Wow, just getting to this. I hate when I come in at the end (hopefully) of a good thread. I have agreed thoroughly with London and Naomi, as meeting a guy off the clock is a prerogative, not a requirement. I do have a few friends that I love spending time with, and if they want a friend to enjoy a movie with or don't want to dine alone, I oblige when I have the time.wonderful post!!
As a lady, I have to admit, I find it funny how some gents are using a lady's willingness to meet off the clock to make us feel like what we already are. I thought this was a civvie world tactic. Like they use it as a marker to determine if we're really worth the money. "Yeah, I just paid you for sex, but if you don't accept my invitation to go out to dinner with me you're a REAL whore!" London made a really good point when she said that no one asks their dentist if he likes digging around in mouths all day, or if he's in it for the money. And they charge you for everything. He doesn't 'comp' a procedure or take you out to eat, even when you've had so many procedures done, or if you refer your whole family to him. But their job doesn't require touching people in such sensitive spots either.
Mr. CT, I think we need to take up a fund to send you to therapy. You don't just have a low opinion of women in the industry, you have a low opinion of women period. And an even worse view of yourself. What I feel is that you cut your nose to spite your face, and blame women for not loving you for who you are. But I'm not saying you're all wrong. All women are whores in some context. If you took money out of the equation with a lot of relationships, you'd have a swarm of divorces and breakups. Then there are some who make their money on their backs, and take care of men who don't have jobs, just to prove to them (and themselves) that they're not all about the money, and are in some capacity capable of love. But you aren't lucky enough to be that guy. I understand, and I know there is nothing anyone can say to change how you feel. But it's no accident you're here. Here come the hugs from the whore!
This industry is a mirror of real life. I think men ask for time off the clock because they need to have a reason not to feel like Charles. This is where the humanity in our job becomes apparent. When you see something good in a person, you want to believe that is real despite the fantasy. And to surround yourself with like-minded people whose character you admire is very human. I feel for any man who hasn't met a woman that injects a bit of herself, or one who can be her good self despite the pay for play situation. I feel for a woman who feels like in order to survive this industry she has to be someone else completely. This is why balance is so important. Originally Posted by Tiffani Jameson