Ok Maybe "sad" was wrong choice of word.
You are taking things way too seriously. How am I being hypocritical? Because I said she should keep all of her money? I'm just saying what I would do. I have worked for an agency.. you haven't. I know what it's like to deposit almost 10k a week into the agency account.. you don't. Why give someone else all that money? That is what I meant.. However you're right maybe that's exactly what she wants. Everyone's lifestyle is different and of course I understand that. I don't care how a lady chooses to run her business. That is her business. However, If a girlfriend of mine wanted to work with an agency this is exactly what I'd tell her.
Originally Posted by Naomi4u
This is, albeit indirectly stated, the problem with employeeism generally. I am not going to hire someone to perform a task unless I make at least as much from their efforts as I pay them; and ideally many times what I pay them. Employeeism is, in essence, a mindset in which one dedicates his/her life to deriving a pittance in exchange for making someone else rich.
The core issue with employeeism is that the typical employee either can't or won't imagine a scenario in which he owns the means of production; or has followed a narrow path of skills such that the means of production can only be provided by a relatively wealthy entity and is beyond practical reach.
As an escort, you own your own means of production -- yourself and all that entails you. As such, it isn't cost-prohibitive to be the owner rather than the employee.
But it takes a lot to be the owner. To be the person who shoulders responsibility, makes all the critical decisions, etc. Some people make very good owners of their own enterprise. Others find that the responsibility chaffes, or their decisions are not so good.
For these latter folks, to them it is more beneficial to be an employee and only be entitled to 1/2, 1/3rd or even less of the value of their production because left to their own devices, they might make even less.
To put it in escorting terms, if a lady is bad at marketing but an agency is good at marketing; collecting $100 from each of 7 appointments will come more closely to paying the rent than collecting $300 from 1 appointment. So she is better off as an employee in terms of paying her rent.
Sometimes, when a person is very capable, they look at others and say "Well, if I can do X, then so can anyone else."
Unfortunately, that isn't always true. Every person has different degrees of intrinsic capacity in a variety of realms, a different arena of interests, and different personality traits in terms of risk tolerance and other traits important to being the owner.
In addition, some people who certainly have the intrinsic capacities to be an owner have those capacities submerged by antithetical beliefs and values. They question themselves, doubt their abilities, and feel more secure with someone else in charge.
It is this latter case in which I can understand your statement. We all project ourselves to an extent in our attempt to understand others. You, being very capable, know that if you were in that other lady's shoes; you'd stop being an employee and become an owner forthwith.
Where such a thing is sad is when the only real barrier to someone doing that is not in their abilities, but in lack of self confidence or the like.
But on the other hand, there do exist escorts who can't properly screen for their own safety, can't market worth a darn, etc. but can perform like champs. Being an owner-operator as a successful independent escort, as you know, requires MANY skills in many realms. And some escorts may have plenty of skills for the core competency, but lack the skills (and lack the desire to acquire them) for the other skills necessary as an owner to stay safe and keep business flowing.
For them, to be employees is not sad -- it is a boon; because as employees with the support of an employer they are more secure in their capacity to make the rent.
Personally, I don't deal with agencies and never have. For some reason the whole idea gives me the creeps. So I only deal with owners.
But my own prejudices in that regard notwithstanding, I can understand why for some proportion of escorts, working for an agency wouldn't be sad; whereas for others it would.