Is having a relationship hard as a provider?

JohnnyKash's Avatar
"Honey wake up. I need you to get out of our bed and leave the house so I can fuck some stranger in it. Ill call you when you can come back home."

"Fuck you!"
Beau Derierre's Avatar
LMFAO! Yea but not that bluntly ..hehe
I'm not looking for a live in, or to move in. So it's my bed.Lol!
I don't want to be in a tied down relationship. Been single to long for that chit. Just someone to share extra time with that will not freak out when I tell him my profession...
LexusLover's Avatar

1. I'm not looking to get married.
2. Just companionship (not paid)
3. Why would how I make my revenue concern him?
4. I am not looking to support him or he support me.
5. I just don't want someone to feel betrayed, that ...
6. I didn't announce my profession from the start. Originally Posted by SensualSpecialist
#1. Good
#2. Good
#3. It should concern you both as to each other.
#4. Good
#5. If you don't tell him/her they will.
#6. If you want #2, then you should.

There are different ways to tell people sensitive things and things that might turn them off .. IMO if you want good companionship that is trustworthy and reliable, then you must be honest up front .. just make an agreement and stick to it that you will keep the two lives separated and you will not embroil him/her in your "other life."

I used to hear the saying: Ask me no questions; I'll tell you no lies.

Just because someone knows what one does for a living doesn't mean they need to know or are entitled to know all the "blow-by-blow" (pun intended) details of the job!
MrClark's Avatar
I wish you the best of luck , you are a nice person and deserve to be happy.You don't have to offer any information to start with after they get to know you decide what to tell them then.
tbone77494's Avatar
Seems to me this is the perfect place to look. Maybe some hobbyist who obviously knows what you do will be interested. Some older dude who only looks for 20 year old spinners isn't looking to those girls for red wine, star gazing, and conversation. He may want some one more mature for.what you are looking for. Neither of you judge the hobby. If I was single I would consider it.
Seedy's Avatar
  • Seedy
  • 03-08-2013, 02:58 PM
There are plenty of fishing guides you can hire and they don't car what you do for a living lol. Originally Posted by Eccie Addict
Yep, and the ones I know will flat put you on some fish.
TheAntichrist666's Avatar
I believe that everyone deserves to be happy in life. If I was a Provider, I would be honest with the person I was trying to date. If that person cannot or won't accept you for who you are, there is always a person out there that will. For example : if I was looking for a date on Eharmony and she told me the truth about her profession (escort), I would respect her greatly for having the courage to tell me about it and if I really liked her, I would date her anyway. I would rather be told upfront and I can live with it. Than to be lied to all the time and discover it later. The problem with lying is that you have to cover that lie with more lies, and in the end it does not end well. This is just my humble opinion. I wish you the best always and I believe that everyone deserves to be happy in life.
rwksl's Avatar
  • rwksl
  • 03-08-2013, 07:15 PM
SS, maybe you try dating a male escort. Or a BP tranny.
I'm not looking to get married. Just companionship (not paid) Why would how I make my revenue concern him? I am not looking to support him or he support me. I just don't want someone to feel betrayed, that I didn't announce my profession from the start. I am just looking for someone to enjoy the outdoors and certain social activities etc. Nothing too serious. I own my own home he should own his I have a life he should as well. I guess your right Don! I need to hire me a little fucker to go fishing. Now doesn't that just sound as pathetic as I typed it! Lol Originally Posted by SensualSpecialist
My suggestion is don't look for love, just look for friends for socialization. However, no one is going to knock on your door, you have to get out and do things. Get out and do the things you enjoy doing and find group(s) of people that like doing the same thing. You will eventually come across someone special, but until then, you don't have to brand yourself with a scarlet (P)rovider. Just say you are in public relations, physical therapy, etc. When you meet someone you feel comfortable with, then tell that person.

The main point is to not let life pass you by. Get out, get active, do things. Being around people that do things you like to do will lead to the type of relationships you are seeking. You are a person, just like the rest of us.
Relationships takes alot of work no matter what you do for a living
Super Head 713's Avatar
I found myself in this situation before and I lied up until their were mutual feelings because I felt as if it was none of his business. Lol by that time the guy be too attached to leave
Fast Gunn's Avatar
That is very true.

It makes you wonder if they're even worth it to begin with, although I do hear some folks think they're great!

. . . Of course, they could just be lying motherfuckers!





Relationships takes alot of work no matter what you do for a living Originally Posted by zerodahero
willdooit's Avatar
I think you can find someone. I have been with a couple providers outside playtime just hanging out talking love smart women, watching a movie or concert ,dinner ect. If you find someone you click with go for it but be honest about your choice of employment.
I think looking for someone in an open minded group of friends. Like maybe the swingers scene.
Not many if any will go for you being a hooker. Only a pimp or a loser would stand for it. Originally Posted by trey
Not true...at all. My partner is neither of those.