A Mans Perspective/Advice

Chella,

It is up to you! Only you can tell if it feels right. If you do and he doesn't want to see you again, that shows he is shallow minded and immature, especially if you both hit it off.

As for your raging hormones, as a woman, you can have any guy you want when you want. Us men are perpetually horny.
Stemal's Avatar
I'd hit it on first date
LA Man's Avatar
Give someone and outrageous non GfE experience the night and morning before. If hormones are still in over drive then call the hobbyist back up for a nooner and afternoon delight.

If you feel on the date that you are attracted enough to bed him down then it definitely feels right on the first date!!
No man will or has ever said wow she is hot, smart, funny, and we get along great but... she did have sex with me on the first date so I am not going to see her again. Have confidence in who you are and everything will fall into place.
Wiley64's Avatar
I wouldn't let an outdated rule like that ruin the potentially great evening. If the chemistry is there enjoy the passion. Some of the best all around girls I dated ended our first date with hot passionate sex.
Damn, now I got a chubby!
DallasRain's Avatar
quote---Damn, now I got a chubby!
Im old fashioned too, and I also think if it feels right then no problem, I just dont want to muck a potential good thing up.

And the hormones are raging, with those and some wine Ill probably jump the man. Im sure he will like it, at least for the night lol
Ladies, chellachella; having dated my wife for a year. married as virgins-7X's honeymoon night party. Only can say after 35-1/2 to the same woman. yes sex has changed. but that's why i hobby to get that ole LOVIN excitement. coonass
trekker's Avatar
Personally..... if it's on the first or 50th ...
Do it when it feels right to do it .... Don't plan it , let it happen.... Originally Posted by skeeter
I think this becomes more true as we age. At 20, I probably wouldn't have wanted to get into a relationship with a girl who had given it up on the first date. At 46, that's not the turnoff it once was. In fact, if we don't at least talk about sex on the first date, I might not be interested in having a second. I don't want to take a chance on falling in love with someone who thinks twice a year is enough sex and oral sex is only for low class skanks.
runkle's Avatar
all i know is that the way you keep bringing these topics up and talking about how the hormones are flowing wildly, that poor bastard aint gonna know what hit him when you unleash it on him. im kind of jealous... ;-)
I think it has a lot to do with the guy and what kind of guy you want to end up with.

Some would never marry a woman who used to "hobby". Some, it wouldn't bother.

If sex on the first date rules you out - he's a prick for sleeping with you on the first date and he's doing you a favor.

I slept with my wife on our first date. But, we'd known each other for years before the date.

If you want him - have fun and see where it goes.
just my .02 cents worth ..go out with a guy and if u have things in common and u can carry on a conversation with each other and like the same kind of things why wait to taste the fruit?
lets say u date the guy for a month saving sex for a perfect time and he pulls it out and its too small or he cant give oral worth a damn...cant kiss and doesn't know what foreplay is ...u just wasted a month.
So just go with what u think is right and if u like the guy ..make out a little...if its all going right ..continue or if its in ur mind to stop do so and save some for later.
Main thing is u both have fun !!!
giantbourbon's Avatar
Why worry about it? If you feel like f**k'n him, then f**k him! It there's something there, he'll be back for more.
Depends on what you want. If its just sex, go ahead. if you think you're ready for something more, put if off as long as possible and develop the relationship
DallasRain's Avatar
Depends on what you want. If its just sex, go ahead. if you think you're ready for something more, put if off as long as possible and develop the relationship Originally Posted by ilovethemgirls68
very smart man!

I was a virgin till 17...and it was my SO! I made him wait a year till we did that! Now we have been together 30 yrs!