The elusive "E" in GFE

When you think about it, GFE is something that a lady IS...NOT something she DOES. Its all in the attitude.

If she just goes through he motions of the various GFE activities without any passion or commitment to the level of service, then its not a GFE(xperience). Originally Posted by Chica Chaser

There it is...the real definition of GFE.
It's not a list of acronyms, it's an attitude.

A provider can BBBJ and not be GFE. I know a provider who is constantly labeled GFE but is 100% covered.

SKF...I for one appreciate your input. I think it's very cool when a hobbyist truly appreciates when a provider goes that extra mile. For him...it was whatever it was...to another hobbyist it's something else.

Think about how many hobbyists only want to complain these days..to me, t's very refreshing to hear a nice compliment.

Damn Babee!....where were you a few years ago when Nashville and Memphis were regular travel areas for me?

There it is...the real definition of GFE.
It's not a list of acronyms, it's an attitude.

A provider can BBBJ and not be GFE. I know a provider who is constantly labeled GFE but is 100% covered. Originally Posted by babee

When you think about it, GFE is something that a lady IS...NOT something she DOES. Its all in the attitude. Originally Posted by Chica Chaser

Well, I've never had a girlfriend who didn't do ALL of the acronyms generally associated with a GFE, so for me, a GFE visit would not be possible unless they are all present, including...

If she just goes through he motions of the various GFE activities without any passion or commitment to the level of service, then its not a GFE(xperience).

One of the requirements usually associated with a GFE is the illusion of passion, so you are right about that part of it, even though that is not enough by itself.

Posted by babee:
A provider can BBBJ and not be GFE. I know a provider who is constantly labeled GFE but is 100% covered.

I disagree for the reason stated above. No girlfriend I've ever had ever even considered a CBJ.

When you think about it, GFE is something that a lady IS...NOT something she DOES. Its all in the attitude.

If she just goes through he motions of the various GFE activities without any passion or commitment to the level of service, then its not a GFE(xperience). Originally Posted by Chica Chaser

I completely agree with Chica Chaser and the others. I personally love the "personal connection" made with each person...building a rapport and then building on that. That "personal touch" is important. I really enjoy the BCD () but something more is said when the bcd ends and you're laying there with that person and they hold you in their arms or you lay head on their chest and they talk to you and caress you like you were old flames reconnecting.....

Love those experiences and being a part of them.


And @ Chica Chaser.....

Ashley, I remember having this very conversation with you one snowy night not too long ago, we're gonna have to have it again...soon!

I completely agree with Chica Chaser and the others. I personally love the "personal connection" made with each person...building a rapport and then building on that. That "personal touch" is important. I really enjoy the BCD () but something more is said when the bcd ends and you're laying there with that person and they hold you in their arms or you lay head on their chest and they talk to you and caress you like you were old flames reconnecting.....

Love those experiences and being a part of them.


And @ Chica Chaser..... Originally Posted by AshleyAshton

The E in GFE, First off any GFE date must include, DFK,BBBJ,DATY, etc... Its a combination of who she is and what she does. To the point it's the connection, the spark you share leading up to BCD, and then again in the glow,afterwards.

WM, no offense meant, but I don't find anything wrong with posting the same thing on several boards.... Originally Posted by lacensatin

Nor do I. Never stated anything of the kind.


Babee,
I agree with your post. Nicely put.

I went to public schools and I get it. I think GFE means something different to each of us. That's the point, this provider listened and learned what GFE meant to him and delivered. My ATF knows I place a lot of importance on talking, cuddling, and kissing...which she always incorporates into our time together. She also know that I love Corvettes. When I showed up for one of our lunch time meetings, she gave me a couple of pictures of classic Corvettes (two of my favorite photos). In short, she lets me define GFE.

First of all in my opinion Gfe is going to be different to each one of us...just like each girlfriend you had over your life was different and as time went on and you got to know each girlfriend you both grew to know each others likes and dislikes; so in my opinion a one night stand and the first time you see a provider is alot alike.
Lets take example of a gal you meet and first time you have sex she might want the use of condom and she would be nuts not to...this is where we know most providers are safer but this doesnt mean she is not going to be your girlfriend...if you both enjoy each others time and sex ...she just became your girlfriend...not a one night stand.
Same goes with the first time provider...if you or they are not comfortable and you do not like certain aspects of what occurs its a one night stand with a provider then chances are you wont be seeing that provider again.
To me it takes a first time ( click ) of some type that makes you think hey i like her...for whatever reason that is...it might be her looks..the way she kisses...bbbj...or just taking the time to chat and get to know each other and share a laugh or two; but all of this is expected to be there from a provider that posts she is an GFE..
Some exceed first time GFE expectations...and thats the ones that will become ATF GFE's...lol.
It all depends on what floats your boat !!
But thank goodness you gals post that you are GFE ..at least that means you are trying to make the effort and the ones that answer this ad about what makes an true GFE shows you care enough to look and see what ( we ) think is Gfe.
I dont think GFE is possible with just one session and just like any relationship you have been in...it takes time to get to know each other...but there still has to be that click for any of us to want a second time... and we have to remember some providers may not get the same click as we do...but each and everyone try !
Thank you to all the gals that are GFE's and try to be GFE's
and guys make sure you let them know they are appreciated and always give them the upmost respect...its hard to satisfy all of us jackasses out there.

HEY gals,

Do us a favor...tell us what makes you an GFE
What makes you stand out from the rest of the pack?

