What if you found out your daughter was a provider?

I would worry about her safety, and try to get her to change professions. Not on moral grounds, but because of the safety, and legal issues. She's hard headed (like me) so that would probably be fruitless.

Does this make me a hypocrite? No, just a dad.

My main issue would be whether she is an truly an ELITE PROVIDER in every possible way. No second best will do and I would help her get to that level. Originally Posted by whitechocolate

I believe ya. I've heard from a young provider that about 90% of girls between 20 and 25 from Houston to Dallas are all Escorts and their Daddys are all Whore Mongers.

I had a client and when I asked him " What if you found out if your daughter was an escort?" You know what he said ? " She caused me so much grief over the years I wouldn't be surprised. At least she found a way to make a living and not mooch off of me."

Yep

I had a client and when I asked him " What if you found out if your daughter was an escort?" You know what he said ? " She caused me so much grief over the years I wouldn't be surprised. At least she found a way to make a living and not mooch off of me." Originally Posted by alluringava

Thats a real fuckin prick for ya. He probably caused her and her mom more grief.

My initial reaction would be all that you named above. My family is SUPER religious, so I would probably have the same heart attack they'd have if they found out about me, lol. Of course I'd be concerned for their safety, but I don't think that I would be able to call the kettle black and discourage them from what they're doing. If I found that they were doing things in an unsafe or detrimental manner, it would be worth it for me to come out of the closet to them and help them approach things in a safer/more business savvy way. If they're doing fine on their own, no need for me to ruffle any feathers.

Now, you titled the thread "What if you found out your daughter was a provider?". None of my answer applies to this question. I'm being completely honest when I say that I have no freaking clue what I would do if it were one of my daughters. There is absolutely NOTHING I can say to make my own mother be "content" with my current lifestyle choice, and she loves and supports me in EVERYTHING I do. I could approach it in a liberal sense and try and predict whatever I wanted to. But, realistically, I'd probably go bat shit crazy.

Originally Posted by Lovelyelle_01

You and I have a similar family background, with our uberreligious parents, but both my parents know. The funny thing is, my dad said he would rather see me do this rather than be a fool for some nobody. But my dad has always been liberal sexually (having been in a polyamorous relationship with a lesbian couple, among other juicy tidbits, that man has truly lived!), plus he'll love me regardless. My mother still struggles, but things are getting better. She, in all her Christly Christianess hasn't always reciprocated my love and care for her because of it. Regardless of the INNUMEROUS times I've told her this, she says GOD told her she wasn't treating me right, so she's trying. I'll take what I can get.

Dont care about rest of family. Know for fact daughter isnt. She has full scholarship. No bad habits. No need for money since she comes from family with $...

Now... if my mother was... well... LOL just proves men like gumjobs!! LOL I would high five her! Originally Posted by LusciousLacy

My daughter's college/trust fund will most definitely be ready when she is to go to school, and whatever else she decides to do, so I don't anticipate her doing this for a need of money either, Lacy. I really did want her to have a good start in life without the need for men and their money. If she ever gets a SD or ends up attracting wealthy suitors, it would be because she would be classy, cultured and well spoken, like her mother taught her to be.

If she does end up in this industry, I would hope that she could tell me, and I would MOST DEFINITELY have the open mind my mother didn't have with me. Of course it would hurt. But as an adult, it's her right to explore all paths set before her, and it's my job to love her unconditionally regardless of what she chooses.

My mom? That's a no. But I could definitely see my 80 year old granny having a sordid past. She's just a little too fiery for her age, and even more so since she got her knees replaced. She's often said that she had to get them replaced for being on them too much, and we had to guess what she was doing.

Is there a discount for keeping it all in the family?!! Originally Posted by shorty

I have answered this question before and my answer has not changed. I have a great daughter and we talk daily at least about 5 times a day. I know when she gets home from work and when she goes to work. If she choose to do this I would not be surprised because we have an open relationship. She knows this is a job to me and many of my clients all will hear me say that I just got off the phone with her. I know she is bright and I know she will do a great job at whatever she does in life. If she did this it would be her choice and I would support her and pray she is safe and careful just like I do now. I know several people that tell me if they could do this they would. I dont hide the bad of this and I dont make it like all roses with no thorns. It easy to judge anyone no matter what they do but it is harder to try and understand.

Or if you discovered another female relative was, your niece, cousin, mother, or even grandmother? What would your reaction be? Shock? Surprise? Concern for their safety? Would you discourage her from doing what she was doing? Originally Posted by alluringava

I would not be shocked. Surprised maybe. I would most likely not interfere, except I was asked directly for an opinion by her. Safety would be a concern, of course. But in my family people are tough and generally speaking not dumb, so I`d probably thought they were capable of knowing what and how to approach certain things.

Besides, given the amount of providers these days, I`d be rather surprised if you have a bigger family and there is NO provider amongst it (haha)

What if you found out she was your daughter, sister, mother, after
you had already seen her as a provider?

Sorry just trying to one up Shorty.

You know what the Bible says about Fucking your Sister, DON"T!!!
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I seen a movie on lifetime channel last year. The guy ended up seeing his step daughter. It was a good movie. There are so many things could happen in this really small world. Hugs and Kisses.

I seen a movie on lifetime channel last year. The guy ended up seeing his step daughter. It was a good movie. There are so many things could happen in this really small world. Hugs and Kisses. Originally Posted by Truly Passion*

What was the movie?

I dont know but I will try to find the name of it.

I dont know but I will try to find the name of it. Originally Posted by Truly Passion*

Cool, TP. When you find out inbox me I love movies and books about our profession LOLOL

Or if you discovered another female relative was, your niece, cousin, mother, or even grandmother? What would your reaction be? Shock? Surprise? Concern for their safety? Would you discourage her from doing what she was doing? Originally Posted by alluringava

Unlike on this lovely fantasy world that is ECCIE.com which is full of high dollar, classy, well traveled, sophisticated courtesans..........that is not the reality in the real world South of the Mason Dixon Line.
My kin that have "provided" were not on the internet, they were walking the streets hoe'ing for crack.....and I will still welcome them in my home, after I hide my purse.