A Hobbying Dilemma – Advice Solicited - Found Employee on Backpage

wildething's Avatar
Don't trust ANYONE with this info.
Just send an anon email with info about this site. Originally Posted by ArisRose
I think that is a horrible idea. You wouldn't freak out if some anonymous sender from an unknown account sent an email to your PERSONAL email address, identifying you as an escort??
Now that you know, don't you find yourself thinking about shagging the shit out of her?
Guest010115-3's Avatar
I don't usually comment on coed stuff but I will. First, it is not a good idea to mix hobby and real life. Don't assume BP is always unsafe, it is not like she is in a lions den. Lots of our eccie ladies are on there too and are safe so ur excuse of wanting to rescue her from the lions den called BP is the first thing u should throw out the window. Secondly u should not have posted such a dilemma here. U know very well that once someone gets her on here she will see what u posted so u have dammed her to always be on BP since it is more private for her now than eccie ever will be. I could get to the third point but u get my drift. There was probably a better way of doing this and there probably still is but u r definitely not the right person to execute it. Just my thots today, take it for what it's worth, happy hobbying.
ElisabethWhispers's Avatar
You know the right thing to do which is the reason why you started this topic, to confirm.

Even if she was ON Eccie, she would still advertise on backpage. Plus, I know what it's like to be a part time sex worker, only working when you need to.

I am fairly certain (from just what you've written) that she does NOT identify with being in the business. This is something that she is doing to get by.

In sex activist circles, we're called the silent majority because MOST sex workers are in that group. Even if they don't identify as such. We're working to pay our bills, take care of children just like other single moms and women who are divorced, etc.

Listen to the others. Leave her alone. There are ways to help a new and blooming sex worker. But you helping her isn't one of them.

Anyone can find out more information on escorting. All that they have to do is a very loose search on the internet.

She found backpage, right? If she is so inclined, she'll find Eccie, too.

Her timeline. Not yours.

Do you LIKE this woman? If you do, leave her alone. There is a small chance that if she went to eccie, started doing this more than full time, you'll either lose her as an employee or somehow, she'll find out about you.

It's murky. Although she should know better than to have such identifying marks on her showing. Oh well.

Life happens, huh?

Good luck. You sound like a nice and concerned man (with a naughty streak, of course!).
ElisabethWhispers's Avatar
I don't usually comment on coed stuff but I will. First, it is not a good idea to mix hobby and real life. Don't assume BP is always unsafe, it is not like she is in a lions den. Lots of our eccie ladies are on there too and are safe so ur excuse of wanting to rescue her from the lions den called BP is the first thing u should throw out the window. Secondly u should not have posted such a dilemma here. U know very well that once someone gets her on here she will see what u posted so u have dammed her to always be on BP since it is more private for her now than eccie ever will be. I could get to the third point but u get my drift. There was probably a better way of doing this and there probably still is but u r definitely not the right person to execute it. Just my thots today, take it for what it's worth, happy hobbying. Originally Posted by chess9718cb
We were writing at the same time and I just really liked what you wrote. Yes. If she gets on Eccie, then what? We rarely will put topics into the archives.

Again, good luck.
wildething's Avatar
u should not have posted such a dilemma here Originally Posted by chess9718cb
I think that's been covered, Capt. Obvious:

1.
There is nothing you can do now. If she moves to eccie she will likely see this post. Originally Posted by hardnfast
and 2.
Do anything but # 1, she gets on ECCIE, finds this thread, then boss' undercover hobbying is compromised. And # 1 really never was a viable option. Originally Posted by BDD
The more we talk about this, the easier it would be for a new eccie member to find. Let's change the subject. I've got a huge fucking dick and I'm horny. Does anyone know any providers around here?
Guest123018-4's Avatar
1 what does she look like
2 what is her rate
3 what is her contact info.

The easiest solution is to get a fine upstanding man from here to introduce her to the community.
Send me a PM with pics.....ijs
Link?
dearhunter's Avatar
You are her employer.......the right thing to do is help her. So, she does not have to come here.
Blackbuddy05's Avatar
1 what does she look like
2 what is her rate
3 what is her contact info.

The easiest solution is to get a fine upstanding man from here to introduce her to the community.
Send me a PM with pics.....ijs Originally Posted by The2Dogs
I was just about to say this.
If I were in Houston now, I'd happily TOFTT....and invite her to eccie and p411 discretely. I've invited several already. ....but I'd need to see those tatoos first LOL

I'll be back in two weeks. PM me if you want me to go in.
notanewbie's Avatar
Introduce her info to a few guys that you know that hobby who won't blab about eccie or you. (Just the ad info) That way at least she has a shot at having halfway decent guys to meet. Or do what dh says.

Fwiw I think I know the ad.
Recognizing an employee is going through a very difficult time, do what you can to help her while adhering to company policy without treating her differently from anyone else.

Now let me make it perfectly clear. There is NO WAY I am going in. It’s not going to happen. The employer / employee relationship being what it is, it just isn’t worth the risk. Also, she has no idea that I hobby. Originally Posted by BDD
Good decision...you could get fired. It could have been something she/someone could use against you; etc; you just don't know how things might play out or who might find out.

What do you think I should do and why? Even if you think I should just stay out of it, please explain why. Originally Posted by BDD
Other than my first comment, just stay out of it...you could get fired. The next thread we read in this forum might be one she is writing about you.
Abigail (Source of JOY)'s Avatar
Recognizing an employee is going through a very difficult time, do what you can to help her while adhering to company policy without treating her differently from anyone else.



Good decision...you could get fired. It could have been something she/someone could use against you; etc; you just don't know how things might play out or who might find out.

Other than my first comment, just stay out of it...you could get fired. The next thread we read in this forum might be one she is writing about you. Originally Posted by eros1970

Exactly....she might get embarrassed or think that you will divulge her little secret to the world and she could easily turn it around on you... though a nice little settlement from a harassment case could help her with her money problems.
  • sexme
  • 07-09-2013, 10:29 PM
Leave it alone! Why were you on backpage? And you are her supervisor! You could be looking for a job and maybe a possible lawsuit