When mods takes it personal

I don't hold my tongue that much. If you have ever read any of my posts, you will know I speak my opinion. I try not to be offensive while being straight forward. Favoritism is an issue that will always be around at any job or event. We all do it from time to time and it can bother us when we are not the favorite. I played on a football team where the coaches two twin sons played. One was the quarterback and the other was the running back. The two kids sucked and we lost a lot of games. I got the ball for an end around one play and ran for a touchdown, not because of my skill but because the other team was fooled thinking one of his two boys would have the ball yet again, lol. I never got the ball again as it did make his boys look good. I was a teenager so had little voice but i spoke my peace and I was benched.
This is an opinion board up for discussion, I cannot see any harm in writing your opinion. No mod should take it personal, so state your issue in a politically correct form and see the response.
Crazy thing is most people are tolerable of differences of opinions but some here are not and that is just sorry, lol. One guy likes a lady another says he does not like her and he gets jumped. Not every dude is for every gal and vice versa. Honestly, I state what I think of this hobby an a the true reason we do what we do. I get blasted for it, some ladies would never see me, not that big a deal to me. Originally Posted by Boudin3112

Agreed!!

That has always been an issue and will always be one. Some mod's get free/discounted sessions and give preferential treatment. Just have to accept it as part of the business/hobby. Originally Posted by turbo-dog

I could careless. Was pointing it out how mod hat is on for some and always off for others.

ONE NEW MOD seem to get a power kick from the authority that HE have here. Originally Posted by Scratchynuts

I was hoping the fish would chime in and enlighten us on a bizarre story she once told on
how the mod knew of her mandle the whole time and how he called and tried to help her keep her mandle.
She is the best one to tell her story, I was only an ear.
Did the mod share with his comrades she was in somewhere she should not have been, reading and watching everything since he knew?

Would this be considered favoritism or just a mod hat off type of thing?

Or is this just a wild story from the fish just blowing smoke up my ass?

Oh well she served her time so no big deal

Mods are unpaid volunteers doing a thankless job of putting up with a lot of stupidity, attitude and all-around bullshit from both sides of the aisle. How they do it is beyond me.

What's even more stupid is when they choose to volunteer for the wrong reasons

How they do is not so difficult, WHY they do it is what I don't understand. Why would a person help a website without pay? Why would someone sign up to help a company make money without any benefit at all? This is not a charity here, look at all the banners doubt they advertise for free. What is a right reason to volunteer for a whore board? This is a very selfish hobby, dudes want pussy (at least on the surface but deeper down they want to be desired and feel masculine), women want cash. We all lie to each other to get what we think we want. Dudes bullshit the ladies and try to impress, hell just look at the bullshit reviews or comments on reviews. Women act like they like it and want it. All lies and shit. So, one liar is now going to volunteer to help make a person or people he does not even know money without an piece of the pie. He does it for a few reasons 1)to be liked or 2) preceived power. People don't stay mods because usually neither of those two items or ever satisified. No right reason to allow one's self to be taken advantage of.

I have never used my position as a mod to get freebies or discounted rates. It would also be naive to say that it doesn't happen. I have always treated everyone with respect until you give me a reason not to ( e.g rudeness) . We all have daytime jobs and being a mod can definitely try your patience. Do we get "perks" ? Yes but it's not free or discounted pussy. We get access to areas that others have to pay or earn review credits for. OG's broad statement is just ignorant. It's as ignorant as saying that all sex industry workers are uneducated gold digging thieves. There isn't a MODDING for dummies book out there. If you have a problem with a mod, pull up your big boy / girl pants and discuss it with them or escalate it. There are many things that go on behind the scenes which you are unaware of. No one is telling you to not voice your opinion just be civil when doing so. We make mistakes too. For the record CC kicked ass as a Mod.

How they do is not so difficult, WHY they do it is what I don't understand. Why would a person help a website without pay? Why would someone sign up to help a company make money without any benefit at all? This is not a charity here, look at all the banners doubt they advertise for free. What is a right reason to volunteer for a whore board? This is a very selfish hobby, dudes want pussy (at least on the surface but deeper down they want to be desired and feel masculine), women want cash. We all lie to each other to get what we think we want. Dudes bullshit the ladies and try to impress, hell just look at the bullshit reviews or comments on reviews. Women act like they like it and want it. All lies and shit. So, one liar is now going to volunteer to help make a person or people he does not even know money without an piece of the pie. He does it for a few reasons 1)to be liked or 2) preceived power. People don't stay mods because usually neither of those two items or ever satisified. No right reason to allow one's self to be taken advantage of. Originally Posted by Boudin3112

How do you feel qualified to speak for anyone other than yourself? So according you there are only two reasons someone would be a mod? Interesting...

I did it mostly for two reasons. First, to help. The Nola board was in a delicate situation because a long time mod (Big C, now he was a really good mod) stepped down and there was a lot of bullshit going on. I felt I could help herd the cats and keep the bullshit to a minimum. Second, for the experience. I thought it would be extremely interesting and possibly even fun to moderate a hobby board.

