... At 11:46PM I send a text "Where to from here?" The next text I receive is at 12:08AM " Where are you" I respond immediately "at major restaurant at major cross streets. At 12:11AM I get a response of "OK" The next text is at 12:23AM saying come to major hotel at specific address. ... So did I break protocol here and have this coming.
Originally Posted by DallasPussyInspector
( i agree w/ doug_dfw,
please use paragraphs)
all we know. is what DPI posted. i'll make a few assumptions and give my comments based on those assumptions.
* i'll assume she said "text me" in her ads and not "call me"
* i'll assume that they agreed on a visit and this was just figuring out when and where.
* i'll assume texts were making it thru rather quickly based on some of his timeline.
comments:
* he communicated w/ her as she requested, but several of her replies were tardy.
* he wanted to know where to be and got nothing in reply.
* he acted according to her ad.
* she lost out on a late nite deal. he saved some cash but used some gas and emitted some pollution [hopefully he's got a fuel efficient car]
meta-comments:
* DPI could have been more explicit and direct in his texts. communicating is difficult enough face to face, it just gets worse the farther away and more delayed the responses.
Ive been doing this long enough that at 12:08, I would have already been gone.
Originally Posted by CaptCroakers
EXACTAMUNDO!
based on the timeline, she was not responding promptly all the time. that leads me to think/guess that she was either busy/pre-occupied, not watching her phone for incoming texts, didnt care about the appt, wanted to give him the run around for calling late nite, or who knows what something else.
in my book,
too much delay = not worth my time, unless i had a fully agreed to commitment to date/time/place.
Communication is king! The Time to meet, General location to meet at, Length of session and Donation are the most important pieces of information for you and the provider to know before getting in your car. ...
Originally Posted by Invisible1
AGREE!! however, if one is willing to proceed w/ some but not all that info and understands the risk, that's on that person alone.
but,
lack of complete details is on both of them.
Why would guys want to see a girl who doesn't screen? Aren't you worried about your safety…especially that late? And I agree with Jules, this is why I don't publish my number either. I only communicate through email so I can screen properly first and schedule ahead so I can pick my clients.
Originally Posted by samantha thom
while that's an important question, that isnt the question he asked.
Texting is no way to make a date I feel .. but that's just me ...
I have please DON"T TEXT ( if we never met or if you have not been screened ) as I need to hear your voice and this is one way I can tell if we are a match or not ...
Originally Posted by LustyBustyGina38FF
i strongly support how you, samantha, and jules decide to run your consulting business - your choice, your rules.
in general, i believe that a client should communicate w/ each provider via her preferred communication media.
and also believe that a client and provider should confirm date/time/location to avoid situations like this.