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This is definitely not my thing, but Bravo for talking about it.

Most guys don't like to openly talk about it. Originally Posted by anita

Absolutely. I didn't, for many years. I sure wasn't going to discuss it with anyone I didn't think would be open and nonjudgmental. That may seem silly and repressed, esp. here in Austin, but it's the truth.

People in their 20s and 30s seem to be much more open and comfortable with such things. Older people like me, not so much. The vast majority of people my age and older still have the old binary view of sexuality. If a man ever felt the urge to relinquish control and let his partner take charge, he obviously was gay and in denial.

For me the urge to let go was never that strong to begin with. I enjoyed being in control, just not 100% of the time. But rules were rules; if you were a man you had to be in control. Not complaining, just saying that's the way it was. Anyway it was no big deal because hey, sex!

Things are changing, thank god. I wish I'd been born twenty or thirty years later, but then again I'm still young enough to explore. It wasn't an option for about 99% of the men of my dad's generation, so I'm lucky.

AUSTIN POWERS>> Thanks so much hun for opening up here. It is a breath of fresh air. I'd like to point out that this power exchange play is just that, PLAY . For the curious fellows among us, I am not going to make you feel bad or stupid or silly or hurt you. I am not sadistic woman who gets off on your degradation or humiliation. I like to bring people to their ultimate sexual experience and enjoy stretching boundaries and limits and making folks come more than they knew they could. I also enjoy more vanilla play but my true calling is helping men and women achieve a higher sexual awakening. whether it is teaching a woman or couple to squirt and come 20-30- times in one setting, or taking a man and helping him relinquish his position as a top and in control and let go and let me take him to some new places. Certainly it is about trust, letting go and swapping power. the exchange of power is so intense and I take that responsibility quite seriously. This sort of session is what i live for. it is so hot for me to have a smart, sexy guy like Austin powers let me do this to him and to have him say it worked for him too. it is hot and sexy. any curious guys can know i am kind and gentle and not a mean girl who gets off on hurting guys. let me stretch your boundaries and it doesn't have to be thru your ass, but that is fun too.

ya know the excessive use of those lame icons indicates a lack of imagination and creativity not to mention a laconic lassitude that portends a lack of tongue lashing abilities.

I doubt we will get many guys open enough to discuss this but let's try. I always loved strap ons. How about you? Originally Posted by sue_nami

Let's just say I really don't want to go to prison....

I think that was the ONLY activity so far where I asked the Lady to stop - after I asked her to pop my cherry there - and go back to sucking

sue_nami you'll likely be hearing from me soon... I've always wanted to give that a try, and sounds like you might be the right one ... Austin Powers, you rock.

I just got a new strap on and cant wait to use it!

I'm really glad that everyone has acted as an adult here on this thread. I'm in the hobby for fun, while getting pegged isn't my thing, I really do applaud you guys for experimenting and broadening your sexuality.

Thanks, CPTXguy. I assume there must be someone out in the wide world who'd be as good as Sue for a first-time experience, but it's hard to imagine.

fun2come, I get the prison thing, but the experience bore no resemblance whatsoever to rape (or at least what I imagine rape to be like). Sure, something was sliding up my ass, but that's the only similarity. The same is true of a prostate exam but that's not rape-y either.

The idea of having one-on-one sex with a man does nothing for me. I'm not repulsed or anything like that; just indifferent. I'd messed around when a few buddies with I was a kid, and got sucked off a few times at glory holes years later, it was no more satisfying than a sneeze. Easier to just masturbate. Better, really, if good porn is involved. (The idea of an MMF threesome, though...hmm)

I first saw a pegging video on the internet 8 or 10 years ago and it really pushed my buttons. Did not expect that. I've seen many since - couples, threesomes, etc - and it's always a turn-on if (and only if) a woman is doing the fucking. Go figure...

let me stretch your boundaries and it doesn't have to be thru your ass, but that is fun too. Originally Posted by sue_nami

Sue, I think you nailed it (ahem). The turn on wasn't the ass play in and of itself. It was letting go of control, and you doing things that had never been done to me before. If there had been no ass play you'd have come up with fifteen other ways to thrill me and push my limits, I'm sure of it. The strapon fantasy just provided structure. Any number of other fantasies could do the same, I think. (And the surprises you sprung on me were almost as good as the main event!)

Absolutely. I didn't, for many years. I sure wasn't going to discuss it with anyone I didn't think would be open and nonjudgmental. That may seem silly and repressed, esp. here in Austin, but it's the truth.

People in their 20s and 30s seem to be much more open and comfortable with such things. Older people like me, not so much. The vast majority of people my age and older still have the old binary view of sexuality. If a man ever felt the urge to relinquish control and let his partner take charge, he obviously was gay and in denial.

For me the urge to let go was never that strong to begin with. I enjoyed being in control, just not 100% of the time. But rules were rules; if you were a man you had to be in control. Not complaining, just saying that's the way it was. Anyway it was no big deal because hey, sex!

Things are changing, thank god. I wish I'd been born twenty or thirty years later, but then again I'm still young enough to explore. It wasn't an option for about 99% of the men of my dad's generation, so I'm lucky. Originally Posted by Austin Powers

Aww sweetie,
This type of thing is still taboo to some people, and that is okay. I am so glad you are coming out of your shell, because you are entitled to have sexual activities preferences. Just make peace with the fact that not everyone approves, and that's okay.

I think this is still “on topic” if not please forgive.

I really like turning my body over to my provider. I think she is an expert in pleasing a man and by having her “call the shots” lets me fully enjoy her expertise. I have had providers play with my ass and loved it. I hope that someday the stars will align correctly and I will get the opportunity to have Sue play with me.

my fave hobby, I hope so too hun!!

fun2come, I get the prison thing, but the experience bore no resemblance whatsoever to rape (or at least what I imagine rape to be like). Sure, something was sliding up my ass, but that's the only similarity. The same is true of a prostate exam but that's not rape-y either. Originally Posted by Austin Powers

Well may be I am in another realm

Important thing is that one enjoys and the Hobby is here to explore things with others ... what ever floats your boat.
Some things turn out FUNtastic, other don't.

I think this is still “on topic” if not please forgive.

I really like turning my body over to my provider. I think she is an expert in pleasing a man and by having her “call the shots” lets me fully enjoy her expertise. I have had providers play with my ass and loved it. I hope that someday the stars will align correctly and I will get the opportunity to have Sue play with me. Originally Posted by myfavhobby

Well try to Double UP and have them tie you down, see how you like that. I could recommend a couple cuties with a mean streak