No it is a business pure and simple. Anyone who thinks it is not is a fool. You can be friendly but no friends are made in business. When that happens your open to exploitation pure and simple. And that goes both ways.Perhaps for you m'dear, and I'm not trying to say it's not. Yet, I must strongly, and with conviction disagree with you. I have, in fact, made some very good friends along the way. not very many mind you, but there are a few, whom are openly invited to thanksgiving dinner as "friends from work" to the rest of the attendees. I dare say, my feelings reach beyond friendship, and into a kind of love. for example, I would be at the hospital if they fell ill, send a gift if tragedy struck, and be there as a shoulder if they were heart broken. "Friends with benefits" suites it best I think. Saying that you don't make friends in business is quite narrow minded..Unless you're working at a very hostile place, you always end up building relationships at work. When your work deals with intimacy, more so. You, dear man, sound so very jaded, and I'm so sorry.
What I hate to see is some poor guy suckered into the whole allure that "she's my friend" or "she would date me in real life if I wasn't married" bullshit. That is ridicululous right there. And weak. It is just a business after all... Originally Posted by bladtinzu
Exploitation indeed happens, on both parts, a lot more than I'd like to admit; but it doesn't stand true to every person. Human beings, by nature, are well intended. Only the tainted and corrupt end up trying to use you, or take your kindness for weakness. I assure you, there are women, like myself, who actually give of themselves far beyond opening their legs and letting a dick in. A true courtesan is more than a blow up doll, she is a therapist, a haven, and indeed, a friend.
The thing is, when you fuck "warm holes", yes, it tends to be just a cold business transaction. When you interact with a woman, esspecially over long periods of time, the natural chemicals and endorphins released by physical encounters foster a bond. You just can't fight science and nature. Contrary to popular belief, we aren't soulless capsules, we have feelings too!
Now, about the whole "she's going to marry me thing".. I personally, feel that is cruel. No decent woman would manipulate another human being into such a torment. I know of at least 2 providers whom are currently retired, and living out their lives with men who were previous clients. It does happen.
