What about us big guys?

I big guys.. They can be my teddy bear..
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As this is not match/eharmony/christiansingles etc lol I couldn't care less about size/weight, race, stuff like that. Your personality is right, screening is right, hygiene is right, donation is right we are sooooo good to go . You will not be treated with less respect or shown less of a great time if you're a big guy.


Question for the ladies. How do you feel about overweight clients? Not morbid obese can't get out of bed type, but just normal fat guys. A lot of guys that have been heavy since our teen years have a bit of a confidence problem. Probably why most end up here in the hobby. I'm sure there are a few good looking guys who simply like the variety and the thrill that the hobby provides, but my guess is that most of us are old, fat, bald, or just shy and it's the easiest way to get laid.

I know that my money is just as good looking as a gym god's, but is there a let down when you open the door and see a guy pushing 300? Assuming that the person is clean and respectful, would you ever turn a guy away simply because you can't get past the physical attraction? Originally Posted by swarmyone
I never have expectations of what my client looks like. I actually prefer the bigger guys, they're more passionate and not just about themselves.

All I care about is that your hygiene is good, teeth/tongue brushed and you don't man handle me. Originally Posted by MsElena
I can imagine you with your hand grasping some guys hair with his head yanked back and you feverishly brushing his teeth while cursing, and then a wet coarse wash cloth scraping over his reddening body; lastly, a few slaps to his face and a terse comment from you, "get in there and lie down." But now come your gentle touches.

All of the women who commented on this thread are the best, earnest and empathetic responses, very sweet and kind.
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go to the PI, they worship us old fat guys...
I can imagine you with your hand grasping some guys hair with his head yanked back and you feverishly brushing his teeth while cursing, and then a wet coarse wash cloth scraping over his reddening body; lastly, a few slaps to his face and a terse comment from you, "get in there and lie down." But now come your gentle touches.

All of the women who commented on this thread are the best, earnest and empathetic responses, very sweet and kind. Originally Posted by buzzworm86

LOL Nope, that's not what I'd do. I'm only domme when a guy wants to be dominated. If he can't brush his teeth on his own, he's not kissing me or putting his mouth anywhere near my kitty.
LOL Nope, that's not what I'd do. I'm only domme when a guy wants to be dominated. If he can't brush his teeth on his own, he's not kissing me or putting his mouth anywhere near my kitty. Originally Posted by MsElena
Is that what a domme would do? Remind me to be a dirty boy!

It was a fun thought though, I know you've had some bad experiences, I remember the story you told of the bed sheet that you had to throw away because of some guys skid mark that was left. Probably a skinny guy who did it!
I'm 6'0' and 275lbs, handsome, well groomed and unapologetically Black. I've never been turned down because of my size. However, my race has excluded me on more than one occasion. I respect the provider's choice to see whomever she wants for whatever reasons. I'm really comfortable in my own skin and always go the extra mile to make sure she remembers me and is excited when I call back. I think most women, providers or not, appreciate confidence without arrogance. I definitely strive to be beyond clean and fresh in terms of hygiene and I know that's always appreciated.
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Swarmyone I myself am a big guy and I've found that all of the ladies I've met have always treated me well and never lead me to believe they were disappointed in my weight. I have always wondered myself but my experiences to date have all been positive.

I do my best to always be clean and respectful at all times. I don't mind talking and getting to know each other a little. While I do not have rolls I do have extra pounds but all of the ladies I've met to date have been great. We are fortunate to have some quality ladies here in KC.
Yes me too Swarmy, I'm 6'3" and #300 I've only ever found that they would rather be on top than do mish, and what guy would argue with that? Most Ive been with were/are on ECCIE and were really sweet and kind.
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And here I thought we were talking about another kind of big....
And here I thought we were talking about another kind of big.... Originally Posted by Bomb Pop
Well that goes without saying!
Being a bigger man isn't always a bad thing. I prefer the guy who is pleasant, smiling, and treats me well, over the one who visually looks great. Often, bigger guys are the most polite, kind, and gentle men out there, while those who look stunning tend to think they don't have to put forth much effort or treat others very nice.

Good breath helps. Most overweight men seem to have good breath.

Frequent showers are a plus. Overweight men seem to bathe on a more regular basis.

Friendly attitude respecting boundaries is kick ass. Most bigger men think they would never have a chance with a hot chic, thus they don't cross the client/provider boundary, which really helps make the relationship long term. Hot men think they deserve a hot chic and often want to date, it then becomes awkward. I don't want to cross over into a territory that could yield disaster. We met, it's working, let's stick to it. Fantasies can last a long time when boundaries are respected. Fantasies can easily become reality, if client/provider rules were followed long term.

Returning from left field… I like to see, hear, and discuss positive things. The number on the scale doesn't matter to me. Wash your crack, balls, brush your teeth, smile, hug me, and treat me like a princess and we'll get a long for a long time.

He who has 99 strong areas, has a great chance of the 1 weak area being forgotten or dismissed.