Maybe if you weren't so negative the women you pay to fuck might genuinely care about what you want. Originally Posted by SillyGirlYou just validated my opinion. And I'm not being negative...just realistic.
5. That we don't honestly care about what clients want. I don't think you could do this for very long if you really hated it and them. Originally Posted by Giveumyhart
I have a problem with this contention. I think most ladies really care about what clients want...for an hour. After that, they could care less. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005
That's a contention I have a contention with, and I contend some of us have more retention of our attention and that this apprehension deserves suspension or at least dissension and better comprehension.OK, you just failed to respond in kind to my statement. My "dates" tend to be one time, one hour appointments. That's due to my age and the nature of my hobbying. And supported by some extant evidence (for instance, on P411, when asking for an OK, there's a place to "jog" the lady's memory, and the site says it needs that because the lady may not remember you).
Huh?
I believe many of us, especially the ladies who specialize, as I do, in longer sessions and actual companionship, do form friendships with our regular clients. I know that I keep in touch with several of mine in between visits by email and phone just to see how they're doing, and have even visited some in the hospital.
In a way, I believe the amount of "caring" may have to do with how the lady sees herself, as hooker, escort, companion, mistress (and no, not THAT kind), courtesan, and how the gentleman views her. He's really the one who sets the type of care and contact he wants before, during, and afterward.
Originally Posted by Fancyinheels
OK, you just failed to respond in kind to my statement. My "dates" tend to be one time, one hour appointments. That's due to my age and the nature of my hobbying. And supported by some extant evidence (for instance, on P411, when asking for an OK, there's a place to "jog" the lady's memory, and the site says it needs that because the lady may not remember you).I failed to respond in kind? No, I answered exactly right, at least in my last sentence, "... He's really the one who sets the type of care and contact he wants before, during, and afterward." You, as the gentleman client, prefer "one, single hour of fantasy," and you get that because it's what you want, 60 minutes of attention to your desires, no more, no less. I just took issue with the blanket statement you made that most ladies could NOT care less afterward, because it implies (IMHO) that most of us think ONLY about money and toss our pretty mask into the fire when nobody's around to reveal the greedy Scrooge McHo beneath, and that isn't representable of the ladies I know. While making a living, they want to enjoy it, too, are caring human beings, and spend a lot of time thinking about how they can improve and make things better for their clientele, just like professionals in other fields. Then again, how would I know if they keep their masks on all the time?
OTOH, you describe the exact opposite of the dates I have. You talk about longer dates and regulars. I don't have either. It's a financial mistake for me to do anything longer than an hour (90 minutes, if the deal is good). I don't get discounts (unless offered to all) because I don't have regulars. And I only do outcalls, so often times I pay an outcall upcharge to see someone.
It may not be true with the type of dates you have, but for me there's one, single hour of fantasy with each lady. My POV is that each lady MAY care about what I want, but only for that hour of fantasy. And as she counts the donation while leaving the session, the "caring" evaporates in a puff of smoke. The time frame for such caring is only one hour, and I'm not disillusioned about it. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005
because it implies (IMHO) that most of us think ONLY about money and toss our pretty mask into the fire when nobody's around to reveal the greedy Scrooge McHo beneath, and that isn't representable of the ladies I know. Originally Posted by FancyinheelsThis is a pretty insightful observation IMHO. Most of us who work are invested in our jobs. After all, we spend a lot of waking hours at work. There are things that happen at work that make us more invested. My pet project. My policy change. Things I think will better the work place.
Providers are WOMEN FIRST... Never forget that... Originally Posted by Giles117Giles,....your last sentence sums it all up. I find myself feeling a little offended by comments made by some hobbyists. For example:
Questions that should not be asked are: Are you married or do you have children? We ladies are entitled to some privacy and respect. Originally Posted by mikkifineI always allowed the woman to lead the conversation. Why be nosy. Might make her uncomfortable and ruin the time you have together... This isn't a Date where you are seeking a prospective mate. This is a fantasy play time for both... Enjoy it...
Tired old misconceptions? So many of them. We're all molested, abused, drug-addled, hate men, hate sex, have low-self esteem, have pimps, we can't possibly be intelligent businesswomen with goals or actually love what we do. Originally Posted by alluringava