To the SCUMBAG that left Thursday without paying

So your payday is Thursday and they stiff you on your check. Would you feel like working the rest of the day? Originally Posted by NOBODY60

This isn't a "salary" ... paid by the same "employer"!

Nobody'60's analogy is still fair, Lexus. The money was worked for, depended upon, expected on time, and then, "Poof!" It did a disappearing act. How to react?

Coming from a a lusty lass who has been around a while (ME), I can tell you that is one of the most distressing and disconcerting things that can happen to a provider, and it does put a lady off her game for the rest of the day. Can be difficult to feel anything else other than anger, frustration, and disappointment, much less pleasure, or the generosity of spirit necessary to give others pleasure.

Been quite a few years since that happened to me, but when it did last occur, it was someone I had seen several times before and it was an overnight, so even more unsettling and upsetting. Yes, I reported him everywhere, but it didn't make me feel any less taken advantage of, and it took a couple of days to mellow back out to my normal, sassy self.

Quite a sympathetic response from the OP, and I commend him for his understanding and patience. Not his place to post the guy's handle, however, and for all we know, the lady may have already alerted on him. Usually such reports are best left to the provider-only areas so that the offender won't read it and start hassling her, or, as someone else noted, just change his handle.

I wish her better lays, er, days, ahead.

Alright .... I know who it was......


Heh, I am a cheap bastage

Nice1....come on now man...I guess we see where you stand on guys ripping off providers..SMMFH. it'll be nice if she at least puts up an alert on this low life son of a bitch. I'm sure there's something she can do with those plate numbers..... Originally Posted by hornfreak

Wth? I'm trying to be logical. I feel for her, I'm just saying instead of losing even more money she should be trying to make it up by doubling her efforts the rest of the day. I always settle my transactions up front to avoid any mistakes, I would never cheat any of these ladies.

Apparently, you have never been ripped off. After being ripped off, one feels violated. Just like you would if someone broke into your house and stole things. Then you state "... trying to make it up by doubling her efforts the rest of the day." Maybe the fucktard was her only appointment.

Apparently, you have never been ripped off. After being ripped off, one feels violated. Just like you would if someone broke into your house and stole things. Then you state "... trying to make it up by doubling her efforts the rest of the day." Maybe the fucktard was her only appointment. Originally Posted by pyramider

If you run your own business you've been ripped off before and I have. OP stated she cancelled on him and someone else because of an earlier appointment so it wasnt her only booking. This is part of running your own business, things happen but you move forward and do not let it hold you down. Like I said I feel for whoever it was.

To be honest I don't know why I'm even discussing this, y'all have fun.

If you run your own business you've been ripped off before and I have. OP stated she cancelled on him and someone else because of an earlier appointment so it wasnt her only booking. This is part of running your own business, things happen but you move forward and do not let it hold you down. Like I said I feel for whoever it was.

To be honest I don't know why I'm even discussing this, y'all have fun. Originally Posted by nice1

Oh, I absolutely "get" what you're saying. But what's not in the equation, and others are trying to share their thoughts about it, is this business REALLY affects your head and heart.

It's a sales job. And a healthcare worker job. It's a physical one as well. But it's a job. And when you don't get paid? Oh gosh ... it's happened to me. More than once. Like what happened to the lady above.

Had this heavy appointment. Tough one but well, sweaty. And when it was done?

"I left my wallet in the car."

I'm not going to chase after a MAN. Usually, I'm not dressed in street clothes anyway.

It's such a violation. And when it happens, most females need a bit of time to readjust. Get the head and heart together again.

For whatever reason, this is VERY easy for me to understand. Perhaps it's one of those men are from Mars and females are from Venus things.

And sometimes, not making an alert, or following through with something like that ... is what a women needs to do to just get over a really unpleasant happening. Bless her.

Best,
Elisabeth

If you run your own business you've been ripped off before and I have. ........................... Originally Posted by nice1

and you're own business is gigolo? otherwise I doubt it compares exactly. not everyone in the hobby is purely mechanical. that's what they're trying to explain to you

.............................. .....................Perhaps it's one of those men are from Mars and females are from Venus things........................ .............................. .............................. ........... Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

nope. it isn't. even I get it. and if someone isn't a robot/A.I. or a psychopath, I think it is (whichever condition that is without morals/feelings), then it makes sense. however you term it, explain it, the hobby is largely built on social constructs. for most I think.

so if she felt like poop afterwards then doubles her efforts the next appointment gets what? double poop? poop squared?

This isn't a "salary" ... paid by the same "employer"! Originally Posted by LexusLover

I stand by my comments. Others have explained it better than I have in this thread.

That sucks! I know that feeling. These assholes think there's no karma. SMFH... Now or in the future, but she finds your sorry ass. Usually comes when you're old and defenseless. Maybe he'll get a big mole up his ass that'll hurt when he takes a dump!
To the provider., please send me a pm so I know who to watch out for. And I'm sorry this happened to you. Some ppl don't understand that this business is not all about phisycality, we put much more than that. Feeling violated is only one thing, there's more to what we feel. It's asses like this that ruin the fun out of this business for providers.

correct me if i'm wrong but we are supposed to pay always in advance. so how come these things still happen to a provider ..sorry for her

correct me if i'm wrong but we are supposed to pay always in advance. so how come these things still happen to a provider ..sorry for her Originally Posted by SamHouston

I think at least leaving the money on a dresser or night stand to be taken when the services are rendered should be SOP. But we are all human and things slip our mind sometimes. I recall a session I had with Danny at PA, I completely forgot to take the money out of my pocket. I did not realize until about an hour after the session. What is more incredible is that Danny never did notice. But the deference between me and these scumbags is that I immediately called Angel and made arrangements to return with the money. I even through in a good tip because I felt bad about it.

Damn i feel for her as well. When things like that happens it DOES throw your momentum off for the rest of the day. Dont judge until you've walked in those shoes. Its amazing to me the comments on here. Some of you have all the got damn nerve.

If one of my clients passes a thorough credit check (screening) and they end up not paying, I'm pissed. I earned that money and despite the fact I need it, what's worse is the reminder that the world is full of a$$holes with no conscience who have no problem taking advantage of others (stealing is just one way these scumf*cks do it). That being said, sh*t happens even with stringent screening procedures and you just have to take your lumps and move on. Dwelling on it for too long is counter-productive and the deadbeat loser isn't thinking twice about what he did.

If he is a member here...name him
If she didn't screen him and got caught slipping..share the info with the ladies

Otherwise..whats the point of this thread?