Ghosting Issue

Maybe I have just been very lucky but I normally only see P-411 providers and seldom have any problems. I also do a lot of homework and I pretty much know what to expect before I head to the appointment.
I NEVER ask them about their services.

So . . is "Ghosting" like being a no-show?

Is it committing to multiple providers and only showing for one of them?

Help an old 'Boomer generation hobbyist get this right. Originally Posted by ICU 812

By the responses I see many different interpretations.
The way I have encountered it most is provider & I will agree on length & type of meeting, date, time & general location. Most will even reconfirm shortly before but when exact address is requested which is usually an hour before the agreed upon time the provider goes silent & stops communicating.

It happens pretty often in this hobby. It happens with providers from Eccie and alternative websites. It pisses me off when I get there and they dont answer. Or if they cancel when Im already headed there. Most of the time my appointments are at least 30 minutes away. I normally never try to communicate with that provider unless it was a legit excuse. Uh I just started my period don’t work for me. Really bad when I see they have ads posted in another city the next 3 days. Now when they say I started but can still suck your dick then I know they really started. Most still want to make that money.

It happens pretty often in this hobby. It happens with providers from Eccie and alternative websites. It pisses me off when I get there and they dont answer. Or if they cancel when Im already headed there. Most of the time my appointments are at least 30 minutes away. I normally never try to communicate with that provider unless it was a legit excuse. Uh I just started my period don’t work for me. Really bad when I see they have ads posted in another city the next 3 days. Now when they say I started but can still suck your dick then I know they really started. Most still want to make that money.

^yup.

No other legit business could operate like that and survive.

Us not responding doesn't always mean "no".. Sometimes we are working and the breaks in between appointments, we just try to relax and restore ourselves/our energy. A lot goes into this job.. With actually seeing people, showering, make-up, hair, taking a moment to ourselves, answering emails, screening, some have other jobs, school work, maybe a child. Before I see someone, I have to hype myself up lol & for me, personally, I take time to relax because at the end of the day I'm a woman and I have to be ready for all the possibilities that could happen when I let a dude into my personal space...


But I am definitely ignoring someone who is not sending me a well-said introduction. We don't know how to respond to "Hey, Hi,Can I see you?, Babe?" it also makes me uncomfortable when I don't respond when someone thinks I should... and they send me hella aggressive "??" "??????" "U there?"... it just makes you seem pushy.

But if you hit me up, and you sound cool and not asking a bunch of weird questions.. Then, I am not saying "no"... And it's a cool way to reach out to someone again.. as long as the message shows me that your a respectful human or at least you're trying to be one, or faking it til you make it, effort is recognized and so it's not a "no".. It's cool to hit me up again.

Imagine someone walking up to you on a sidewalk, look you dead in the eye, and said "Hi" and just not breaking the eye contact... it would make you feel uncomfortable.

Well damn, this is getting long lol... basically I'm just saying it's not humanly possible to answer it all, sometimes it's just really poppin in my inbox or text messages but I'm only one person. I also have things going for me outside of this work, a personal life, and being 24..

It's not personal when we don't respond. But we are all human and we all need a break from having to answer to someone..

I just want to be a helpful member in the community..

I don't take it personally. To me a non-response is the same as someone responding and saying no. I also don't have a problem with it. To me it's even understandable. People generally don't like conflict. Sure, I'm curious and would like to know the reason but I just move on. You certainly don't want to turn into a stalker and blow up her PMs/texts. Because if she had any doubts about seeing you or not, you've just put them to rest.

edit: I'm referring to where no firm date and time has been scheduled and you were just exchanging texts/PMs. Once something is scheduled and if there is no cancellation, then that's just NC/NS. Originally Posted by cabletex7

Us not responding doesn't always mean "no".. Sometimes we are working and the breaks in between appointments, we just try to relax and restore ourselves/our energy. A lot goes into this job.. With actually seeing people, showering, make-up, hair, taking a moment to ourselves, answering emails, screening, some have other jobs, school work, maybe a child. Before I see someone, I have to hype myself up lol & for me, personally, I take time to relax because at the end of the day I'm a woman and I have to be ready for all the possibilities that could happen when I let a dude into my personal space...


But I am definitely ignoring someone who is not sending me a well-said introduction. We don't know how to respond to "Hey, Hi,Can I see you?, Babe?" it also makes me uncomfortable when I don't respond when someone thinks I should... and they send me hella aggressive "??" "??????" "U there?"... it just makes you seem pushy.

But if you hit me up, and you sound cool and not asking a bunch of weird questions.. Then, I am not saying "no"... And it's a cool way to reach out to someone again.. as long as the message shows me that your a respectful human or at least you're trying to be one, or faking it til you make it, effort is recognized and so it's not a "no".. It's cool to hit me up again.

Imagine someone walking up to you on a sidewalk, look you dead in the eye, and said "Hi" and just not breaking the eye contact... it would make you feel uncomfortable.

Well damn, this is getting long lol... basically I'm just saying it's not humanly possible to answer it all, sometimes it's just really poppin in my inbox or text messages but I'm only one person. I also have things going for me outside of this work, a personal life, and being 24..

It's not personal when we don't respond. But we are all human and we all need a break from having to answer to someone..

I just want to be a helpful member in the community.. Originally Posted by TiffanyDash

I love this! +1

"Hey, Hi,Can I see you?, Babe?" Originally Posted by TiffanyDash

Yo Bae,can I holla?

I think it’s just a common courtesy to let someone know. I’ve had it happen to me a few times and I just hate driving across town just to have my time and gas wasted.

I think it’s just a common courtesy to let someone know. I’ve had it happen to me a few times and I just hate driving across town just to have my time and gas wasted. Originally Posted by Davegold

From the hobbyist's point of view this is a "hobby," which is something that seems to be lost on the ladies, along with failing to realize that 2-3 hours of wasted time away from gainful activity reduces the discretionary funds one may have available for HOBBIES! ... AS WELL AS ... the COST of the trip. IMO the "ghosting" is due to a more "attractive" opportunity (in their opinion) and/or a regular popped up FINALLY!

Kinda like fake pics and fake stats.

Us not responding doesn't always mean "no".. .. Originally Posted by TiffanyDash

Ok, good feedback from a different perspective. I'll keep that in mind the next time and may followup after a few days.

Recently ghosted by someone with a lot of excellent reviews. Like 200. Thought about posting the name but given the number of positive reviews there is no need for an alert. Was really looking forward to meeting her and had planned 2 days in advance. Texted the day before for confirmation. Texted same day for address. Texted and got a reply back when I said I was on my way. Very good friendly enthusiastic communication up until 10 minutes before and then no communication. No explanation. Tried a few more texts upbto 20 minutes past the appointment time. She had texted me all day once to let me know she needed to delay 30 minutes. then when I get to her incall near the Galleria no communication. Why would someone with her reviews do this? But as mentioned above still have my $$$ and maybe it would have not been such a great experience any way. Although her reviews would indicate otherwise. Guess I will have to move on.... other fish in eccie but this one looked to be very tasty. I always tip beyond the posted price... Very odd...

Hey Jace, after checking out your showcase you do not have many reviews. On top of that the hobbyist you reviewed are not credible or widely known on the board. So I suggest you run a review special and beef up your review section with more well known hobbyist. Another suggestion is you may want to take some new pictures, because with the dreads and physique the picture looks oddly manly and trans imo. You may want to show more face to soften it up. Otherwise your fetish niche of muscle chicks with type A personalities has got to be quite small. please don't take anything I said personal they are just observations. I wish you nothing but success.

When someone ghosts you on this board its almost always one of two reasons

They are either fucking busy or vice versa