shy guys/ assertive guys ... Guys, Guys, Guys..Lets Talk!

All I know is that I still fantasize about a ride provided by....

And mix it up... I'm more laid back... adapt to the woman.

I’m a popular , fun man and reasonably confident ( or better said not easily embarrassed) .The not easily embarrassed comes in handy as I am okay with being with or being seen by the general public with a much younger , hot woman who at this time in my life would not be an option . That being said, even though I know money talks and puts me in this position, I believe the women I have encounters with generally have fun with me although I don’t kid myself that I am something special between the sheets
I like fun women, who are more assertive than not , who stroke my sexual ego ( it is why I hobby) , and I don’t spend a lot of time thinking about whether they truly enjoyed the action , although there are times when it does seem like their was a great sexual chemistry
I have a particular type and I research heavily that they meet my criteria and I like both new to me as well as repeaters
Except for a few , young single ladies, , I generally end up with stable , hot , fit moms who I have respect for . I avoid unstable situations at all costs. Originally Posted by funjohn

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Given your response, does your popular position in life , guide you toward a provider for convenience or for the likes of women?
I have met many men who like to have the upper hand , and some take pleasure in allowing a lady to be a lady.

That's why I like to play naked.. I find that when the suit and tie comes off, all men are vulnerable at some point, and my position is on top of you..

On the up and up, I like to time how long it takes you to get a boner when walking through my door.

Melannie... truly, if a man wants to have a great experience, he should let you lead. Imo

I got some good D, one of the best cocks attached to a fat man that you'll ever experience, my mouth skills will make you tap out 100%, I'm like no other trick here. I'm very unique to say the least. That's my pitch lol

I have to Admit, I have a thing for Dicks!

When it comes to who's lap I like to sit on,
I tend to venture all directions.
well mainly because you guys are a mystery..

which has been one of the upsides to the industry!

When I post my Ad, I like you to get a glimpse of me,
so that we mesh...

If you are just into Hot girls, there are plenty of us..
but if you want Chemistry, I guess a bit of research can go a long way.. if you are looking for a keeper ( Regular) or just treading water ( Variety)
Still,

We are just the Flowers, you guys do the Picking.. HAHA!

On to the Question..

A.) Are you a Shy guy or consider yourself to be more Assertive?

I wander,if you are shy, Do you tend to venture towards someone more outspoken or more your personality?

Do opposites attract?

B.) If you are more Assertive, Would you prefer a more submissive lady or someone who likes to take charge in a session?


C.) Multiple Choice.. you just like the Dirty Deeds..
And the randomness excites you?

As for the Ladies..

A.) Does your personality shift depending on the type of guy you meet?

I like to think I'm the same either way, butt..
I open up more towards the shy guys sometimes,
and enjoy being a smart ass to the Assertive ones..
in a fun way of course..

Damn.. I miss when it was just about the Sex!

These are just random thoughts.. Originally Posted by melannie_star

A) More assertive but it just depends. I like variety. For the most part, w/ reg girls in day2day life, I'm assertive in bed. But I like the take charge females too. I'm so dominate and assertive that it's nice to get a change of pace every now and then.

B) I am more assertive so w/ reg women, I prefer a submissive girl but providers it depends. I could never get into Game of Thrones but my favorite scene was season 1 episode 2 or 3 (I could only watch a few episodes). The big manly dude would want sex from his woman and just take it. The woman felt like a sex slave. The woman talked to another woman who told her that even though he is a big intimidating dude, you need to let him know that the bedroom is your domain. She bought into that and dominated his ass. That was a hot scene. Tame the untamable. I'm definitely assertive but I'd let a woman like that take over. Guess I wouldn't have a choice, lol. All women really have this type of power and they don't even know it. Women really hold the keys to sex and how it plays out.

