Psychology is real, studies are real, knowing the pains of our decisions is enlightening. People in society do not decide to go against the norm unless a contingent situation arises. While not all people do things for the same reason we all have similar emotions and feelings. Most but not all cry at sad moments in movies, death of a loved one. Most celebrate at birth of new child, feelings of euphoria, etc. As humans we do have similarities even in the heart and brain. It is well known that most women in this field of work do so out of desperation so many that is nearly all. Men seek out whore to fulfill something missing and not just a nut. Thinking we are the one true exception to the rule can be denial and be dangerous to us. Not saying that is the case just a possibility. Thinking I seek out whore to just be momentarily pleased can be dangerous and cause strife later for me as I do not find what my brain is really seeking. Most women I have talked to say they do this temporarily because they would rather not be a whore. If no shame show pics of your face in advertising be proud of it and show the world who you are but instead nearly all women hide and we all have fake names here to help push down or ignore our inner shame. Maxi you are polite and nice in your posts and I like reading your writings. My opinion comes from wide variety of sources to include some very scholastic places. I have not looked at your showcase but did notice your avatar has no face in it. Nothing wrong with that and not suggesting you do anything different. Just an observation. Like I said I enjoy you discussions on here not being mean just truthful. I don't know of a single source that says fucking women for money is good and healthy for either side of the transaction. Don't know of a single source that says cigarette smoking is good and healthy either. And most smokers not all wish they never started. Same here most whores wish they could do something else and most men wish they were pussy magnets and did not have to pay.
Originally Posted by Boudin3112
Thanks, I try. Much of what you state is true and some of it is not. Beliefs, imposed since our arrival at birth, is something we pass down from generation to generation. I don't believe most hide out of shame, at all. I believe it is out of respect for others they know and their beliefs.
I don't like lying, it's caused many problems in society and for individuals. However, it can also be used in protective situations, which is how many false beliefs came to pass in the first place. I don't lie in order not to add to the muck. I choose tactful truths when I am allowed to, but have the ability to roll in the muck when it is insisted I do so.
The truth is, I had a hard time reading what you wrote and trying to understand your message. So, I read it a couple of times in order to respond to what I did understand the first time.
Being a provider means we are in service to others who have a very intimate need. Intimacy is the taboo of all taboos. Parents get nervous talking to their kids about it. Kids are afraid to ask their parents. It's been judged as wrong, dirty and wrong to be attracted to someone other than your current mate. I could go on, but you get the gist.
Studies are conducted by people. People are biased. They have agendas they believe are righteous or they simply have greedy ones. People change the findings of studies all the time to suit their own agendas, as has been proven time and again. People studying people might even be a more confusing mess.
Look into the practices of the discovery, by whom, the experts involved throughout time and the treatments concerning female hysteria. If that doesn't speak volumes to you about what experts "know" and studies conclude, nothing I ever say, will. And hey, I won't judge you for that. You're a male, after all. LOL
How many times in your own life have you thought about what you believe and how you've noticed things don't appear as the belief states they should, but you held fast to your belief anyway, rather than try to figure out? Many times, I'm sure, because I did it a lot and I see everyone else doing it.
Do not assume that desperation is the key ingredient most use on their travels to becoming whore. I assure you, it's not. Look a little deeper and maybe you will discover otherwise. Read and believe the experts and you may come up with the same answer over and over again. LOL Crazy how that works out, but it's exactly like climbing on the hamster wheel and running until you just can't anymore. Only to discover, you didn't get anywhere, so your only choice is to believe what one "discovered" and exclaimed as true, and everyone else just spits it out as the, By Golly, truth. Ta Da....the belief is formed and people cling to their beliefs, no matter the consequences.
Might I suggest, that in your quest for the truth of any thing, maybe get off the wheel of believing what others want you to know is the truth. Don't believe what is they have discovered, and I'm sorry, but you have to equate in the fact that they could have an agenda for sharing this truth as they chose to, or maybe they didn't discover any kind of truth for themselves at all.
I didn't create this world, but like it or not, it's the one we live in. Again, I don't like to be lied to or given untrue information, therefore, if important enough and especially if it concerns large numbers of people, I look for myself and base my decisions to share what I "know" as being true on what I feel is the most truthful answer I am able to discover and what makes the most sense, common, scientific or otherwise.
What is true in the hobby? Men have a need for intimacy. You can call it sex, busting a nut, or whatever else you wanna call it. You caneven pretend the providers are not real humans if ya want, but intimate is personal and men are in need. Something or someone negates them being able to get that need fulfilled, even if it's their own, self.
Therefore, there is a market for any kind of woman who wishes to provide this type of service for men in need. Many women have discovered, one way or another, that they possess the ability to fulfill these intimate needs of men. And, they are able to make a living, by providing intimate services, as varied as they are, to those in need of intimate services. These facts about the hobby, are the only black and white unchanging information concerning this topic, that I have been able to discern as the believable truth.
It is not the provider or the hobbyist who should feel shame. For one thing, having a need that is being unmet is very common and seeking to fulfill that need is normal human behavior. For another thing, being that special kind of person who can provide and fulfill this longed for need, and it being considered a plus if she truly enjoys being able to provide this for those who need it, is kind of great.
It's the beliefs of how wrong it is to wish to feel or even have the need for intimacy, that are shameful. The majority of the population has the need for intimacy. And someone, an entity, and/or society fooled all these guilt ridden individuals into believing there is shame in seeking and/or providing it. Really? It hasn't always been this way ya know. So, figure out how this came about and you'll discover how ludicrous this self or inflicted shaming really is.
Hiding/pretending/or not revealing all, is necessary to protect ourselves and loved ones from all those idiots who believed when they were told, that it's shameful to need intimacy or feel anything. This ludicrous "belief" that so many cling to ferociously, continues to play a part in this whole dilemma. I hate that it does, but I'd never have been on board had I been around when it was first considered a "no no".