When the hobby becomes more than "The Hobby"

I see all your points, and they are all valid. TRUST me when I say this is far from the case. I actually haven't had much time the last few months TO hobby, so my chances of falling into this category are slim to none. I just brought the situation up due to recently attending a friends funeral, and just so happen to see one of my friends there with a pretty lady that used to be a FBSM gal and dabbled in providing for a bit. But they seemed happy, and I didn't press the issue of the how, what,when, why, or bring up her past. I never saw her when she was doing her thing, I just recognized her from the board, but kept mum of the situation and her past.

To Eva's point - OP I don't know what you are into with providers.

In my case, I see only GFE providers and some are really good..and I mean REALLLLYY good at providing not just the GFE physically but also mentally. I mean - hey, it's why I am there.

But always keep in mind - I will say it again - ALWAYS remember it's about the money and the experience. This is not Pretty Woman..this is a business for providers.

If you're a romantic type of dude - it could be easy to star thinking with your little head that 'mayyybee' there is a chance she really does "like" me...FORGET IT. Go back to the civilian world....if you want that.

Of course then your headed for a whole new realm of b.s...but that's another thread. Originally Posted by SNL9933

There is nothing wrong with falling in love (or the illusion thereof) or even getting married within the hour. By all means, if you pay for it, live out your fantasies until your time is up.

Agreeing with Eva's post above, for most providers (if not all), love and sex ended up getting separated for whatever reason and a sore throat/sore pussy started to come along with a price tag.

Then again, nothing compares to the price of falling in love and getting married.

It's much more expensive if you'd like to go that route.

Little Pickle, maybe your friend met her outside of the hobby, which is something totally different. Providers have a right to move on with there lives. As for your original question, I did that , done that, it was unplanned, and it was a hell of a lot more expensive.

Little Pickle, maybe your friend met her outside of the hobby, which is something totally different. Providers have a right to move on with there lives. As for your original question, I did that , done that, it was unplanned, and it was a hell of a lot more expensive. Originally Posted by Golden Man

That was my thought also. Not like I'm going to incriminate myself for being in the hobby, AND insult my friends GF at the same time.

Run, Forest, run! Originally Posted by selot

1000%

My dog sometimes farts so loud that she literally scares herself.

She may not think it's funny, but I laugh every damn time.

Hard to know what to say without some details. Your friend's situation at the funeral may have made you think. But about what? How they met? Interesting speculation, but does it really effect you? Or did it make you think that perhaps the hobby was hindering you from making a real effort to connect with someone in a permanent relationship, and therefore, when you're the corpse, you'll have died alone? Also interesting, but requires an entire different examination and conversation.

I have the dog to guard my back and because she is faithful. I hobby to boost my ego and relieve tension. I have no illusion that the women I meet are not in it for the money. I am no Adonis nor am I a John Holmes. I can think of six or seven women that I have fun with both in bed and out in public. I am a party animal that some where a long the line pissed off THN so I am not on the Dallas list. Fuck I'm I am doing just fine. Austin tomorrow and Killeen Thu. Taking panties and tagging asses.

:-( I had to cut ties with a regular client that I was seeing for a year. He developed a strong feeling towards me and had gotten more and more emotionally involved with me. Became clingy, wanted more and more time with me without giving me extra $. When I confronted him that what he gave me was 'short'. He tried to make me feel bad that all I care about was money. (???). I told him it's unfair to expect me to spend so much time with a married man. What for? What's in it for me? I can't date him, I can't marry him (not that I want to do all this even if he was single). But he took time away from me, my family, my real life…for what?
I told him I cannot give him what he was looking for and we went our separate ways.

There is nothing wrong with falling in love (or the illusion thereof) or even getting married within the hour. By all means, if you pay for it, live out your fantasies until your time is up.

Agreeing with Eva's post above, for most providers (if not all), love and sex ended up getting separated for whatever reason and a sore throat/sore pussy started to come along with a price tag.

Then again, nothing compares to the price of falling in love and getting married.

It's much more expensive if you'd like to go that route. Originally Posted by BrownSugarBaby

+1...you got that right...

:-( I had to cut ties with a regular client that I was seeing for a year. He developed a strong feeling towards me and had gotten more and more emotionally involved with me. Became clingy, wanted more and more time with me without giving me extra $. When I confronted him that what he gave me was 'short'. He tried to make me feel bad that all I care about was money. (???). I told him it's unfair to expect me to spend so much time with a married man. What for? What's in it for me? I can't date him, I can't marry him (not that I want to do all this even if he was single). But he took time away from me, my family, my real life…for what?
I told him I cannot give him what he was looking for and we went our separate ways. Originally Posted by samantha thom

You make a very good point...that was a roll reversal - him trying to make you feel guilty is what I got the feeling after reading that..

He was probably just a lonely guy ...kinda sad.

I am a party animal that some where a long the line pissed off THN so I am not on the Dallas list. Originally Posted by tucson

Exactly how did I cause you to be "not on the Dallas list"???

Glad you are checking. You probably don't remember when you kicked me off of your site. But you made sure to post a PM I sent you on ECCIE.

That ^^^^ is what got you "not on the Dallas list"???

WTF is ^^^^?