C) I like the randomness. Truth be told, I don't need the hobby for sex. I'm often complimented on my looks and I'm not socially awkward to where I can't get women. I like the hobby for adventure and variety. The best part is adventure and variety without the harshness of breakups. Every girlfiend (sidechick) I've had has agreed to having a fun fling but eventually want to become a real girlfriend. When they see I won't budge, they get pissed off to the point of breaking things off bc they feel they're being used. It takes a lot of time investment in maintaining sidechicks. The initial meeting or two before it gets sexual. The constant text/talks. The awkwardness of passing holidays (valentines, xmas, birthdays, etc) where they expect the most out of me. In the hobby, I get the fun and variety. But I'm growing old of it. I think the thing I live for the most is the thrill of the chase. The cat and mouse games leading up to intimacy but the intimacy itself is starting to all feel the same. So although it can sometimes be far and few between when I act out (seek an encounter in the hobby), I look for unbelievable mindblowing bj skills or drop dead, "i can't believe i'm having sex w/ this supermodel," type chics.

Here are my thoughts.

On to the Question..

A.) Are you a Shy guy or consider yourself to be more Assertive?

GR Confidently shy. More engaging than dominate

I wander,if you are shy, Do you tend to venture towards someone more outspoken or more your personality?

GRI tend towards women who engage and flirt

Do opposites attract?
GRyes. Without a doubt.

B.) If you are more Assertive, Would you prefer a more submissive lady or someone who likes to take charge in a session?


C.) Multiple Choice.. you just like the Dirty Deeds..
And the randomness excites you?
GRi love to be seduced.

As for the Ladies..

A.) Does your personality shift depending on the type of guy you meet?

I like to think I'm the same either way, butt..
I open up more towards the shy guys sometimes,
and enjoy being a smart ass to the Assertive ones..
in a fun way of course..

Damn.. I miss when it was just about the Sex!

These are just random thoughts.. Originally Posted by melannie_star

I got some good D, one of the best cocks attached to a fat man that you'll ever experience, my mouth skills will make you tap out 100%, I'm like no other trick here. I'm very unique to say the least. That's my pitch lol Originally Posted by BLM69

Lol... if you have to tell everyone a out how good you are ... probably totally the opposite. It’s a good thing providers can’t review you and post of their encounters. I’m sure you’d be in the bottom bro holding a broom....

A couple of alcohol-influenced thoughts:


Because I know I have nothing to offer a woman besides money (okay, carpet cleaning and pimping, too), I respond favorably to a reasonably attractive women who can figuratively hold her nose and credibly pretend to like me for an hour. The flip side of that is that it always bothers me that I have no qualities besides money that would make me attractive to a woman. But, it is what it is.


I've been spending a lot of time in strip clubs lately. The upside for someone like me is that its extremely flattering and stimulating when a dancer approaches you. At that moment, she could have chosen to approach any of a hundred other guys but she chose you. The mind can easily suppeess a lot of reality and leave you feeling like Sally Field at the Oscars: "you like me! you really like me!"


The downside of that, of course, is that when you spend, say, 14 hours of your birthday week in a strip club (during your birthday week, when you were looking to celebrate!) and wind up only with a couple of hugs from bartenders and waitresses, well, you're back to the reality of being a loser.


Bottome lne: There's a market (if only one!) consisting of guys who would enjoy being approached by a beautiful woman who might make them feel like they are actually wanted, as opposed to knowing that only their money commands attention.


And, yeah, I know the sort of responses this will get and am prepared to add to my ignore list. Pretty soon, the only posts I will be reading will be from TinMam, shooter6.5, Silver Bullet, DownForWhatever, pmdelites, Quark, and a few others. Originally Posted by Sir Lancehernot

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So would you consider yourself the the quiet guy in the corner?
Thats what I like.. if you ask me.
The Eccie Community has it's ups and downs..
It is a hobby for some and for others, it is there lively hood.
I choose to be here, just like you
It is all in good fun!
We allow you to play the good guy,
and you allow us to be feminine.

So, When you visit ladies , Would you find yourself searching
for more of mind stimulation rather than physical attraction?

