NCNS Epidemic or Bad Hobby Karma

pmdelites's Avatar
chung posted "not trying to be mean, but your "bad luck" is a function of your personality.. we all experience bad connections, but yours exceed anything approaching normal..."

maybe you really did not try to be mean, but whenever i read "not trying to be mean", it usually means "i'm gonna be mean but i dont really wanna be, but the fact is i'm gonna be mean."

"bad luck" is a function of a whole series of decisions/choices made by a bunch of folks, not just one person [what if his parents had never fucked that night they conceived him??].

while i kinda cringe at some of the stuff he's written, i'm w/ boomvang on this one.
he bared his soul [some of which were result of his choices and some of others' choices] and what you do you?
come up w/ TEN "you are ...." opinions about someone you dont even know.
sounds kinda cold to me.

but i dont really know cos i'm just basing that on one post of yours.


i learned a lot time ago [and struggle to work on it now and then]...
when someone is dumping/venting, empathize w/ them, give them moral support.
but DONT dump on them. it's like kicking someone when they've fallen down.
Chung Tran's Avatar
chung posted "not trying to be mean, but your "bad luck" is a function of your personality.. we all experience bad connections, but yours exceed anything approaching normal..."

maybe you really did not try to be mean, but whenever i read "not trying to be mean", it usually means "i'm gonna be mean but i dont really wanna be, but the fact is i'm gonna be mean."

but i dont really know cos i'm just basing that on one post of yours.


i learned a lot time ago [and struggle to work on it now and then]...
when someone is dumping/venting, empathize w/ them, give them moral support.
but DONT dump on them. it's like kicking someone when they've fallen down. Originally Posted by pmdelites
I disagree... I really am not trying to be mean, but it doesn't help anyone to just empathize.. I pointed out attributes the ladies are turned off by, and boomvang has exibited those in several long-winded threads.. I believe he is not having just "bad luck".. my opinion, but it is based on several threads, not just this one.. sorry he doesn't like my answer, but I mean it in good faith.
muffin101's Avatar
I could be watching TV right now but I don't want to.
It's seems lately that the TCB skills of some seems to be severely lacking! In the past few months just a lot of NCNS, lots of no return emails or texts...the current flavor of the month contacted her via text, p411 and PM...nuthin. I'm sure they are doing fine without my $$$ but at least show a good respectful hobbyist the same respect YOU demand. Heck i had a TC USA NCNS-I sure as hell didn't get a 100 bucks back like they would have charged me if I didn't show. Aw what the hell...its a f**ked up world. I kinda feel for the op somewhat...now I'm going to continue to lick my own wounds since no one will return a request and lick it for me
dodger's Avatar
NCNS are part of the hobby ... regrettably. They happen on both sides of the fence and i'm more sympathetic to the ladies on this one. Next, you mention two BP ads ... if NCNS is a concern, book with ladies who are known for reliability.

A little research will help this. Personally I would stay away from the 18 yr dancer who has decided to try providing. I would go with mature (not a chronological age ... a trait) ladies who have a reputation for being responsible.

I would also give strong consideration to ladies I have already seen who have provided me with the sort of session I enjoy. Follow these suggestions, grass hopper, and the world will be revealed to you. Wait! Wrong show ... never mind.
boomvang's Avatar
A little research will help this. Personally I would stay away from the 18 yr dancer who has decided to try providing. I would go with mature (not a chronological age ... a trait) ladies who have a reputation for being responsible.

No one remembers my comments about the appointments that went just fine, One of which was a dancer that came by after her shift, I will admit she is a bit of an exception to that rule. And she's a bit exceptional period. i wouldn't dare mention her name in this travesty or a thread. She's near retirement age tough she has to be mid 20's
boomvang's Avatar
I disagree... I really am not trying to be mean, but it doesn't help anyone to just empathize.. I pointed out attributes the ladies are turned off by, and boomvang has exibited those in several long-winded threads.. I believe he is not having just "bad luck".. my opinion, but it is based on several threads, not just this one.. sorry he doesn't like my answer, but I mean it in good faith. Originally Posted by Chung Tran
Right. I bet your a short little guy in real life Mr Chung. Get picked on a lot in school? You mentioned a pattern in my post yesterday so I read a lot of your's in return. I hadn't ever been in the sand box before. Really. You sure kick a lot of sand in people's faces in there, But what really pissed me off is the couple of times I agreed with your condescending, know it all self, I am long winded but I thought I was a better person that that. (not trying to be mean, just help)
muffin101's Avatar
Oh stop it~~~

Just had a wonderful session with Alicia Smiles.

I'll help

Go out there and fuck somebody today!
pmdelites's Avatar
Oh stop it~~~

Just had a wonderful session with Alicia Smiles.

I'll help

Go out there and fuck somebody today! Originally Posted by muffin101
agreed!!
it's one thing to show compassion and support.
another to appear to be less supportive if not "mean".

and less than cool to call people names or cut them down w/ ad hominem remarks.

chill, people, chill!
and like muffin suggested, "Go out there and fuck somebody today!"
in my case, thursday for holiday delites!!
Take it for what it's worth.
This shit is like going to the horse races.
Sometimes your horse wins. Sometimes it doesn't.
If your picking bad horses. It's Not Karma.
Try a different picking system.
Horses get spooked easy. And when they do they normally won't Win, Place, OR SHOW
Good Luck and simply analyze what the variable for so many NS are.
Over communication? Rude? Impatient?
Or simply your picking bad horses to start with.
Only you know the answers.
Hobby Safe.