If Im having a bad day, the provider won't expect to get paid unless I am made happy.

...If Im having a bad day, the provider won't expect to get paid unless I am made happy. Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

provider rates are normally for time spent, so she's expecting payment regardless of your result.

is this another attempt of translation/application to RW or are you saying if you aren't enjoying your time that you'll end a session without consideration for a provider's time?

provider rates are normally for time spent, so she's expecting payment regardless of your result.

is this another attempt of translation/application to RW or are you saying if you aren't enjoying your time that you'll end a session without consideration for a provider's time? Originally Posted by algrace

whats rw?

I think he means "Real World." And this is the real world, otherwise I'm totally buggered! 0_0 To that point, my job makes me happy by paying me, I make them happy by doing the job I'm paid to do? Granted there is a little difference here in this hobby, but these base principles still apply first & foremost? We all have to do our part to ensure as best an experience as possible for all involved, but in the end it ultimately comes down to they are hired to do a job & we are expected to pay the price associated with the completion of said job. If either party is dissatisfied at the end, they have the ability to move elsewhere.(Again, with respect to extenuating circumstances mentioned before). Maybe I'm wrong or have an overly simplistic view on this issue?

I think he means "Real World." And this is the real world, otherwise I'm totally buggered! 0_0 To that point, my job makes me happy by paying me, I make them happy by doing the job I'm paid to do? Granted there is a little difference here in this hobby, but these base principles still apply first & foremost? We all have to do our part to ensure as best an experience as possible for all involved, but in the end it ultimately comes down to they are hired to do a job & we are expected to pay the price associated with the completion of said job. If either party is dissatisfied at the end, they have the ability to move elsewhere.(Again, with respect to extenuating circumstances mentioned before). Maybe I'm wrong or have an overly simplistic view on this issue? Originally Posted by Cleo

yes