So would you consider yourself the the quiet guy in the corner? Originally Posted by melannie_star

Rule #1 for me: Don't get rejected. The quiet guy in the corner seldom runs into that issue.

So, When you visit ladies , Would you find yourself searching
for more of mind stimulation rather than physical attraction?

I really do hate to say it, because there some really nice women out there with whom I would enjoy spending time, but whom I have no desire to spend BCD time wite. TL;DR: Yeah, looks are important.

But mind stimulation vs. physical attraction is a binary choice. There are other qualities, chief among them that rare ability to pretend to like me, both in session and enough to invite me back later.

None of that means that I don't understand how the game is played: I get the urge, I make a call and find someone who says yes, and I get the urge taken care of. But that doesn't mean I can;t get more of a thrill from a woman who says, "Why don't you stop by on your way home?" as opposed to one who says, "Yeah, I can see you at 5:30."

I tend to be quiet and I guess shy with the Lady's. When in large groups I hang back and take it all in. But much more assertive in business/work life. Never been one to hit hard on the Lady's, so it is nice when they show an interest in you.

Fascinating. I've always sort of tried to gauge my decisions on which ladies to see based on their personalities and how much of those I can discern from reviews and posts here. My answers:



A.) Are you a Shy guy or consider yourself to be more Assertive?



I am shy by nature. I used to be cripplingly shy, to the point that my first kiss/girlfriend was in college. However, I consciously decided to come out of my shell for the sake of my career, which I have been successful at the past decade. In fact, many people who have only known me the past few years cannot fathom that I used to be the guy at the industry function standing in the corner not talking to anyone and hoping to avoid notice.


I wander,if you are shy, Do you tend to venture towards someone more outspoken or more your personality?



As far as meeting with providers, I try to stay away from shy ladies, even when they've been noted as being receptive to taking direction. This is because I am not the best at giving direction. On occasion, if the lady is shy, I will tend to be shy, too, and it's a back and forth of "What would you like to do?" "I don't know, what would YOU like to do."


Do opposites attract?

B.) If you are more Assertive, Would you prefer a more submissive lady or someone who likes to take charge in a session?



Per above, more take charge. I have on occasion met with ladies who are not just take charge, but demanding. It sometimes works, but usually not, at least not with me. When I am meeting a new lady I am confident, but not so assertive. And, I also have always had a hard time with roughness during playtime. When I am asked to pull hair or spank, I don't comply very well, because I get no enjoyment out of that.

C.) Multiple Choice.. you just like the Dirty Deeds..
And the randomness excites you?


Of course, the randomness of meeting a new lady for fun is exciting, but only within the bounds of knowing the kind of person I'm dealing with. As long as there are no unpleasant surprises, I do enjoy the excitement of someone unfamiliar.

I’m assertive or shy depending on the situation, I guess, but I’m naturally shy. In the hobby, I try to research providers to see what they might be like, or what they do best. If it matches what I’m seeking, then I will let them know as discreetly as I can in advance that I’d like to experience those services. If we have limited time, I want us to make the best of it. I don’t mind spontaneity, though. If someone wants to show me something special, I’m not stopping it unless I don’t like it.

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So, When you visit ladies , Would you find yourself searching
for more of mind stimulation rather than physical attraction? Originally Posted by melannie_star

looks will bring them in, a good personality that's fun and relaxing to deal with will bring them back. I enjoy a woman who can hold a conversation and is fun to be around. I would consider myself real laid back, and a little shy at first.

It's very situational. In my personal and professional life I'm very assertive. In my hobby life it depends on the mood. In the initial meeting or two I prefer providers who take the lead. Once we're warmed up to each other then I'm more comfortable getting a little more assertive. And I always like outspoken partners either in RW or HW. I always love to hear a beautiful woman talking dirty.
A smart, witty, feminine woman can drain my wallet, and my balls, fast. But a lot of women think they are being witty when they're really just rude. And that's a boner killer.
Sometimes randomness can be exciting as hell too. That's usually where strip clubs come in...