Hi all—I hope both men and women—especially AMP workers—will respond to this inquiry.
About nine months ago, I met a very pleasant, friendly and attractive spa worker. I visited with her several times and we exchanged WeChat accounts.
I contacted her for another appointment and she told me she left and moved away due to problems at the shop. I promised to visit her as soon as I had an opportunity.
We continued our conversations over WeChat during the next six
months and I finally went to see her last week. It was a “more than friendly” get together, lots of hand-holding, hugging. We spent the day together, went out for dinner and we retired to my hotel. We were intimate twice on the first day and again the following morning.
The surprise came when I had to check out of the hotel to return home. I told her that I didn’t want to spoil the mood—which was quite spontaneous and almost “loving”—but that I felt I should offer her some money, as I know she doesn’t do this kind of thing for free.
She refused the money!
She said it was her intent to spend the time with me and that’s all that mattered.
After some cajoling, I got her to accept a donation.
We parted and I told her I’d like to see her again, but distance is a real issue.
Note: my friend acknowledges herself to be a sex worker and I know she has at least one other suitor/friend who has gone so far as to propose to her (she refused, even though he is a good catch: $$$).
So, my question is: What do you think is going on here? It seems unusual for a masseuse to refuse a “tip” especially when full services are provided and an over-nighter is involved. Has anyone ever had a similar experience?
I’d certainly appreciate your input. Thanks in advance!
Originally Posted by bufferdean
Just because someone is a sex worker doesn't mean every sexual interaction is a business transaction. Sounds like you guys have gotten to be pretty close friends after talking for so long. To her, your friendship is payment enough. I'm not an AMP worker but I gather that the conditions are considerably more difficult than being independent, so she might appreciate being simply treated like a person.
Some ways you can treat her without outright "paying her" - Take her out to dinner at a really nice place, email her gift cards to Amazon/Wegmans to help her with necessities periodically (groceries are expensive!). Take her to one of the summer festivals. Check in on her, be an ear for her to talk to, present her with new experiences she might not have experienced otherwise.
Don't fall in love, it's a trap. Or do. Life is short. Don't let someone's past scare you away from their future.
Good luck!