So, you don't like being called, honey.
Originally Posted by chelseabean
I didn't say that. I have no problem with it. In some contexts it's even endearing. But addressing someone you don't personally know during a serious conversation in a diminutive manner is a rhetorical sleight that signals contempt, much as if I called
you honey or babe. I hung a lampshade on it so you would know it neither went unnoticed nor had any effect in strengthening your argument. Frankly, it's beneath you.
do you realize that whispers does that all the time.
Originally Posted by chelseabean
Fascinatingly, I'm not Whispers.
And that sometimes the word 'girl" is used EXACTLY in that same way., that we get that shit ALL the tiime. All the fucking time, here.
Originally Posted by chelseabean
You get it everywhere; I'm neither deaf nor blind nor oblivious. You never get it from me. I choose to lead by example. Occasionally in face-to-face conversation where body language and context can telegraph my intent, I will use the plural
girls as a feminine form of guys, mostly with people with whom I'm on familiar enough terms that I can be reasonably certain they won't interpret it as an infantalizing insult.
So, you only have a problem with until it's done t
to you.
Originally Posted by chelseabean
I assume you meant to say
when it's done to me, but your typo is accidentally correct. I don't have a problem with it being done to me. Letting people goad one's self into taking umbrage at rhetorical sleights unnecessarily gives them power, so I choose not to. Nonetheless, I will not return that cheap disrespect. When I have occasion to show someone disrespect, it's usually accomplished best by ignoring them. You may have noticed that I've not made many comments regarding the EFN theme park into which co-ed has lately devolved.
None of which alters that lack of merit in the tone-deaf word substitution you proposed.