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OP ask yourself are you keep her happy in bed ?

I would be happy with that. Originally Posted by JohnQ1769

+1

I've never understood friends who let their SOs dictate their relationships, espcially in the sex department. You call the shots brother. Man the fuck up.

Now excuse me, I need to finish the dishes... Originally Posted by CowboyDave

Lol. Agreed.

Ok. Now that I've finished the laundry and rubbed her feet, she's gone to bed. What did I miss?

we are all in the same boat. the last time I had sex with my SO was probably 4 years ago. Sex to her is when the amazon guy rings the doorbell.

Gotta disagree with all of this. I mean, not the part about getting out if it's not giving you what you need. But the rest of it. It's not an evil plot. It's laziness and complacency. She doesn't like sucking dick, so she doesn't. She only did it before because she wanted to impress you. There was no intentional deception. It's just normal complacency everyone of every gender feels in a well-established relationship. Originally Posted by dgc92

Ehhh. An "evil plot" is hyperbole, and we can agree to disagree. However, what you're saying doesn't seem that disparate from what I said. If what you say is true, and she sucked dick to "impress" in the beginning and now she is basically trying to ween him off of bj's b/c in reality she doesn't like it, then how is that not playing mind games and how is that not "intentional deception?" I mean the dude is on a hooker board trying to see if anyone can relate to his situation. It's definitely fucking w/ his head a bit. Lol.

As far as normal complacency "everyone" feels, speak for yourself man. I've never experienced it. Not b/c I'm Billy Badass, but b/c any sign of games like what the op mentioned and I'm out. No hard feelings, have a nice life. That simple. I would die alone before ending up stuck w/ a woman who rations out sexual favors to me.

What’s a significant other? Asking for a friend.

Thanks for the replies like I said before notlooking for relationship advice...I mean given the nature of what we do here on this site I don’t really think this is where I’d go for that but that being said I’m not unhappy and as far as I know neither is she, things just changed in the BJ department so I figured I throw this thought out and see what responses I get.

I’m sure there are plenty of ladies here willing to help me out in fulfilling what my S/O is doing for me.

Oh and to all the guys saying that she is trying to dominate the relationship.....I’m not worried about that because truth be told I have nothing to complain about at least nothing that doesn’t have a quick solution....like someone said before if she don’t someone will and as long as there are no strings attached I’m good with it. Love the ladies on this site and all this means is I have more reason to see them more often.

Thanks for the replies like I said before notlooking for relationship advice...I mean given the nature of what we do here on this site I don’t really think this is where I’d go for that but that being said I’m not unhappy and as far as I know neither is she, things just changed in the BJ department so I figured I throw this thought out and see what responses I get.

I’m sure there are plenty of ladies here willing to help me out in fulfilling what my S/O is doing for me.

Oh and to all the guys saying that she is trying to dominate the relationship.....I’m not worried about that because truth be told I have nothing to complain about at least nothing that doesn’t have a quick solution....like someone said before if she don’t someone will and as long as there are no strings attached I’m good with it. Love the ladies on this site and all this means is I have more reason to see them more often.

OP ask yourself are you keep her happy in bed ? Originally Posted by LustyBustyGina38FF

She is happy with me and everything I’m doing or she is a great liar. I love sex and love pleasing women but im a man what the hell do i know lol!!

Ehhh. An "evil plot" is hyperbole, and we can agree to disagree. However, what you're saying doesn't seem that disparate from what I said. If what you say is true, and she sucked dick to "impress" in the beginning and now she is basically trying to ween him off of bj's b/c in reality she doesn't like it, then how is that not playing mind games and how is that not "intentional deception?" I mean the dude is on a hooker board trying to see if anyone can relate to his situation. It's definitely fucking w/ his head a bit. Lol.

As far as normal complacency "everyone" feels, speak for yourself man. I've never experienced it. Not b/c I'm Billy Badass, but b/c any sign of games like what the op mentioned and I'm out. No hard feelings, have a nice life. That simple. I would die alone before ending up stuck w/ a woman who rations out sexual favors to me. Originally Posted by TheOracle

We all do things to impress people we're trying to fuck. Then, later, we stop trying to impress them and act like ourselves. It's not deception, exactly. We just want them to see us as the best possible version of ourselves. But we stop after a while, because being the best version of yourself is SUCH a pain in the balls. Being a shitty version of me is much easier, I've found.

As far as rationing out sexual favors, yeah, if you're her lapdog and she gives you treats, that's bad. But I don't think most women do that. Some women are manipulative cunts, and boy could we trade stories all day about that. Mostly, though, they're just humans living their lives, and less than 70% of their time is spent manipulating men into doing stuff.

The lack of SO's BJ's is why I'm here, LOL, soon the sex will be full stop also just saying

OP ask yourself are you keep her happy in bed ? Originally Posted by LustyBustyGina38FF

Good question

OP ask yourself are you keep her happy in bed ? Originally Posted by LustyBustyGina38FF

Is this a form of blaming the victim?

Is this a form of blaming the victim? Originally Posted by filbone

Looks that way.