To be liked or power (whether actual or perceived) never entered my mind when making the decision to become a mod in the first place or continue being a mod.

Okay in hindsight maybe my human tree comment was out of line and I apologize for it, but my base point is the mods need to police themselves with the same diligence they do in herding us in line. I know we don't know what goes on behind the scenes. I have heard pieces
of it and its dammed disturbing, but ain't my circus, not my monkeys.

The biggest problem with everybody's OPINIONS here is it's just that - OPINION. The only people who know what really goes on are the mods and members involved in whichever specific event is being handled at that time.

When a mod overlooks when one his favorites
is running wild like a fish out of water and he does nothing.
Is it fair to the rest of us?

What do you do? Let your trigger finger do
the clicking or just overlook the fish?

Is it fair he always has his volunteer mod hat off
when it comes to his favorites and the mod hat is
always on when it comes to others?

....You know basically when a person (mod) is trying to earn
himself a presence status off of someone else, because he is no-one! Originally Posted by Seeking ~P

First, you're assuming the mod even knows about whatever is going on and that person is a favorite. When I was a mod I tried to read every new post that I could in order to keep up. But life, family and work get in the way and there isn't always time to read it all. We don't live on here 24/7/365 just waiting for each new post to read. We have lives, so we don't always see everything that is posted as soon as it's posted, or even at all. So, what you may think is a mod playing favorites, he may just have never seen whatever you think the problem is.

I had members accuse me of playing favorites with women I had never even met and had given warnings and/or points to before, but some jackass who thinks he or she knows everything will say anything to make themselves feel better.

Yeah sometimes it does appear the mods favor some and hammer the ones they don't like. I and an issue where mods erroneously gave me PA time and missed it. They told me they wouldn't take the time away if I didn't make the mistake again. Then turned around and did just that so I don't take certain mods words very seriously anymore. If you can't maintain the integrity of your word that says a lot about character. Originally Posted by OldGent

Do you know for a fact that the mod who told you that you'd keep it was the one who had it removed? With multiple mods it's not uncommon for one mod to talk to the member and say one thing yet another mod finds the error and has admin handle the situation and neither knows what the other is doing.

That has always been an issue and will always be one. Some mod's get free/discounted sessions and give preferential treatment. Just have to accept it as part of the business/hobby. Originally Posted by turbo-dog

Never got a discount or a freebie. Never even got the offer.

I can't count the number of times I've seen people post about mods getting free or reduced price sessions with providers. That never happened with me, I don't think it was even offered to me. That may or may not happen in other cities (don't have a clue), but I don't think that happens around here much, if at all.

I can't speak for anyone other than me, but I always tried to treat everyone fairly and to give more respect than was given me. If someone was reasonable and pleasant with me, I would be more so with him/her. If someone was a real shithead and disrespectful, then I would be as fair as possible with him/her. In a nutshell, when it comes to how you are treated, you get what you give.

Remember, mods don't get a damn thing for the work they do and the impressive amounts of bullshit they put up with. You can yell and scream about all the free pussy the mods get, but that simply isn't true.

I rarely call anyone out, but OldGent my reply to your comment of "We aren't exactly dealing with the highest branch on the tree of humanity." is pretty simple. Fuck you and if you give a shit how about you get involved and make a difference instead of having your head up P's ass? Originally Posted by causewaycommuter

Amen. When members who screw up are civil and cooperative there's more leniency toward them than members who are rude and uncooperative. I've had members go absolutely ape shit crazy and curse me out for giving them a warning about something. A WARNING!!! They break the rules and curse you out for giving them a simple warning or points.

There are also some rules that when broken the administrators state are grounds for immediate points, no warnings whatsoever.

I gave a whole lot of warnings to people. You had to be a real asshole, a repeat offender or broke the big rules to get points from me.

Very true dog. We aren't exactly dealing with the highest branch on the tree of humanity. Originally Posted by OldGent

Neither were we, but if you think you can do a better job, by all means, volunteer. You can always be a mod for a different region.

...Some seem to get a power kick from the authority that they have here. Originally Posted by Scratchynuts

There's no "power kick" in the mod job. If anything, it's more like being a pre-school teacher trying to keep track of a bunch of babies who don't play nice and follow the rules.

Apparently individual Mods can just cherry-pick things. I got an "infraction" notice tonight for my latest review.

Apparently he doesn't like basketball and the Mod gave me points?!? What-the-fuck-ever, man.


Really? I didn't mention any "forbidden topic" AT ALL and I didn't do ANYTHING that isn't done REGULARLY when discussing "forbidden topic." Example, using a different word, like a candy or something, for what you are talking about. Because HEAVEN FORBID you actually give the people on here VITAL and USEFUL information regarding someone they might want to see. Wouldn't want actual information to be shared.

"Assuming" what I was talking about when I don't actually state it is NOT an infraction. It never was until now anyway. Originally Posted by albundy

I like you Al, and didn't read your last review before it was edited, but the rules on that topic are straight forward - it's a FORBIDDEN TOPIC. The WHOLE TOPIC. Not just the words. That means it's not to be discussed in any manner whatsoever. And any slang, terms, nick names, urban slang and even the use of the term "forbidden topic" as a replacement is the same thing as using the other terms. It's a simple rule - don't discuss it all all. Period.

