Is there an unwritten rule I didn't know about

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I'll put this here because it's not really a review since the session didn't happen. I also won't call out the provider in case I did something wrong. I know a lot of providers specify in their ads don't text them. This one did not. I sent a text at 11:05PM asking to setup an appointment. I got a response to that text at 11:07PM stating "OK I'm available" Since she didn't say be at a specific place at a specific time at 11:08PM I texted back "Would 11:30-11:45 be OK" meaning I'd be at the major crossroads in her ad sometime between 11:30 and 11:45. At 11:41PM I send a text saying "I'm at major restaurant at major cross streets. I get a text at 11:45PM "OK Cool" At 11:46PM I send a text "Where to from here?" The next text I receive is at 12:08AM " Where are you" I respond immediately "at major restaurant at major cross streets. At 12:11AM I get a response of "OK" The next text is at 12:23AM saying come to major hotel at specific address. I received this text well across town since I left at 12:10AM ironically passing her hotel as I was receiving the "OK" text. I'd been sitting in sight of it the whole time. So did I break protocol here and have this coming. Originally Posted by DallasPussyInspector
Can't comment. try using paragraphs, punctuation.
blackmaleindallas's Avatar
I'm curious if this is why so many hobbyists ask me what part of town I'm in even though I clearly state it in my ad. I'm guessing they've been through the run-around rodeo before and have it in their mind that it's one of the first things to ask upon initial contact.

Live and learn!
Originally Posted by milfy2002
Not everything you gals write in your ads is true or up to date, so it's best to ask before assuming.
C@r@m3lTWIX's Avatar
Not everything you gals write in your ads is true or up to date, so it's best to ask before assuming. Originally Posted by blackmaleindallas
...very true, unfortunately.

Something else seems off here. Either the missing link is this is the result of shopping on BP or you were dealing with management. I can only think of once that I met with someone and we didn't talk at all until I showed up, and that was THEIR choice. I called.
Why would guys want to see a girl who doesn't screen? Aren't you worried about your safety…especially that late? And I agree with Jules, this is why I don't publish my number either. I only communicate through email so I can screen properly first and schedule ahead so I can pick my clients.
Chung Tran's Avatar
it's best to ask before assuming. Originally Posted by blackmaleindallas
that's right.. because assuming makes an Ass out of U and Ming..

wait a second.. who's Ming? some Chinese Dude?



Why would guys want to see a girl who doesn't screen? I only communicate through email so I can screen properly first and schedule ahead so I can pick my clients. Originally Posted by samantha thom
I appreciate when a BP lady insists on a phone call first... that suggests to me that there is much less chance of Pimp involvement, and makes me think she is doing a form of screening.. that in turn is a form of screening of her from me.
Starboi08's Avatar
Wow Samantha Thom is hottt!!!! As for this post, yeah I would have at least called before leaving. Feels like just waste of both your time.
LustyBustyGina38FF's Avatar
Texting is no way to make a date I feel .. but that's just me ...

I have please DON"T TEXT ( if we never met or if you have not been screened ) as I need to hear your voice and this is one way I can tell if we are
a match or not .. and I can't screen you from a text( and this is not how you would pass my screening at all .
but you be or not be supersize how many text's when I ask not too ,,
or it may not be just the type of person you want to meet in the first place if they just TEXT to have appt with ..

Voice say's a lot .. if i hear HEY WHAT"S UP ,, I hang up ..
Starboi08's Avatar
when I normally want to make a date I just send a pm, then a P411 request get the confirmation txt or email and work out the details. The only call or text I make is for directions to her incall or vice versa. I understand some ladies don't give out their number but sometimes it helps if a gate code is acting up or a specific area to park or if there is traffic or something else comes up shit happens.
Boltfan's Avatar
I'll put this here because it's not really a review since the session didn't happen. I also won't call out the provider in case I did something wrong. I know a lot of providers specify in their ads don't text them. This one did not. I sent a text at 11:05PM asking to setup an appointment. I got a response to that text at 11:07PM stating "OK I'm available" Since she didn't say be at a specific place at a specific time at 11:08PM I texted back "Would 11:30-11:45 be OK" meaning I'd be at the major crossroads in her ad sometime between 11:30 and 11:45. At 11:41PM I send a text saying "I'm at major restaurant at major cross streets. I get a text at 11:45PM "OK Cool" At 11:46PM I send a text "Where to from here?" The next text I receive is at 12:08AM " Where are you" I respond immediately "at major restaurant at major cross streets. At 12:11AM I get a response of "OK" The next text is at 12:23AM saying come to major hotel at specific address. I received this text well across town since I left at 12:10AM ironically passing her hotel as I was receiving the "OK" text. I'd been sitting in sight of it the whole time. So did I break protocol here and have this coming. Originally Posted by DallasPussyInspector
The unwritten rule is that, unfortunately, many of these ladies would be asking "Do you want fries with that" if they weren't here hawking their cooch.

