Great question Renee! I applaud you for having the care to find out what subs are preferring these days. In My opinion. I believe it varies from sub to sub. Some subs find discretion imperative, while others yearn to parade around for an audience while in full submission. Some of us proudly raise our freak flags :>
It is important to provide different forums for play. Parties and special events are a fabulous way to push your subs limits but discretion can still be provided if a Domina gets creative.
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