Married and not really getting any. However main problem is, over the years I have had to “release” myself and after 10 years of death gripping I really do have a hard time getting it up. Once I do and apply the cover I normally lose altitude. I know the cover is required in the hobby for the most part. After some frustration, I did the sb thing for a while. That was a wonderful experience but eventually when both parties get comfortable with each other their asses really begin to show and not in a good way. I have had 4 sb and all of them lasting several months. The last one really almost outed me. I had been supporting her by paying rent, car, and some extravagant shopping/trips to places with me and then she became a little entitled. When it was time to pull the plug it got ugly. My main problem is, I am a pleaser. It gets me going when I see how happy and excited I make a woman feel. But I will not stand to be taken advantage of. I am currently married and soon to start the process of divorce. I gotta work on myself. One thing I have really learned here is the good providers do really try to make it about me and my pleasure. And that really helps me feel that I need to take care of my needs and wants.
wifey doesn't like DATY (I know right?!) And DATY is kinda my thing (I don't even want to know what kind of Freudian issues lie behind this). Also the variety/strange factor is probably tied right up there with the DATY.
I also enjoy the real but no strings attached connection i feel---believe it's hard to fake sincerity, although sure there are lots of good actors/actresses out there