Yes, there are many good ones (and as Jules pointed out, being good she is smart enough not to publish her number and avoids this nonsense) but you should have realized who you were dealing with when text was allowed for first contact. As in, she likely wasn't in med school studying to be a brain surgeon.
when I normally want to make a date I just send a pm, then a P411 request get the confirmation txt or email and work out the details. The only call or text I make is for directions to her incall or vice versa. I understand some ladies don't give out their number but sometimes it helps if a gate code is acting up or a specific area to park or if there is traffic or something else comes up shit happens. Originally Posted by Drake777745
We are on the same page, Drake! I think you might be pretty smart. Hehe!
Starboi08's Avatar
We are on the same page, Drake! I think you might be pretty smart. Hehe! Originally Posted by samantha thom
Lol thanks babe.
Kinda makes you wonder if the ladies don't have a 30 min. Meet n great rate???
The screening is the same but Why not see if you click before a , what was it, a 300 20 min vizit.
blackmaleindallas's Avatar
that's right.. because assuming makes an Ass out of U and Ming..

wait a second.. who's Ming? some Chinese Dude?





I appreciate when a BP lady insists on a phone call first... that suggests to me that there is much less chance of Pimp involvement, and makes me think she is doing a form of screening.. that in turn is a form of screening of her from me. Originally Posted by Chung Tran
Here is Ming:

http://www.eccie.net/providers.php?do=view&id=177264

GPS much? Black and Asian is right up my alley but I don't make it to Miami much anymore.
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... At 11:46PM I send a text "Where to from here?" The next text I receive is at 12:08AM " Where are you" I respond immediately "at major restaurant at major cross streets. At 12:11AM I get a response of "OK" The next text is at 12:23AM saying come to major hotel at specific address. ... So did I break protocol here and have this coming. Originally Posted by DallasPussyInspector
( i agree w/ doug_dfw, please use paragraphs)

all we know. is what DPI posted. i'll make a few assumptions and give my comments based on those assumptions.
* i'll assume she said "text me" in her ads and not "call me"
* i'll assume that they agreed on a visit and this was just figuring out when and where.
* i'll assume texts were making it thru rather quickly based on some of his timeline.

comments:
* he communicated w/ her as she requested, but several of her replies were tardy.
* he wanted to know where to be and got nothing in reply.
* he acted according to her ad.
* she lost out on a late nite deal. he saved some cash but used some gas and emitted some pollution [hopefully he's got a fuel efficient car]

meta-comments:
* DPI could have been more explicit and direct in his texts. communicating is difficult enough face to face, it just gets worse the farther away and more delayed the responses.


Ive been doing this long enough that at 12:08, I would have already been gone. Originally Posted by CaptCroakers
EXACTAMUNDO! based on the timeline, she was not responding promptly all the time. that leads me to think/guess that she was either busy/pre-occupied, not watching her phone for incoming texts, didnt care about the appt, wanted to give him the run around for calling late nite, or who knows what something else.

in my book, too much delay = not worth my time, unless i had a fully agreed to commitment to date/time/place.


Communication is king! The Time to meet, General location to meet at, Length of session and Donation are the most important pieces of information for you and the provider to know before getting in your car. ... Originally Posted by Invisible1
AGREE!! however, if one is willing to proceed w/ some but not all that info and understands the risk, that's on that person alone.
but, lack of complete details is on both of them.


Why would guys want to see a girl who doesn't screen? Aren't you worried about your safety…especially that late? And I agree with Jules, this is why I don't publish my number either. I only communicate through email so I can screen properly first and schedule ahead so I can pick my clients. Originally Posted by samantha thom
while that's an important question, that isnt the question he asked.

Texting is no way to make a date I feel .. but that's just me ...

I have please DON"T TEXT ( if we never met or if you have not been screened ) as I need to hear your voice and this is one way I can tell if we are a match or not ... Originally Posted by LustyBustyGina38FF
i strongly support how you, samantha, and jules decide to run your consulting business - your choice, your rules.

in general, i believe that a client should communicate w/ each provider via her preferred communication media.

and also believe that a client and provider should confirm date/time/location to avoid situations like this.
Chung Tran's Avatar
Here is Ming:

http://www.eccie.net/providers.php?do=view&id=177264

GPS much? Black and Asian is right up my alley but I don't make it to Miami much anymore. Originally Posted by blackmaleindallas
good find! expensive, but at least she can rightfully claim to be exotic.

I only make it to Miami to see My Amy.. (if you can find an "Amy" on the Miami/Fort Lauderdale Board, I salute you