I agree with Alyssa but since the original review from the OP was so positive it seems to suggest there is more to the story and none of us is likely to know what that is. So, again, Alyssa's remark is viable, it probably doesn't need to survive much longer on this forum. Why don't you contact him directly and see if you can get it worked out privately? Sometimes, right or wrong, public defenses backfire. I would hate to see that happen for you here.i dont know either of the parties involved, but i do know that people will be suuuuuuuuper nice to hide behind privately being a dick. it happens all of the time. narcissists, jerks, abusers. again, im not saying the OP is any of these, but far too often the "nice" guy (and girl) knows exactly what he is doing.
I'm sorry you're having to go through this but try not to dwell on it too much...I doubt your reputation and/or livelihood depend much on it. All will be well. Originally Posted by Contralto
i dont know either of the parties involved, but i do know that people will be suuuuuuuuper nice to hide behind privately being a dick. it happens all of the time. narcissists, jerks, abusers. again, im not saying the OP is any of these, but far too often the "nice" guy (and girl) knows exactly what he is doing.Oh, I suppose you're probably right. Why must people be so complex?Originally Posted by Alyssa Marie
Don't know the real story and we probably never will but the thing that sticks with me is you telling the mods you never met him and now you say you did. Hmmmm Originally Posted by burkaliniim not sure that she has ever said she did meet him, can you show me that part?
.....He may have seen me I'm not disputing that fact but it is what it is ..... Originally Posted by Holly JSo, it seems as though she's not sure if she saw him. I think what makes it difficult to read is the lack of punctuation marks and the way some of the sentences run together.
im not sure that she has ever said she did meet him, can you show me that part?
it seems to me she said she didnt meet him because she read the review and it was false. so right away, "i couldnt have met someone who said i did this and that, because i dont do this and that.. "
now it seems that shes not sure if she met him, but the review is fabricated either way.
i cant tell if she admits to having met him and he lied, or she hasnt met him and he lied, or shes not sure that she met him and he lied. i can just see her saying that he lied.
does it not stick out to you that she commented that she didnt contest her no review? seems those would be the ones to contest....
i can understand her being upset. if someone posted that i did greek.. i would never know how long after the fact i would have to tell everyone, "just fyi, i dont do greek." people are going to contact her expecting something and theyre going to be upset when they get there and find out she doesnt.
xx Originally Posted by Alyssa Marie
i think she tried that. the contacting him. the contacting mods. remember, the guy who started this is the one who made it public. so, shes already annoyed at him for (her version) lying. now he made it a spectacle. i dont blame her for sticking up for herself. its going to be annoying to tell all of the new guys who contact her that she isnt gfe..
The whole thing could have been settled quietly via PMs; all she had to do was mail him and ask nicely to modify the review, then he could have shot an email over to the mod and had them modify the review to remove a part, instead she shoots messages calling names and overreacting from the get-go. It's this type of behavior that makes me not want to see a hook no matter how hot she may look. Originally Posted by cherno
i think she tried that. the contacting him. the contacting mods. remember, the guy who started this is the one who made it public. so, shes already annoyed at him for (her version) lying. now he made it a spectacle. i dont blame her for sticking up for herself. its going to be annoying to tell all of the new guys who contact her that she isnt gfe..The way the thread was presented is such that it made it sound like she started off with nasty PMs from the get go, instead of trying to approach things in a nice fashion:
but im pretty sure in the end her business will be fine.
guys always like to say, "this will hurt your business... "
when the reality is, most guys we see dont post on nor read these boards.. look how many views and imagine how many of those have decided to not see her that actually planned on it. Originally Posted by Alyssa Marie