A phrase to learn...

Even in my car situation, I don't need significant help.

It's handled even if I don't provide. That's how I've situated things should things go wrong. I always try to have a back up plan in my life.

Back in the old ASPD days, there were guys who always shook a finger at providers saying that they "had" to do this to get by. Which I don't "have" to do this to get by.

Yes, it is helping me not have to wait for another source of money (that comes in much slower from my RL job).
It's helping me not have to wait until a later date to deal with the car problem.
It's allowing me to still get my nails fixed all pretty for you guys and my hair done and that kind of fancy stuff.

But it is not a significant "need".

I did not mean to come off about my problems as a "poor me" type of post.

I have always had problems in my life, and they usually come at me hard and fast, but when they do, I don't crumble in a pile and need the world to help me with them. Shit man, I'm TnTAngie for Pete's sake! I'm a tough bitch. I take my bumps and bruises and still keep going.

It will take more than that to take me down.

Rehke,

Part of my screening is to find out how well the provider has their shit together. I rather not be asked (or tempted to give) help. I rather see providers that need no significant help.

I have helped in the past Some years back I had a sugar baby, it would be a good novel to read. Thought me a lot. Since then, I have helped here and there, not in any significant way and I absolutely did not expect nothing in return. Just a gift for a friend, and I made that clear.

It is rare for me to see a provider BCD without meeting somehow and getting a good feel that she is in peace with herself and have her shit together. Then, the experience is great and situations like yours don't present themselves. I'm like Churchill, I can resist anything but temptation. So I rather not be tempted.

I'm sure you learned from your mistakes. I learned from mine. There are 3 types of people: Stupid, Smart and Wise. Stupid people never learn from their mistakes. Smart people learn from their mistakes. Wise people learn from other persons' mistakes.

Thanks for sharing your experience. Hopefully will help some wise people.

my .02$ Originally Posted by lukeskywalker7667

Sweetheart,

What I said was not intended nor targeted to you. I'[m sorry if it was read this way I was just perusing posts, I saw Rehcke's thread and his post on this thread and answered to it because it somehow hit home with me. In fact, I had not read your post about car pbms.

Quite the opposite, I think you have your shit together from the posts I read.

I don't spend that much time on the boards and read things quickly and missed your post I would have been otherwise more sensitive to the situation, so I apologise.

Unintended consequences. Even more incentive for me not to post. Sorry baby.

Luke

Even in my car situation, I don't need significant help.

It's handled even if I don't provide. That's how I've situated things should things go wrong. I always try to have a back up plan in my life.

Back in the old ASPD days, there were guys who always shook a finger at providers saying that they "had" to do this to get by. Which I don't "have" to do this to get by.

Yes, it is helping me not have to wait for another source of money (that comes in much slower from my RL job).
It's helping me not have to wait until a later date to deal with the car problem.
It's allowing me to still get my nails fixed all pretty for you guys and my hair done and that kind of fancy stuff.

But it is not a significant "need".

I did not mean to come off about my problems as a "poor me" type of post.

I have always had problems in my life, and they usually come at me hard and fast, but when they do, I don't crumble in a pile and need the world to help me with them. Shit man, I'm TnTAngie for Pete's sake! I'm a tough bitch. I take my bumps and bruises and still keep going.

It will take more than that to take me down. Originally Posted by tntangie

Thanks

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