Why some married men cheat?

Have you told your wife that?

... we went from almost every night to nothing in weeks ... Originally Posted by CetiAlpha6

Maybe she found a better lay?

Most people in general cheat get over it

I was faithful for 23 years.

My wife went though menopause and we went from almost every night to nothing in weeks.

I asked her her to talk to her doctor but she became a different person and didn't want to (believe me...she did before).

If she ever wants sex again, Ill stop seeing providers. Originally Posted by CetiAlpha6

Have you told your wife that? Originally Posted by Wakeup

Of course he told her. Right before breakfast.

Believe it or not, in a traditional marriage, telling her might not be the wisest course of action. As silly as it seems, even if she isn't fucking at all, she'll still be shocked that hubby cheated. As he said, she changed. So now, because of HER change in attitude, he is supposed to leave, start over after 23 years, lose half of his shit, not see the kids as much, and start dating again in middle age just because SHE doesn't want to fuck. OK, keep living in Fantasyland, Wakeup.

Here's an example from when I was in the Navy. Different scenario, but the guy cheated. He went to Honolulu and ended up fucking a hot tourist. Well, he felt totally guilty and his wife was due to show up in Hawaii the following week. He insisted that he needed to tell her. He had a kid with her also. I asked him, " What possible good would come from you telling her? Do you think she'll thank you for your honesty? If you were honest, you wouldn't have done it to begin with. All you will do is hurt her. You'll lose her and your family over something she would never even know about unless you tell her." I told him to let the guilt be your punishment.

OF COURSE, the idiot told her. She was out of there and they got divorced and the guy was a total wreck. He then told me that he should have listened to me. No shit. I live in the real world, not Wakeup's dream land.

Oh, by the way, I'm not talking about if the wife was in a horrible accident or had a disease or something that makes her UNABLE to have sex. That's different to me than her just deciding not to. Of course, I'm sure Wakeup sees no difference. Easy to pass judgment and cast stones when you can fuck whoever you want apparently and have a wife that fucks tons of strangers as well as her hubby.

And then there are the cases where the wife has had so many abdominal surgeries ( 7 and counting) that sex is a risk for her. Sex is, or should be, about pleasure. Both factors drive some people.

If both parties wanted to actually "loved" each other, and wanted to remain married, then she would realize that she is doing something that makes him extremely unhappy, and she'd either start having sex again, or give him permission to see other women. He would have had this discussion before he started cheating. Now the discussion becomes much harder to have.mhis fault for that, of course.

The problem being that none of you guys actually love your wives...you love them when it's convenient for you...the rest of the time, you're selfish douchebags...

Trust me, a wife knows that her husband is cheating. Don't be surprised if she is face down ass up with some other dude

And I have just as much of a problem with her doing it as I do with him doing it.

When I got married we had sex all the time. Now we're older with kids and life and she is in the mood maybe a couple times a month and oral doesn't exist at all. I'm actually finding I'm less interested in FS these days. I'm more into the erotic massage culminating in oral festivities.

Is this really cheating? I suppose in some sense, but cheating to me is if you had a mistress on the side, or an emotional relationship with another woman that may threaten your marriage and possibly break it up. Men need variety and do tend to stray. Courtesans (I really prefer that term) have always and continue to provide an essential service; that is to offer a sexual outlet that does not threaten the family structure. This is understood throughout most of the world, and has been understood through most of history.
I met a young woman, a courtesan, in the Netherlands, and after having sex we spent the rest of our time talking. She explained to me that she mostly saw married men but believed that the "therapy" that she provided preserved far more marriages than it damaged, and the latter likely were not destined to last anyway. "When you visit me you do not have to bring me your heart, just your cock," she said.

I got married and "gave up all others". When she decided to give up sex, she broke the rules, letting me out of my promise.

Or so it seems to me.

If she's cheating - then she's being stupid. If I could get it at home, I'd get it and live w/ it. But I can't. She can.

I doubt she's cheating. But if she is, I dunno - so what do I care.

Oh, by the way, I'm not talking about if the wife was in a horrible accident or had a disease or something that makes her UNABLE to have sex. That's different to me than her just deciding not to. Of course, I'm sure Wakeup sees no difference. Easy to pass judgment and cast stones when you can fuck whoever you want apparently and have a wife that fucks tons of strangers as well as her hubby. Originally Posted by albundy

He has not apparently thought of a sufficient reply to the fact that his wife has sex with married men all the time but he offers no moral instruction for her to stop participating in such whorrendous activity.

He has not apparently thought of a sufficient reply to the fact that his wife has sex with married men all the time but he offers no moral instruction for her to stop participating in such whorrendous activity. Originally Posted by DSK

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Here, Here! Couldn't agree more. He pulls bullshit like that all of the time. Just ignores or skips over comments he has no good answer for or that exposes his hypocrisy.

I bring that up a lot to Wakeup. He's adamantly against cheating and yet his old lady guzzles married guy's cum for a living. Maybe that's why he hates it so much? Him knowing that he is in fact a Cuckold is probably not easy for him.

The guy in this clip emptying his balls into your old lady's ass. Was he married, Wakeup? I'm sure a lot of the guys using your Honey for a cum dumpster were indeed married.

http://www.xvideos.com/video12286587..._ex-novia_anal

If both parties wanted to actually "loved" each other, and wanted to remain married, then she would realize that she is doing something that makes him extremely unhappy, and she'd either start having sex again, or give him permission to see other women. He would have had this discussion before he started cheating. Now the discussion becomes much harder to have.mhis fault for that, of course.

The problem being that none of you guys actually love your wives...you love them when it's convenient for you...the rest of the time, you're selfish douchebags... Originally Posted by Wakeup

Did you ever actually have a "normal" relationship, Wakeup? I mean, one where one or the other is not a prostitute or something like that? You have a VERY naïve view of marriage. I would assume that you have no first hand knowledge at all of a "traditional" marriage from the idiocy of your comments.

Also, you said "She would realize.." BWAHAHAAAAAAAAAA!!! Anything that comes after that statement is pure fantasy, man. Like a wife thinks that rationally about emotions. Really? You think she'll wake up one day and say " Gee, my hubby is not happy. What can I do to change that?" Anything and EVERYTHING is hubby's fault, no matter how much it might actually be her fault. Don't you know that? Or are you actually a woman? Do you live in the real world at all?