I have to stand up for myself...

girl people always have bs to say there jealous!
they say ur to skinny they say im fat and im not ahhh fuckem just be you
I respect your courage and honesty even if noone else does!
make YOU HAPPY SMILE!

I'm sorry to hear about your eating disorder. Honestly your pics don't look very healthy and I can understand why guys would be concerned about seeing you and want to get input from other gents. If you don't want to be scrutinized you shouldn't put your half naked body on display to be judged.

You shouldn't care what people think, keep your head up and just do YOU!

I've been with Ally and she's a real sweet girl. Keep up the good work, luv.

If you don't want to be scrutinized you shouldn't put your half naked body on display to be judged. Originally Posted by buckman

That isn't why we put our pictures up. We advertise our time and companionship with a picture so you can take your pick. If you don't like it you can move on. Why would you waste your time judging a lady you have no desire to see when there are so many girls to choose from?

If we wanted to be judged, we would be forking out tons of money and enter into beauty pageants. No thanks.

I'm sorry to hear about your eating disorder. Honestly your pics don't look very healthy and I can understand why guys would be concerned about seeing you and want to get input from other gents. If you don't want to be scrutinized you shouldn't put your half naked body on display to be judged. Originally Posted by buckman

holy shit you make me sick.......


EJ:::: was kind in her post!!!!

I've never met you but have admired your courage & spunk for some time. Keep up the good fight and know some of us are cheering for you. Originally Posted by Toyz

EXACT-FUCKIN-LY!!!!

couldnt have been clearer myself.

anyone who feeds into the criticism after everything she has posted/explained..... i dare your ass to post a pic of yourself..... no face needed.... don't use confidentiality as an excuse!!!!

i simply dont care if your argument is, i dont need to prove myself in pics...i pay...bla bla... if any of you have the balls to scrutinize....its obviously for some deeply rooted reasons of your own regarding self esteem....

you best look reeeaaaaalllll good on stage if you tell a girl she needs to make changes after an admission to an eating disorder....

EXACT-FUCKIN-LY!!!!

couldnt have been clearer myself.

anyone who feeds into the criticism after everything she has posted/explained..... i dare your ass to post a pic of yourself..... no face needed.... don't use confidentiality as an excuse!!!!

i simply dont care if your argument is, i dont need to prove myself in pics...i pay...bla bla... if any of you have the balls to scrutinize....its obviously for some deeply rooted reasons of your own regarding self esteem....

you best look reeeaaaaalllll good on stage if you tell a girl she needs to make changes after an admission to an eating disorder.... Originally Posted by ExoticEzra

Wow. I've had a bit of a crush on you for some time. You appear to be gorgeous, and I've always appreciated your subtle, humble posts.

You seem to have become far more jaded; almost angry. I really didn't see anything malicious in buckman's post.

"I'm sorry to hear about your eating disorder." seems thoughtful, no?

"Honestly, your pics don't look too healthy." Seriously girl, no sane person would argue that she she doesn't look unhealthy.

"You best look reeaaaalll good on stage if you tell a girl she needs to make changes after an admission to an eating disorder". REALLY? She admits to having a psychological disorder and it's out of line to suggest that she needs to make changes? REALLY? Damn right she needs to make changes. Surely you can't look at those photos and believe that she's perfectly healthy. She says that she trying to overcome her problem, and I commend her for that, but these disorders often require professional help. I feel that she started this thread to seek affirmation that she's fine. You and several others have given her that affirmation. Shame! Any reasonable person can see that she's not fine, and as Bucknan suggested, she needs to make some changes. Buckman may or may not look "reeaaaalll good on stage" but what the hell does that have to do with anything. He didn't put himself out there and ask for feedback. Those of you who do, should expect, and respect honest feedback.

As hot as you may be, I have to put you on my, "way too fucking stupid to see" list. I'd much prefer to fuck a heavy girl than a hot idiot.

Might you have any openings today EJL?

I'm sorry to hear about your struggle with ED. It's a tough battle but you are making great progress and with enough determination and discipline, you will be able to wave goodbye to it forever.

That being said, people are going to say what they want to say, as this is a quasi-anonymous forum and many people feel that entitles them to be rude or insensitive without consequence. I don't think that will ever change, all you can do is change the way you react to it. Those who feel the need to comment negatively about your appearance have their reasons, and possibly their own internal demons. You can't take it to heart. You're a beautiful girl and you're on the road to happiness and health, don't let other people drag you down in the process. Focus on you and let the rest fall by the wayside.

Good luck

-Jennie

Remember ... we're all behind the computer until ...

