Op,
Sorry you had to find this out the hard way, but posting anything of substance in co-ed is like trying to grab a wet pig covered in vasoline....it's just not happening.
Anywhos, I would suggest posting such topics in another realm where it will be much better received.
To add my 2 cents, I think that any couple that is open to exploring together most likely has a higher chance of success at making it and being happy/healthy.