Just venting

BigpoppaC's Avatar
As I put it in my original statement, "that is all". I did move on and will never consider seeing that provider again. I am not butt hurt or upset about anything. There are too many options out there for me to choose from. If I were to disclose the name of the provider,which I wont, you would wonder why she would be asking this in the first place. But if u advertise on "short availability thread" daily it seems to me that you need customers. I have a SO at home and I am not socially akward by any means. I just like a variety in my sexual adventures and love all shapes and sizes in my woman.Not here for love here to live out sexual fantasies.
sms918's Avatar
lots of types of providers. both sides should be comfortable with each other.

certain providers I chose not to see, certain providers chose not to see me. (can be awkward not knowing before hand)

providers want business, sometimes lie or misrepresent their looks, ethnicity, likes/dislikes, prices.

being a "fathead", I prefer knowing a provider is repulsed by my appearance, or at least, can't act as if she isn't. (I list general stats in my profile, tell provider in communications, but still have had providers meet me and I could tell it was very difficult for them to follow thru with session.)

even though it can be bad for business, It is easier when providers(or whoever "speaks" for them) are upfront about their preferences(weight, gender, age, etc.)

pics can be problems for both sides. if you have references and are legit, security isn't a pic.

glad for your comments, and attitude.

I'm guessing several providers have pm'd or called you, either friends or possibly new friends to tell you that San Antonio(and other cities) have great providers who enjoyed meeting you or wish to meet you.
Just because a girl posts on the SNATCH doesn't make her hard up for customers. It's the easiest way to let everyone know she's playing today.

Now regarding pics, I've had many men send pics unrequested. I don't pay it any mind myself but it is nice to put a face to a name since we are mostly going in blind.

Also, it is really up to the girl who she wants to see or not. And she doesn't "owe" anyone an explanation for her choice. Yes, she is getting paid but it is ultimately her body and her choice. She's more at risk than a man in my opinion so if she doesn't feel comfortable seeing Joe Blow because he's a big guy or Bob Dole because he is annoying her with his PMs, THAT'S HER PREROGATIVE.

Personally, I like the fluffier types myself, they're fun to bounce on. But a fit guy is fun in other ways.
sms918's Avatar
I agree with lovelyevelyn comments.

I know that some view short notice as either high volume, hard up, or other negative things. Some hobbyists won't see them, some providers won't see hobbyists that see providers on short notice a lot.
I think it can be a very useful tool to know who's available ( especially when mood strikes you and you don't want to wait days to satisfy need)

It is a real shame we don't have as far as I know, something like a calendar that could make hobbying simpler. Like tuesday, march 7 at 4 p.m., who's available. ( if a provider is hobbying, has a session scheduled or open.)

Providers are real people with real lives, I doubt they sit around in lingerie all day waiting( profile: m-f 8-8, that's alot of hours sitting waiting)

Pics help, but not for security. Both sides should use other means to feel safe for a meeting.
Sonya Playmate's Avatar
We ALL deal with rejection and it sucks, especially in this arena because it can feel very personal, but the reality is that it is not.


Just like in any business, a woman can choose who her clients are, regardless of their wallets. I don't screen out based on looks, but certain behaviors will get someone declined, no matter how much money is at stake. The concept that escorts have no control over their bodies because they are getting paid is very misguided, at best, and possibly, misogynistic.

Site ran by men? Not sure what that has to do with us not having control of who we see and who we don't. Originally Posted by Camille Fox

So true! Humm, I wonder what Samcro84 could be thinking about...

As I put it in my original statement, "that is all". I did move on and will never consider seeing that provider again. I am not butt hurt or upset about anything. There are too many options out there for me to choose from. If I were to disclose the name of the provider,which I wont, you would wonder why she would be asking this in the first place. But if u advertise on "short availability thread" daily it seems to me that you need customers. I have a SO at home and I am not socially akward by any means. I just like a variety in my sexual adventures and love all shapes and sizes in my woman.Not here for love here to live out sexual fantasies. Originally Posted by BigpoppaC

Awesome!
handyGiraffe's Avatar
The only way this community can be all that it can be for everyone is for both the guys and the ladies to work together...

I'm not personally enthusiastic about sending a photo out into the 5th dimension...and if I get the request for a personal photo I will evaluate it based on the lady that is asking for it.....