Knowing Raina (and thinking extraordinarily high of her on every level) I must admit I am probably guilty of the very things she mentions. I also concur with the harsh reality mentioned by Driver1. It is a very fine line we walk in ever reviewing anyone - and I shudder to think what a woman would write about me. As a hobbyist it is vital to know what the woman is about before I commit to seeing her - in fairness to both of us. However, as a man I also have the obligation to think of women as the gift they are - especially to women who belong to this shared community, and not say things hurtful of them - even unknowingly done as I am sure I have.
The bottom line is we all can do a better job both as hobbyists and as consumers in respecting each other in this wonderful sport of kings.
Doc
p.s. Hopefully I have walked the fine line in writing this between being the 24/7 horndog I am, while currying favor with all the beautiful women we are lucky enough to know who might read it.