I'll share my thoughts on the 2nd question you asked. I too was on Indys years ago. Since I don't know how to locate the females on this site, I've been totally reliant on Seeking arrangement to find someone to see.
I'm not a skip the games guy because I think it's where a high volume cheap rate woman will advertise and that's not what I'm looking for.
I have had success on Seeking and currently know of about 40 legit girls who are on there and who live within 100 miles of me, but nearly all of them are in their 20's.
You should give it a shot. Since it costs 110 dollars a month to join, it tends to weed out low budget guys.