George Clooney (SKF):

How amazing that you reposted this! I apologize in that I haven't been on these boards in a while, too busy as always. As far as your reference in this thread, I, too, had a fun, evocative, memorable evening with you. Holding hands in San Antonio's downtown historic district, while going to go-go bars and dancing were certainly highlights of the year for me! I hope we can reunite soon! I might be making the move to California (at least two weeks in Cali, two weeks in Texas to expand my Angelina enterprise). Let's get together very soon!

Love,

Angelina

Sometimes something happens or someone does something that causes you to change your way of thinking. Recently, a monger friend from Houston and I were talking, as we frequently do, and our conversation lead to a subject which is seemingly being used more frequently - and more importantly, casually- in the various provider advertisements.

So we began discussing the ambiguous subject of the Girlfriend Experience (GFE) and what "GFE" meant to us. The conversation went from the various BCD activities to the TCB aspects and so on. It's too broad of a subject, so I'll try and keep it short and get to the point other than to say that we agreed that there are different levels of GFE and that frequently, those which claim to be GFE, don't necessarily live up to that claim. Sure, some of the factors may be met, but the "E" relates to the overall experience and that's where the claims fall short.

I realize that the ladies see all different types of men and that they're selling the the GFE illusion. I get that. I also understand that having to put on the GFE face each and every time they open the door is difficult- so certainly, it takes a special kind of person to successfully and consistently live-up to the GFE billing. There are off-days, etc. etc.

One (of the many) thing(s) which was inadvertently overlooked was something that, in retrospect, has a profound effect on the overall GFE (in my eyes anyway). This overlooked aspect was surprisingly and unknowingly brought to my attention the other day by a visiting provider who just recently jumped into the SA hobby sandbox. (This is not an ad and her identity will remain anonymous. No pms). She and I had met during a previous visit and had just an outstanding time and yes, imnho, she met all of the GFE criteria. (excelled in several areas) We had a couple of brief phone conversations and ping-ponged a few casual pms since, so I guess that we've developed somewhat of a more comfortable, professional kinship. Although I was anxious to see her again, I also understood that she leads an extraordinarily busy life- with providing as well as other personal/professional commitments-this ain't her only gig- so I didn't really press her all that hard for another meeting.
(kicks self repeatedly)

Fast forward to week last. It just so happened that the planets were in alignment or whatever, that she popped back into town and the much anticipated re-visit came to fruition. Without going into detail about the encounter, (other than to say that it exceeded any/all expectations), what hit me like a ton of bricks was this overlooked aspect of the GFE mentioned above. And that is simply this: the personal touch. To me, this is one of the often overlooked aspects that greatly sets the various self-proclaimed GFE's apart from one another. It differentiates them and it usually doesn't necessarily take all that much effort yet the dividends can be huge.

In fact, in the instance above, this woman extended a gesture which was so thoughtful and considerate that it really touched me- dare I say, on a personal level. The more that I thought about it in the days following, the more impressed I became with her and her kind gesture. Who knows, maybe it wasn't that big of a deal to her? maybe she did it without really giving it that much thought?? maybe it's just in her nature??? who knows..????

Whatever it was, it caught me off-guard and impressed me -Hella' Lot. She took the time out of her uber-busy day and took some things from our casual conversations and incorporated it into something personal and tailored just for me. Suffice it to say that it was totally unexpected, yet truly appreciated. It was also refreshing because it made me feel that I wasn't just some other random hobbyist, an Uncle Fester or something.

I guess what I'm saying is that sometimes it's the little things, a personal touch, that causes the GFE bar to raise. In this instance all it took was some thought and some consideration for her to immediately shoot up to the Platinum Level of GFE. The bar has definitely been raised.

So to the wonderful and amazing women who offer the true and genuine GFE, I offer my sincere appreciation and thanks.

I'm not sure what the purpose of this diatribe is, other than to ask;
Besides the obvious, what else factors into the "E", in your mind?


Originally Posted by SofaKingFun

Can an Escort offer a GFE(xperience) in an one hour appt? Gentlemen, do many of you seek Escorts offering a GFE experience in one hour appts?

Can an Escort offer a GFE(xperience) in an one hour appt? Gentlemen, do many of you seek Escorts offering a GFE experience in one hour appts? Originally Posted by Exotic Lily

Absolutely a provider can offer a GFE in an hour appt. I would bet most ladies on this board do. I, for one, ONLY seek a GFE(xperience) whether its a 1 hr or an overnight session, once I find it I will tend to see her over and over.

Can an Escort offer a GFE(xperience) in an one hour appt? Gentlemen, do many of you seek Escorts offering a GFE experience in one hour appts? Originally Posted by Exotic Lily

Most of my appointments with clients range from 2 hours to 5 hours. I just got back from Los Angeles four days ago with a client I've known for six months.....24 hour appointment! Not only was this particular client gorgeous, but he took care of me since I've always offered GFE services in our initial one hour sessions. The reason for my 24 hour appointment with this successful client is attributed to the fact that we began with 1 hour appts. Even if he went a little over, I'd only charge him for one hour. Now, he is in love with me (in a good way), and spoils me with gifts and trips.

When I first began in the Texas hobby, most of my GFE appointments ranged from 1 hour to 2 hours. In essence, every one of my appointments is GFE and I think several ladies in Texas who offer stellar services can attest to that. In a one hour appt, for example, I'd still have champagne (for those compensating me my full rate, etc) to go with an intellectual conversation, and even throw in an extra fifteen minutes. My date with SKF was around 5 hours. When I'm with SKF, I feel like I'm with a boyfriend, which is the very essence. I'm blessed to have some of the best clients as do many ladies who treat this like a business!