If anyone is open to unwarranted advice about what you need to do with regard to your weight, just make sure you log in and read Jay Walker's posts. Also do this if you want to know if you are a hot idiot or not.

Thanks Jay Walker for your contribution to this thread.

P.S. Ezra what are you talking about, Don't you know that buckman's picture is his avatar. Duh! You hot idiot!

Ally, your courage to publicly admit that you have a problem and take ownership of it is awesome, way to go. Most of us know that eating disorders are usually based on some other unresolved personal issue, so again you get mucho credit for opening up about that. Your pic's look much better, keep it up!!

"Spinner" isn't a number on a scale. I have to agree with Nuby on this one, and just based on your perceived body type from the pic's since we've never met, you'd look great at ~115 pounds but obviously you've got some hurdles to overcome before you get comfortable with that.

Coming from an old fat guy with an eating disorder that goes the other direction. Between learning bad eating habits from my dad and no sweets around the house as a kid because of my diabetic brother... I eat way too much of the wrong crap, but I'm working on it... again....

holy shit you make me sick.......


EJ:::: was kind in her post!!!! Originally Posted by ExoticEzra

I wasn't attacking or criticizing this lady. This was my first ever post to or about her, but I have read some. I don't have to post a pick, I'm not the seller I'm a buyer. As mentioned though she does not look healthy and guy who's considering seeing her has the right to ask other guys if their is a health risk. My second point is that every provider who has pics up gets judged and scrutinized by the guys. It's just a fact, we are going to talk about you and review you if we see you and sometimes it's not going to be flattering.

To Jays other point you do seem a lot more disheveled then I remember. You used to come across with class and whit. Now you come across angry and bitter and like your mind is racing and not right. That's another health concern that us guys will be discussing.

Say my day job was as a web developer (it's not). As part of attracting business, I have a portfolio of websites that I show off to get people to give me money to make their websites.

If a potential customer points out that the websites in my portfolio are ugly, or don't work in IE, or whatever, well, I may want to do something about that. I may be a really nice person and charming to spend time with, but I'm asking people to give me money to make them a good web site, so they are going to judge me based on the websites I show off.

Similarly if an escort posts pictures of herself advertising for people to spend time with her based, in part, on her physical attractiveness (I know that's not 100% of attraction but for many men that scores around 70% at least) then customers will assess them critically and possibly provide feedback. Not every customer is going to be polite with that feedback. Unless you limit your customer base to polite people only, that could be an issue.

I wasn't attacking or criticizing this lady........ It's just a fact, we are going to talk about you and review you if we see you and sometimes it's not going to be flattering.

To Jays other point you do seem a lot more disheveled then I remember. You used to come across with class and whit. Now you come across angry and bitter and like your mind is racing and not right. That's another health concern that us guys will be discussing Originally Posted by buckman

buckman, we can only take your word that you were not attacking this lady. However, the tone of your posts lately make it seem as if you are in attack mode.

Again, you obviously don't want to see this lady. If this is true, why spend time judging/criticizing her? Since you probably wont be able to answer that question to your favor, again, maybe you can admit that you did attack Ezra with yet another nasty rude opinion; because you cant help but make yourself look more and more like what nasty rude opinion people think of you.

You seem to be doing a lot of discussing that has nothing to do with picking a lady you find attractive and having some fun (what most come here to do). You also seem to like to throw around the idea that people who post here often have nothing better going on. So I can only imagine what you think of yourself. If you are looking for "angry and bitter" you must live in a house with no mirrors. At least Ally Ray can admit she has an issue and was bold enough to publicly state so.

Say my day job was as a web developer (it's not). As part of attracting business, I have a portfolio of websites that I show off to get people to give me money to make their websites.

If a potential customer points out that the websites in my portfolio are ugly, or don't work in IE, or whatever, well, I may want to do something about that. I may be a really nice person and charming to spend time with, but I'm asking people to give me money to make them a good web site, so they are going to judge me based on the websites I show off.

Similarly if an escort posts pictures of herself advertising for people to spend time with her based, in part, on her physical attractiveness (I know that's not 100% of attraction but for many men that scores around 70% at least) then customers will assess them critically and possibly provide feedback. Not every customer is going to be polite with that feedback. Unless you limit your customer base to polite people only, that could be an issue. Originally Posted by Qziz

buckman, this would be an example of how to address the opposing view without being a complete dick about it, evading questions, and deflecting the wrongs in your comments by projecting your own anger and bitterness onto others. You are so transparent.

My motto is, criticism should be used to your advantage or thrown out the window. Whatever you do, don't keep it if you aren't going to use it.