First, thank you everyone for the compliments to my post. And you are completely right Atlcomedy. It does take work. Effort must be made. Sugar daddies don't simply show up at your door simply because you desire one. After you have potential interest you simply cannot sit back and expect to instantly be pampered. It takes getting to know your partner. Fulfilling each others needs and desires. Putting in that extra time and thought so he feels and knows he is special. Which brings me to belle's question.
hey so on a serious note......I've been reading this thread(minus the bullshit) and am curious if any providers have had successful sd/sb relations with a client they met on Eccie? If so, how did you handle seeing other clients, while still tending to your SD. Did it end badly? What arrangement did you have? I am still planning to continue in the hobby but want to be able to give proper attention to my SD.
On the other hand, if there are any sugar daddies reading this....feel free to extend helpful experiences.
Originally Posted by belleAmore
I have had at least 3 from eccie. All three were lurkers one eventually became a moderate poster. Two ended well and one did not end at all. I was upfront and honest with them. That was the most important part. Lying no matter how small or insignificant to you, can be a big thing for your SD. It destroys trust. So even if it was embarrassing or uncomfortable I made sure to be honest. If it came upon a subject I did not wish to discuss I simply stated I didn't feel comfortable discussing it. So honesty. For all three of them we sat down and discussed what they wanted and needed from me first and foremost. Did they want me to spend the whole weekend with them? One day a week? Trips? traveling? Did they want to go out or stay in more often? What did they want to get out of this? Once I knew what they wanted from me I could use intuition to see what they needed from me. The more I got to know them the more I could preemptively fill their unspoken needs. My current arrangement he only wants a single day a week that is all his. With the occasional overnight. With this in mind I make sure to schedule a day every week in advance around his schedule. Even if he has to cancel it is his day. I refuse to make plans on that day. Very similar with the previous two. One particular arrangement I had did not like the idea of me being with someone the night before I was with him. In that case I took two days out of my schedule. Basically it comes down to communication and honesty. Most arrangements can end well if you remember that they are human beings an people. Cutting off contact when it's over is cruel and reinforces the idea you only liked them for the money. Be understanding if and when it ends and often you can remain friends after.
Another thing I did/do is when I have an arrangement that desires more of my time or wishes to share me less, I raise my donation. This culls out sifting through masses of interest, meets my financial needs and I see far fewer clients without having to ask my SD for further financial assistance than he is comfortable with.
On a completely unrelated note: Belle if I was independently wealthy I would most certainly volunteer to be your sugar momma.