Wow, thats a tuff spot to be in. That sucks. I bet the look on your face (while she was venting) was priceless.
Sounds like"
(a) she may need a hug or some anti-depressants
(b) she is unhappy with herself and her life choices
(c) she may need to reconsider being in the hobby - if you don't truly enjoy it - MOVE ALONG.
(d) she may have wanted you to give HER that $$$ instead of some random civi gal.
I once knew a girl like this. She despised the hobby, yet she was a provider. Instead of it actually making her feel sexy, it made her feel dirty. She would talk so much trash about it, to me, that finally I had to finally just tell her, "If you don't like it, then CHANGE IT". (I think she was waiting on someone to come on rescue her, but that is a Richard Gere/Julia Roberts fantasy.) There ARE always OTHER options...I heard Palm Beach Tan is hiring. LOL, no but honestly...No one FORCES the providers to be providers (well, err, unless they have a pimp or something, LOL). Alot of ladies pull that same line on alot of guys trying to get them to feel sorry for them...(sigh) and apparently it works for alot of the girls. Im just not geared like that. That's not how I roll, and I will never understand it.
You've helped her through all of the times you've seen her, she just sounds like she needs a break...or another hobby. Don't get down on yourself for helping her. People always have the decision to change, if they truly want different results. Shame on her for weighing you down with HER baggage.
XOXO
ItalianaPrincess
Originally Posted by ItalianaPrincess
You took the words out of my mouth. I have a friend just like the lady you know. The lady from the OP sounds just like her. She's beautiful and has a gorgeous body, and always thought that would either get her what she wanted or get her the man she needed. She doesn't have a business savvy mind, so her understanding of her worth is just embarrassing. She's too old to be where she was in 1995 mentally, and she's begging me to help her get started down this path. But neither her work ethic, mentality, nor her personality is up to par, and I refuse to volunteer to be her pimp and put my reputation on the line.
I will be glad when women learn to separate escorting from their personal lives. What I mean by that is realizing
1. the damsel in distress role is TIRED and should be REtired. Calling guys cause the 'light bill needs paying' is so 1980. Men like women who are constantly learning and growing to improve their situation.
2. our clients don't HAVE to see us. If he decides to find someone new, you're supposed to have two more waiting to take his place. I have literally heard a lady cussing out a regular client because he missed their bi-weekly appointment. They are not your boyfriends. They don't owe you any loyalty AT ALL.
3. as with any business, evolution is necessary. You have to adjust for losing clients and gaining new ones. The wost thing is meeting a lady that's so busy she is no fun to be with, or a lady so slow that she has lowered her values to where she doesn't even feel good about providing the service.
I cannot stress self-assessment and self-improvement enough. If school's not for you, MAKE it for you. If 9-5's not for you, MAKE IT FOR YOU. (everyone knows I'm not talking about any one person, right? If this applies to you, I hope you accept it in good faith, and channel the anger you feel about what been said in this post to take the steps you need to make life better) I have always said, you can't break someone who wasn't already broken. If I could say anything to a young lady trying to enter into this business, it's not to do it out of desperation. As it's been pointed out, prostitution is just work, and the industry can't be judged as a whole. Unless one is under aged, or forced, every person involved has a choice of participating or not.
To the OP, I know it makes you feel like you've been taking advantage of a lady, but she chose this life for herself. There is nothing you can do about her feelings.
All the best to you!