Affair?

Just an FYI, but having an objective of NOT having "an affair", is why I limited myself to MP's and now the hobby. I don't want a girl friend, or a mistress, or emotional entanglement. I pay to get in, get off, and get away. Sure I like to have fun during the session and the GFE feel helps with that, but bottom line, I don't want or need the emotional baggage of an affair. Originally Posted by RedLeg505

He was just like you.

Thanks guys, this has been very reflective for her. Regardless of everything, they are great friends and will continue to be. She continues to love the single life but she herself knows that she is not ready for anything further anyways.

Sometimes people only want the cake....to see have and hold and lick it a little bit. no calories

The wife doesn't know about his feelings. She knows about him seeing providers. Originally Posted by Emary Preston

Doesn't matter. She's opened pandora's box. She wanted her husband to go out and have fun, but it sounds like she may have become more jealous than what she thought she would. That is her problem and not his. She needs to realize that what she is doing is a very subtle form of manipulation. She wants to keep him at a certain arms length and keep him just happy enough to not lose him, but I would guess that she probably was far from the perfect wife or else hubby wouldn't need to be seeing providers. She needs to realize she opened up a can of worms by being cool with it. Now she has to deal with it.

Sometimes people only want the cake....to see have and hold and lick it a little bit. no calories Originally Posted by Emary Preston

Seeing, holding and licking it, while not getting any calories.... just sounds fun.

JK

Thanks for the provocative post, sweetie. Now back to my dream where I am licking....

Yeah, but he wants to stay for the kids and the husband and wife actually have a good friendship.

It wasn't suppose to happen, it was unexpected. Originally Posted by Emary Preston

That is bullshit. Staying together for the kids is a cop out by a pussy. He is doing a disservice to the kids to stick around in an unhappy marriage.

They are not unhappy at all. He is a great dad and she is a great mom. They never fight and rarely disagree. It's weird, you can't fight with this man. He is beyond awesome.

My marriage ended over an affair that I never even had.
She believed strongly enough that it was going on.
Honesty works the best. I dated a girl who told me she dates other guys.
I never got jealous, and I was free to fool around on the side. That was a fun
arrangement. I could tell her what ladies I had that hots for, and she'd check them out too.
Just sucks that I never worked in a 3-some. Lol

They are not unhappy at all. He is a great dad and she is a great mom. They never fight and rarely disagree. It's weird, you can't fight with this man. He is beyond awesome. Originally Posted by Emary Preston

Beyond awesome? If he is beyond awesome why is he cheating on his wife? Cheating is cheating no matter how one may cut it. Staying for the kids is bullshit and the brats deserve better. Does his wife know he is cheating? Does he have her blessing? I would be willing to bet his infidelities would get his wife pissed enough to fight with him.

My marriage ended over an affair that I never even had.
She believed strongly enough that it was going on.
Honesty works the best. I dated a girl who told me she dates other guys.
I never got jealous, and I was free to fool around on the side. That was a fun
arrangement. I could tell her what ladies I had that hots for, and she'd check them out too.
Just sucks that I never worked in a 3-some. Lol Originally Posted by kelsier16

Are you my crazy ex?

Beyond awesome? If he is beyond awesome why is he cheating on his wife? Cheating is cheating no matter how one may cut it. Staying for the kids is bullshit and the brats deserve better. Does his wife know he is cheating? Does he have her blessing? I would be willing to bet his infidelities would get his wife pissed enough to fight with him. Originally Posted by pyramider

Yes! She knows.

I actually think the "I stay for the kids" is a cop out.

Men say that because they really don't want to move on. I'm sure there are exceptions, but to me, the rule is that it's a cop out. In my experience, kids are adaptable. It might be rough at first, but they get used to it.

I would tell your friend to be a bit wary about this guy. I know he seems wonderful (or awesome in your words), but a lot of his story doesn't make sense.

They are not unhappy at all. He is a great dad and she is a great mom. They never fight and rarely disagree. It's weird, you can't fight with this man. He is beyond awesome. Originally Posted by Emary Preston

Sounds like you have really fallen for him.

.......this friend is actually you, Emary, isn't it?

Goodness, can we stay on topic, please?

There is too many details to explain. He never told my friends they would end up together nor did she expect anything either. My concern for her is that if good man comes into her life she will dismiss a real relationship because of her inability to give up what she has with this man.

She already did it once, he wasn't the right guy anyway. Even though she stopped the sexual aspect of their relationship, her mind and focus was on him. Lets call him Clooney....her name will be Bazinga.

So, Bazinga realized that Clooney had become more of than just a lover. He was actually her best friend. Bazinga does not want Clooney to leave his wife.


I think she knows what she is doing, my only concern for her, was her missing out on a real relationship. She was a provider and before he came along she hadn't had real "love making sex" in a very long time. Which is one of the reasons her affection for him grew, I think. She was a provider and was fulfilled by the "illusion of passion" she was receiving herself from her clients.

She is no longer a provider and he is no longer is in the hobby, so everyone needs to stop being so damn presumptuous, dammit.

Emary doesn't fall in love.

You want to know the WORST that could happen. Tell her to watch the movie "Unfaithful" with Richard Gere and Diane Lane.