Married newbie questions

Does she swallow?

Sell something on craigslist everytime you wanna hobby. lol

Lol @pyramider I wanna answe but probably shouldn't

Thanks for the old post it gives a lot of great advice


@annie. Good advice I didn't think of that.

You can always take a chance and get caught....This may open the doors for you....Ask her about another female in the bedroom...The answer is either yes or no....I am not married anymore so do not have these worries at all...

TexasCowboy

It just took one thank you text from one of my regulars to put my divorce into motion. Damn good date though.

first, you will now have to WAIT until the dust settles and she's not looking for it in every way possible.

Use that time to explore the new boundaries and see if you can live with them for a while.

Once the dust settles, go to a restaurant with her and leave a huge tip. like $30 for a $20 meal or something. Make sure you write $5 on your copy, and make sure she doesn't see the other. When you see the statement, tell her you have lost faith in using CCards at some restaurants and you want to start using cash. Make sure she doesn't fly off the handle and try and report the waitstaff, that would suck. Just explain that lesson is learned and there's no reason to take it out on someone that is that desperate. (of course by that I mean you lol)Then take a few trips to McDonalds alone when you are supposed to go to Chillis for lunch, and you are on your way.

That won't be the way to hide cash, but it will get her used to the idea of you having cash on hand, it's about conditioning. Use it to pay for stuff WITH HER, so she can see where it's going and infer that the rest is going to similar places.

Find a guy friend to go out with at night. Tell her you are going to the bar, and ask her if she wants to come along. Make sure it's an annoying place for her to be. Tell her it's your buddy's idea and he's dragging you along. Make sure you are really going though, in case she calls your bluff and goes with you.

When you are there, spend alot of money on alcohol for other people. Like your buddy and your wife. The next day, you can account for spending $150-$200 by going to the bar.

Next time when the wife won't want to go, you have a way out at night and an excuse for $200.

I opened up an online only bank account and have a % of my direct deposit go there. Told the wife that more is going into the 401k.
All stsements are online, but used my work address just in case.
Make sure to get a non interest account so you don't deal with having to explain interest dividends at tax time.

Also be careful with you cell phone bills. If you have 40 calls to the same number you might have to explain why, and delete all text messages from your provider.

I like the 401k idea. How much were you able to save a month doing that

So thought of another question. For daty lovers how do you hide that smell on your breath?

once you raise your SO's suspicion (you have exceeded this threshold) then she will become more vigilant. women operate on a different level and have a sense that men don't have or comprehend. further, in today's digital environment simple tech like key loggers, browser caches or GPS logging makes it really easy to catch someone. and what about the crazy provider that texts and calls you, weeks after a session (it happens)? good luck.

Start a lawn mowing business where you are paid cash. YOu will have extra money and be to tired to mess around.

Ok....I want to make sure I have this straight. I see that you joined Aug 6, 2012. So I have to assume that you got caught before you joined. It also sounds like your wife is not gonna give you any way to hobby. After all that you have described, this really doesn't sound like something that you need to do unless you enjoy the beat down you are going to get from your wife. Do yourself a favor and wait a while before venturing out again. Then the first thing you would need to do is get a hobby phone. It really sounds like you have had really bad luck or you have a death wish. do yourself a favor cool it for a while.

Well if by going anyway to hobby yeah mean permission then no. But if I just hide things better she shouldn't find out this time. I used an email account I didn't think she knew about last week so that's how I got caught. Now I've created a new one that I not adding to my phone. She knew I've used this account in the past for porn so a soon as she saw it she went on alert and found everything.

Now the only way I'm accessing the site is thru my FB app which does not keep a history. Along with new email acct. as for time this is easy she doesn't get off work until about 3 hours after I do. So as long as I keep it close to home I should be there and back before she gets home. And after sept she will be in class until 10 2 days a week. The only thing holding me back now is the money. She took what I had saved up and re deposited it. So your right I need to lay low for awhile until I can get the idea Dan suggested set up. She's known for awhile I wanted to increase the amount going to 401k so it won't be out of the norm to do so.


Thanks again for the advice everyone

simple advice, i know you are trying to learn the ropes, be very careful about how much real world info you post here, there are many, many agendas. you seem to be too eager to share, just my thoughts.

be careful, happy hobbying

hobby phone, hobby phone, hobby phone....