Need Advice

Talk to your wife and to a good divorce lawyer. Not necessarily in that order. Divorce may not be the inevitable outcome here, but you need to talk to a lawyer to know the lay of the land if it goes that way.

And when talking with your wife, try to have an honest discussion about where the relationship will go without getting overly angry or accusatory; it won't help. You both obviously want something the marriage isn't giving you now, and have for some time. Figure out a solution that works for both of you, whether that be an open relationship, counseling, or putting it out of its misery.

Sounds like a great opportunity for you and your wife to get real and very honest about your relationship. If she is "looking" and youre "playing" my money says you both want the same thing but are scared to confront each other about it. I'm a believer that variety keeps things fresh and fun as long as both parties know exactly whats going on.

NO NO NO he needs to wait!
Divorce will cost him out of the A$$.
She will get the kids, shack up with guys paying her rent and he will have to pay child support.
She will win big time!
Seen it happen many of times. Originally Posted by BossyWillson

Actually, she only looks like she wins from a pissed off guy's perspective. I will guarantee you that women, given the option, would choose the life you say would be "winning". You can always make your own misery, I guess, and wish only bad things to happen to your ex. But, you'll just be making yourself upset.

We have been married 23yrs. She had one affair that lasted 5 months (she said three months but I'm assuming five plus) after we were married 6yrs. I left her for a year and we got back together. I was faithful to her for 11yrs until I caught her texting someone and saying,"I want to fuck you but I can't do that again. I'll lose my husband and kids if he finds out". Kudos for not doing it but WTF! Gut instinct told me she was cheating so I found eccie. I got on here purely for the sex:. I wasn't getting it at home so I decided I'd try eccie since it seemed safe.

We've had a good year but now she is acting a little weird again and I think she may be cheating or trying to cheat again.

I'm horny has hell and just want to fuck or get a bbbjcim!!!! What in the hell do I do? I have two kids. I don't want to lose them and I don't need any BS! I'm tired if jacking off!

Anyone else in/has been in this situation?


Ladies, I'im sure this turns you away from me but I truly am at a loss! Originally Posted by learnm32000

You got any taint photos of your wife? Also, please post her contact info.

Good advise above. For sure get a hobby phone and it would not hurt to get a saving account at a bank that she does not use and toss a little in there from time to time for hobby purposes. Just opt for the online bank statement! Good luck.

Any bank account is gonna show up somewhere. And, you can bet a divorce attorney will find it and make you look real bad.

If you're stashing cash, you literally have to stash cash.