If my multiple year membership to P411 and long term activity on ECCIE is not enough for a provider, it is her loss. Granted, she has the right to screen any way she wants, but only a FOOL would give a provider their real name and information. Yes, it is a Catch-22, but at some point there has to be a level of trust. Until a provider is willing to give me her real name, why should she get mine? Originally Posted by Cpalmson
Snorting at the responses...Yup. This is an extreme case but I can think of at least five situations in the past two years where established, well-respected hobbyists "went bad"- certainly in less tragic ways, but still in ways that made most providers unwilling to see them. One of these guys had actually won "best client" on his home board for several years running. So yes, people DO change.
A tragic story comes to mind...
Once when I was in Austin, a guy that had seen some of the the respected ladies, goes to see another lady.
Well respected provider gave the girl a vouch for this client even though she hadn't seen him in almost 8 months. (He had took a "break", then came back on the scene).
So poor girl accepts the reference from well respected because, well she is well respected and had seen said gent for a long time before he went on hiatus.
While watching the new, breaking story comes across the screen.
Poor girl's body had been raped, beaten and dragged behind the H-E-B and left, naked for dead. (She was dead).
Now the respected lady is freaking out because she gave the poor girl the vouch for a client she hadn't seen in a while (8 months).
Yes, this is only 1 incident and ANYTHING can happen when seeing ANYONE. However, this should make a cold shiver run down anyone's back when you walk a mile in "OUR" shoes.
You men can do all the homework in the world to be informed about "us"/me. You know everything from my hair/ eye color to generally what my body looks like, on down to what my favorite foods are.
WE know jack shit about you. YOU are a ghost to us until we can piece together information to get an idea if we not only feel comfortable seeing you. And I (like other top notch ladies I know) go a step further to get a feel for if we will click during our date. (I'm not just a hole for a guy to get his rocks off, I prefer the connection)
IF my stellar reputation across several boards/states makes you nervous about giving me any type of information I need in order to feel safe about opening up my personal self (in the most vulnerable way, (i.e spreading my legs (for you crude ones)
Then, Yes, you need to move on.
Too many other men out there that have no issue in helping a lady feel 100% comfortable.
I also weep for the American education system as it seems reading comprehension is out the window now days.
IF you have the required info needed for my typical screening (P411 w/ current references, TER, Date-Check, what have you) THEN there is no need to give me your personal information.
HEll even Gina from P411 tells us ladies that P411 is merely a tool to use combined with our other methods of screening. Nothing is fool proof, and it is ridiculous to put your trust in 1 site/ method alone. (pretty common sense if you ask me)
Originally Posted by GenesisNicole
No fucking way am I giving a hooker my information.
Go find another one.
It is her right to ask stupid shit and it is your right to tell her NOPE.
Real name my fucking ass.
Next you know you will have a pimp telling you he willng your wife.
You hookers look out for your safety and I will be the smart one and look out for mine. Originally Posted by Gotyour6
Snorting at the responses...
A tragic story comes to mind...
Once when I was in Austin, a guy that had seen some of the the respected ladies, goes to see another lady.
Well respected provider gave the girl a vouch for this client even though she hadn't seen him in almost 8 months. (He had took a "break", then came back on the scene).
So poor girl accepts the reference from well respected because, well she is well respected and had seen said gent for a long time before he went on hiatus.
While watching the new, breaking story comes across the screen.
Poor girl's body had been raped, beaten and dragged behind the H-E-B and left, naked for dead. (She was dead).
Now the respected lady is freaking out because she gave the poor girl the vouch for a client she hadn't seen in a while (8 months).
Yes, this is only 1 incident and ANYTHING can happen when seeing ANYONE. However, this should make a cold shiver run down anyone's back when you walk a mile in "OUR" shoes.
You men can do all the homework in the world to be informed about "us"/me. You know everything from my hair/ eye color to generally what my body looks like, on down to what my favorite foods are.
WE know jack shit about you. YOU are a ghost to us until we can piece together information to get an idea if we not only feel comfortable seeing you. And I (like other top notch ladies I know) go a step further to get a feel for if we will click during our date. (I'm not just a hole for a guy to get his rocks off, I prefer the connection)
IF my stellar reputation across several boards/states makes you nervous about giving me any type of information I need in order to feel safe about opening up my personal self (in the most vulnerable way, (i.e spreading my legs (for you crude ones)
Then, Yes, you need to move on.
Too many other men out there that have no issue in helping a lady feel 100% comfortable.
I also weep for the American education system as it seems reading comprehension is out the window now days.
IF you have the required info needed for my typical screening (P411 w/ current references, TER, Date-Check, what have you) THEN there is no need to give me your personal information.
HEll even Gina from P411 tells us ladies that P411 is merely a tool to use combined with our other methods of screening. Nothing is fool proof, and it is ridiculous to put your trust in 1 site/ method alone. (pretty common sense if you ask me)
Originally Posted by GenesisNicole
Why not? Do you refuse TIPS?I have heard of this and I also practice this but what ur speaking about/ referring to are *GIFTS *and as as far tips - I will refuse if I feel as though I didn't deserve (to my standards) however, I certainly believe one may be misconstruing and twisting words to break down my thought process my spider senses tell me..(but since u choose to break down let's break down ) . If I was a waiter at a restaurant feeling as tho I give great suburb customer service and the quality of my work was appreciated by my customers... That's like saying to my employer "I will work for free" while I'm saying to myself "I hope i get tips". Who does that??? Point them out. I'll wait.
I give away regularly. Sometimes it hurts, but more often it is rewarding.
Haven't you heard - giving is good for the soul? Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks