My advice would be to withdraw a good sized chuck of money and set up abiut six or eight sessions with the best review, best looking gals in this board. Two hour sessions. And jet them fuckmyour brains out to the point of exhaustion. Four to sux weeks non-stop.
Then dip,your toes into the civi dating pool. That way, the first time you get a civil who treats you reasonably well and isn’t a dead lay, you wing be so tempted to get married right away. You’ll know that there is better out there.