Obviously not. Considering the context of my statement, ie "visit with her just like I would the lady who cuts my hair (after the BCD fun of course)."I didn't say you were part of the problem.
So, the only way your leap lands on solid ground is if I have BCD with her in public, as for "just showing up," I guess you mistake me for someone else.
I'm not sure I'm "part of the problem" as you put it, in fact, the only "problem" I see is the rude behavior the OP made specific reference to. Originally Posted by Iaintliein
The reason I asked those questions is because of that attitude (by anyone) that "it's just like visiting the lady who cuts my hair." That type of approach and thinking can lead to letting your guard down and not being discreet when in those other types of situations I mentioned.