I felt compelled to read this post and leave my reply as I feel that I am now thoroughly confused about what successful, wealthy businessmen want in a woman. I too am (so I have been told throughout
most of my life) highly attractive, however, I also have a great personality and obvious sense of humor. I have a lot of humility and am NOT vain in the least, mostly resulting from the fact that I was REALLY ugly in my pre-teen years. I had buck-teeth and braces twice, a horrible haircut, and no fashion sense. I got teased A LOT to the point of tears for several years and my only defense was to develop a personality and work with what I had. Long story short, I hit puberty, the boobs came in, skin cleared up and teeth straightened out-- the same boys who used to terrorize me by growling at me and calling me "lion" were asking me to homecoming, prom, etc. The inner workings of a teenaged boy's mind is ridiculously hard to fathom.
Anyway, now I am 27 with a college degree, speak 3 languages, well-traveled and single (which I love BTW). I have a few older male friends who are in arrangements and when I ask them the same question, "How does a girl like me snag a successful man?" they have told me on several occasions to "act interested, not interesting." Although it seems like a simple task, it's hard for me to sit there and not discuss the things that are important to me as well and just listen; I'm just more of a conversationalist than that. I just can't understand how an intelligent, successful man would prefer their lover or wife to be someone to just sit there like a stump and linger on their every word rather than discuss the simple pleasures in life, each others' interests, the world in general, etc -- isn't that what most successful men do all day already? Talk about themselves, their business goals, etc.
So as far as the original post and subsequent posts go, I am confused as well: Do smart, successful men really want an intelligent, witty, charming woman who is a "Plain Jane" or a sexy seductress who is easy on the eyes but hard on the ears/brain? I would say a combination of the best of both worlds would be an ideal mate but my personal experiences have proven otherwise.... not that I'm "the best of both worlds" but I have no problem inadvertently acquiring male admirers, they're just usually the kinds of guys I prefer to have a friends and not lovers... it's kind of a running joke that I'm every nerd's fantasy because I know about a lot of "nerdy" knowledge and can carry on an intelligent and humorous conversation and make most men feel comfortable around me. It's like I'm living, breathing paradox-- successful businessmen like the way I look but don't want to be bothered with any intellectual stimulation I may want from them and men I am not interested in would love to have a chance with me because I'm down-to-earth, attractive, but most of all, easy to talk to. What is up with this?