I'm quitting the hobby for good.

kusmaldo's Avatar
I've made the decision to leave "the hobby".I have not hobbied since 2023 and I kind of no longer feel like it fits me in terms of lifestyle. I have met many interesting people while hobbying, but no matter how you feel about it being legalized or not there are some dark seedy negative aspects which have bolstered my decision to leave.A top reason is that a good number of providers I have met did not want to start "providing" on their own free will, a lot were coerced,forced or tricked into it by their boyfriends in order to support them or escape a desperate financial situation.One provider who I got close to cried in my arms that she was forced into it by an abusive boyfriend who gave her a black eye,I'm not saying all providers are in this situation but many I met were.Another reason is scams, in the age of deposits it opens up a way for providers who are dishonest crooks to steal, or lying about an emergency to get money because they are slow and not getting calls. One more reason is that I don't want to get caught in a Vice prostitution sting, the worst part is that you're ousted as being a "John" and your face and name are published for all to see. Last but not least many clients are married men 😕 I look at my own married future and wonder would I see a provider knowing I was hitched? Too all those still hobbying stay safe and uhhhhh wear protection.
CatMan4u's Avatar
I don't blame you one bit
Best of luck
DallasRain's Avatar
Best to ya babe
Cherokeechief's Avatar
Good luck to you.
I will be leaving this year myself.
kusmaldo's Avatar
Thanks The reason I'm also doing this a person or provider I know of was seduced by presumably a boyfriend to do Only fans porn.
kusmaldo's Avatar
Thanks, though I do regret we didn't get to meet ���� I'm still doing Sugar Daddy arrangements , just not hobbying
kusmaldo's Avatar
Good luck to you.
I will be leaving this year myself. Originally Posted by Cherokeechief
Hard to leave lol ,it takes lots of discipline
kusmaldo's Avatar
Best to ya babe Originally Posted by DallasRain
Hunny this provider who I had an arrangement with is doing some weird stuff *inbox* me, I'll explain it to you and perhaps you can give me some insight
It’s not fun anymore too expensive
I started sugaring in 2017 and left Eccie and the hobby for 2 years to just sugar as I saw it being a better option and now that sugaring has become a myriad of scammers, rinsers, online amateur escorts even that has gone really south to a hard degree. At least with escorts the drama is less ...but agree the deposit shit as well as I refuse to hire CBJ providers who watch the timer.

RocketSurgeon and I discuss this Sugaring thing quite a bit, and he has a lot of great insight to it as well.


Damn what I would give to move to like Vietnam, Thailand or the Philippines and find me some LBFM'S!
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It’s not fun anymore too expensive Originally Posted by Lubeman
Hate to agree with Lube but a lot of folks are dropping due to this and related issues similar to Big Deals comment. Seriously if it's not fun, what's the point.

And btw, a lot of the gals are gone also.
With the cost of escorts these days it makes much more sense now for those who can take the time and effort to check and explore in other countries. Many end up paying for a nice vacation and get rocks thoroughly drained for the same price as a few encounters here.
Thanks, though I do regret we didn't get to meet ���� I'm still doing Sugar Daddy arrangements , just not hobbying Originally Posted by kusmaldo
Why do you think the SBs aren’t in the same situation. Some of the providers I know personally started with the sugar sites and then switched to escorting to break the situation you are describing with the abusive boyfriends. I think you’re still in the same sandbox.
malwoody's Avatar
Once a SB takes coin for the deed, she is no longer a SB
kusmaldo's Avatar
Sugaring can be just as pricey, but there is no human trafficking or anything to worry about