What's even more stupid is when they choose to volunteer for the wrong reasons Originally Posted by Seeking ~P

You have no idea why mods volunteer for the job. I'm sure everybody does it for different reasons but you don't know those reasons and you certainly can't say their reasons were wrong. I was asked to do the job. I did it to help out. I did it because I enjoyed being part of this hobby and community and NOLA needed a replacement. I thought it might be fun. I was wrong about that.

That was before i knew how much bullshit came with the job. Before I got cursed out for warning people to follow the rules. Before people accused me of playing favorites with people I'd never met or talked to before in my life. Before members who thought we were the hobby police and could do something to other members for things that happen off the board. Before I knew so many members, male and female, had multiple handles. Before I knew how many members, especially newer members would just be so unpleasant and continue to break rules day after day after day.

I believe it was Melissa Madyson who asked a while back why this board seemed so dead lately. Unfortunately there have been too many new people in the past few years who, with either their ghetto attitudes or confrontational attitudes and drama, were constant trouble makers and they have driven away many of the older members. Some are still here, lurking, some have disappeared altogether. Too many unpleasant people have made the mod job and general membership less than desirable.

...I like you Al, and didn't read your last review before it was edited, but the rules on that topic are straight forward - it's a FORBIDDEN TOPIC. The WHOLE TOPIC. Not just the words. That means it's not to be discussed in any manner whatsoever. And any slang, terms, nick names, urban slang and even the use of the term "forbidden topic" as a replacement is the same thing as using the other terms. It's a simple rule - don't discuss it all all. Period... Originally Posted by pornodave69

Well the rules must be interpreted differently in other cities. Check out Dallas as one example. You see the word "Skittles" thrown around constantly and "shooting hoops" also. And yet, that's been standard practice for a while now. I suppose I just misinterpreted. I guess some of the hookers out there just really enjoy eating candy and playing some basketball. My mistake.

I'll provide MANY links to examples if you like.


But, whatever. I'll leave it alone now. I wouldn't want to discuss illegal activities or anything. LOL!!

Actually, I don't want to leave it alone, just yet.

Can one of the Mods explain WHY we can't mention "you know what" at all in any way shape or form? Really, what is the point in that rule? We discuss, IN DETAIL, illegal activities DAILY, but even hinting about "you know what"? Well, that's just WRONG. Uhhhhhh...OK.

This site has "information" as part of its title and yet helpful "information" is censored or discouraged?!? WTF?!? This is a hooker information board, is it not?

I don't know about you, but I'd like to know IMPORTANT information regarding someone I may bang. Knowing if she is BBJ or not is certainly useful and mandatory information, but there are other things that might be even more important to know.

Obviously, I can't change anything. It is what it is. But, I was curious about this odd "rule."

Believe me, I had disagreements with the administrators on several issues, whether it was a rule, or how to improve things for mods and members and other issues. They're stuck in their ways and anything that resembles change is grounds for ridicule.

As far as the rules being interpreted differently, that's only because some of the mods don't actually do their job the way it's supposed to be done. They're too lazy to spend the time to warn and point the members who break the rules, so more members then break the rules and soon nobody is following the rules or being disciplined for breaking the rules.

As for the forbidden rules, if you got busted for something, would you prefer to be charged with one crime/offense or several crimes? I'm guessing you'd only want to be charged with one. I assume its for the same reason they don't want that topic and other age related topics to be discussed.

Yes, it may be important for people to know and nobody is stopping the information from being exchanged, it just can't be done in public.

First, you're assuming the mod even knows about whatever is going on and that person is a favorite. Originally Posted by pornodave69

You do not know for sure if i'm assuming or not.
You do not know where i was sitting or who i was visiting at the time when a call came in and i can overhear a full discussion.

Thank you,

How do you feel qualified to speak for anyone other than yourself? So according you there are only two reasons someone would be a mod? Interesting...

I did it mostly for two reasons. First, to help. The Nola board was in a delicate situation because a long time mod (Big C, now he was a really good mod) stepped down and there was a lot of bullshit going on. I felt I could help herd the cats and keep the bullshit to a minimum. Second, for the experience. I thought it would be extremely interesting and possibly even fun to moderate a hobby board.

To be liked or power (whether actual or perceived) never entered my mind when making the decision to become a mod in the first place or continue being a mod. Originally Posted by causewaycommuter

I have no dog in this fight but I do have to say something about Big C.
He was a good mod on the boards but he definitely had his favorites and he expected free sessions. It wasn't a thing where we offered him free sessions, he expected to just get them and when we turned him down, he was no longer the nice mod he was before. He would actually go out of his way to hurt your business if he didn't get what he wanted. But I still liked him off board and was sad to see he (and some of my favorite board members...like alwayswillingnable and ronmet) was gone when I came back. Some mods do abuse their power, unfortunately.
But that was all on aspd so it may not even be relevant here.

Kati