Dude, unless you're undeniably handsome and have that old man charm, they don't want to spend any unnecessary time with you.
Originally Posted by Rambro Creed
That is not always the case. Regardless of what a guy thinks a provider is, she is still a human and can actually genuinely like to be with a guy. I am not a woman or a provider, but I would assume that she might only do this with one that she also trusts to keep his mouth shut about their time together when she is off work if he is/was also a client.
IMO the guy should also respect her lifestyle and not try to just get something for free, if anything happens beyond just being a friend let it be her that makes the first move. Sometimes they might just want a guy who is a friend to take them to dinner. Unless she tells the guy otherwise, if he makes the move for more, he should respect her work and do what any other client would do.
You can actually lose friends quickly if you take advantage of their jobs that they do. I work in the computer field and usually after making a friend if they start wanting me to work on their computer for free all the time, I start backing off and it usually ends in the loss of them as a friend. Heck, I even told my own family that if the only thing they are calling me for is they need computer help, to stop calling because at one point that was what ALL the phone calls were for, not just to talk.
If I have a friend that is a mechanic, I will always offer them money or a trade of inviting them for dinner or something else if they work on my car. They usually say they won't accept it but most of the time I make sure they take it anyway so that I am not taking advantage of them and that they don't think I am taking advantage of them. If my friend is NOT a mechanic and I ask him to help me work on my car, it is doubtful I would offer them money, depending on the situation but would still offer them free beer and/or possibly a BBQ.