Would you rather have a Mistress or just see a provider?

I think one area where men find trouble/dissapointment with a provider is when they attempt to have a mistress type arrangement with her-- while she's still an active provider. Ive tried it and I couldn't do both at the same time. The "main-guy" wants a lot of your time and attention but so do the clients. So the provider winds up being pulled in too many different directions and can't give the main guy what he is looking for.

So my advice to guys who meet a provider and want her as your mistress, is to pull her completely off the market. Its a major financial committment but I think thats the only way for it to work out.

Or better yet, just don't try it with a provider at all Originally Posted by Tracey P

VERY well said

I would rather be with a provider. I like variety, kinda hard to have a mistress and see a range of providers. Unless you have alot of time and alot of money.

Well .If.I had a misstress ...I would not see a provider...that was the question..Misstress or provider?You have to choose.you cannot have both.

So which one would you rather see?

Since I am a Widower, and not married, I technically can't have a "mistress"

That being said, with the way the entire "Provider-Escort" thing has evolved over the past decade, and Providers offering a greatly expanded menu, (GFE, PSE, etc.), it is hard to concieve the idea of a "mistress".

That is, unless you are looking to fall in love with someone. That is really what the whole mistress thing is about.

I just think that the whole concept of being able to be with a Lady who appeals to you, having great sex, and even doing things outside the relm of BCD activities, (if you are willing to pay), with NO STRINGS ATTACHED is a tough deal to beat. A Provider-Escort is who will fullfill that bill to a "t"..

What has really revolutionized the entire thing is the advent of Web Sites such as ECCIE. Trust me, I am old enough to remember when things such as this were unheard of. This who sharing of information has openned up new avenues for both Providers and Hobbyist.

I agree...

The client/provider relationship just works. The falling in love/getting too attached/wanting her to be your girlfriend stuff messes it all up. Besides, how does a married man keep the mistress happy, maintain a full relationship with her, and support her financially without the wife finding out? Too much could go wrong there.

In my mind the definition of a Mistress is a kept woman. which is not much different than a provider, keeping a mistress can end up costing a lot more than a provider. So in IMO you are better off with a provider then with a mistress. Now when you use the term affair what come to my mind is the ultimate situation as I hav had first hand exp during two different periods in my life. affair type situation offers many benefits at a much lower cost b/c both parties have the same objective to participate in unlimited sex, in my case oftten times any associated cost was shared.

I would think most men would prefer a provider as a mistress seems like more of an emotional investment not to mention time and the possibility of more money. And there might be a greater chance that his wife may find out about the mistress and be a lot more upset than if he was caught seeing a professional.

And there might be a greater chance that his wife may find out about the mistress and be a lot more upset than if he was caught seeing a professional. Originally Posted by alluringava

I don't think a housewife would think this way. More than likely they don't know the differences between an escort and a mistress. The stigma of her husband frequenting escorts would be much more embarrassing to her.

I suspect there's a bit of truth in many of the posts here. In reality everyone here is looking for something different--on both sides. A mistress arrangement can certainly work IF both parties have a common understanding of what it is and isn't. I could consider a one-one long term arrangement, but only with one or two ladies I've met. As some have said, it takes a lot more emotional investment, and probably more financial as well. That's neither right nor wrong, just different. It has to be a match or it will go badly.

Not a mistress for me. Too much of a time and emotional investment.

Serial providers work best.

Forgive me for stating the obvious, but this question doesn't seem to be presented to an objective audience. I don't recall seeing ads for mistresses on this board. LOL Not meaning to crash the thread, the thread caught my eye and I thought it really odd considering the purpose of the forum. I do; however, appreciate thought provoking threads and since this is the 2nd thread I've joined in on started by this OP, thank you for keeping this forum interactive and interesting

I don't think a housewife would think this way. More than likely they don't know the differences between an escort and a mistress. The stigma of her husband frequenting escorts would be much more embarrassing to her. Originally Posted by Ansley

Very, very true.. In both cases, a man had better be careful. Once his SO finds out; it's over.

One isn't better or worse than the other. They are different and attract different people. Also to keep a mistress you have to have a lot more scratch. Those big ballers expect the chick to be available whenever they want to see them. The ones I have known of is were the chick got a car,condo, and monthly cash. and the dude was a no nonesense dude. If that chick fucked up she was gone and he would have another hot chick in her place. I don't remember him having any problems. I guess he picked the right chicks.

If you chose a single provider she's not available. 90 percent of the time. A mistress. Would be
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