Just Drinks After Work

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I know what he said. He asked providers their opinion on having a drink before a session. I stated that I do not mind and even enjoy having a drink before going BCD FREE of charge to set each other at ease.

The "dinner/drink date" is completely different. It's very much like Fancy stated. Maybe if I worded it as a "meet and greet" that would have been interpreted better. It is more to set the gentleman at ease. He can decide from there if he would like to schedule a session BCD or not. Originally Posted by Houston Katrina
Exactly. reword or not ?
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I know what he asked. My answer is YES I do think it can make a date more productive.
I also stated that I do not mind and even enjoy having a drink before going BCD FREE of charge to set each other at ease.

The "dinner/drink date" is completely different. It's very much like what Fancy stated. Maybe if I worded it as a "meet and greet" that would have been interpreted better. It is more to set the gentleman at ease. He can decide from there if he would like to schedule a session BCD or not and that can cut down a lot of the "this wasn't what I expected her to look like" problems. Originally Posted by Houston Katrina
Exactly. Gotta love smart women
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Exactly. Gotta love smart women Originally Posted by rduke4923

Thank you
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^^^^
Es tut mir Leid. Ich habe keine Ahnung, was Katrina sagt. Alles was ich sehe sind Brust
[I'm sorry. I have no idea what Katrina is saying. All I see are breast]
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^^^^
Es tut mir Leid. Ich habe keine Ahnung, was Katrina sagt. Alles was ich sehe sind Brust
[I'm sorry. I have no idea what Katrina is saying. All I see are breast] Originally Posted by Dorian Gray


das ist in Ordnung nur die Brust folgen sie Ihnen zeigen, den Weg

I hope that translates correctly lol
........I also stated that I do not mind and even enjoy having a drink before going BCD FREE of charge to set each other at ease.............. Originally Posted by Houston Katrina

Cool.... send me a PM when your ready...!!!!
We have all read too many theads about the first 15 min of a hour session,
getting comfortable with one another and pre game convo.
Too much on her part to little on his? Rushed or not rushed yada yada yada.....

I once read a review where a guy asked a lady to meet off the clock for a drink first in a effort to see if to see if they clicked and ease the mood for the session.
When i read the lady accepted I voted yes on his HOF ballot.

I have done this three times and it has been fantastic.
I have given her the choice and she dresses to the bar, so far with stunning results.

How many of you ladies think this is a reasonable request? Originally Posted by rduke4923
why don't you act like a real man and ask one of the hot women working at your used car lot, or wear ever you work to have a drink? or to happy hour? why does a normal man need a hooker to engage in a normal social outing?? its easier with a hooker but damn if you man up you might actually meet a real girlfriend.........
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[QUOTE=Tony Gambino;1057933718]why don't you act like a real man and ask one of the hot women working at your used car lot, or wear ever you work to have a drink? or to happy hour? why does a normal man need a hooker to engage in a normal social outing?? its easier with a hooker but damn if you man up you might actually meet a real girlfriend.........[/QU

Heh nice try
If you make it to Houston we should meet for a beer
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why don't you act like a real man ... Originally Posted by Tony Gambino
Pass the rule book around when you're done with it, will ya?
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At the heart of them, all of these threads are guys searching for solutions to poor IOP.

Pre-appointment drinks
Better looking than most
Willing to DATY or try other things she might like

The problem is, you are paying 300/hour, so the IOP should start off at a base 100%. You shouldn't have to figure out strategies to have a good session.

What the guys should be responsible for is:
Showing up on time
Taking a shower when you get there
Keeping your junk groomed
Being respectful while together
Not doing something that would hurt her
Not screwing with her privacy
Not putting her at risk by trying to sneak or preasure her into bbfs
Paying the donation agreed to prior to the appointment

If you are not doing the above, you only have yourself to blame for low IOP

If you are doing all of this and the session has low IOP, light her up with a review or comments. Spread the word.

This profession is a choice, we are not forcing them to spend time with us. If we don't get to be YMMV on the donation, you shouldn't let them get away with being YMMV on the service.
When I used to date escorts, I almost always started off with a dinner to see if we were attracted. I'm talking about Leo (the good one), KLK (or whatever, we first met in a Mexican restaurant, I still remember her petiteness looking around the crowded place for me). OK I found them attractive (surprise surprise) but if I hadn't i would have paid for meal and said goodbye.

I wouldn't have dreamt of paying more than dinner and drinks for her time. It is my time too. We're not talking Wataburger.
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I probably have the most complete bar of any provider in Houston to set a fellow at ease before a session at my incall. I'm Irish. Enough said. Depending on the time of day, I often offer a selection of snacks, too.

To get back to what the OP is evidently asking, yes, at least 15 minutes before say, a 1-hour date just sitting, chatting, sipping a refreshment, getting acquainted, perhaps some LFK, is highly recommended, and pretty much a must with me. I always do that at my incall, and I usually don't count that first quarter hour, or time in the shower if the gentleman asks to freshen up. I appreciate his thoughtfulness and good hygiene. Now, if we progress to DFK and fondling on the couch or I join him in the bath for lathering, well, playtime has begun.

I don't mind meeting a potential client out for a drink first, but again, I have to wonder if it's just for friendly banter and relaxation before a session, or if he's sizing me up and may change his mind. How do I know he won't get cold feet for reasons having nothing to do with me?

In that case and with any companion, I believe that the lady should be compensated for her time and effort UNLESS she has TOTALLY misrepresented herself. Any fellow who enters my incall and decides he doesn't wish to continue can always leave if he isn't already sipping my Jameson. No charge, no hard feelings. Has only happened ONCE, and the kind lad left the full donation. Just couldn't go through with it for personal reasons, but he actually came back a few weeks later... repeatedly.


What we ladies sell, like it or not, is TIME.
Originally Posted by Fancyinheels
I agree with Fancy. Granted, I'm at a slightly different end of the provider spectrum, but still. How many of you gents run your own businesses? Do you give ANY of your services/products away for free?

How about any time you go into Wal-Mart? Do you think you could say, "Well, I just want to take this product home and use it for a bit to decide if I really want it, then if so, I will pay for it."

A gent may come to see me for the first time and end up hating my massage. I can't please everyone. That doesn't mean he gets to not compensate me for the time I spent giving him said massage.

And let's bring up all the countless times a gent books then no shows or cancels at the last minute. Wouldn't it be great if this were a legitimate business and I could keep at least 50% of the session fee? In 8 years of providing, I have only had one gent who canceled on me come back later to pay the full session fee.

Some ladies may agree to this sort of arrangement, but I wouldn't bank on it as a regular thing.
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I agree with Fancy. Granted, I'm at a slightly different end of the provider spectrum, but still. How many of you gents run your own businesses? Do you give ANY of your services/products away for free?

How about any time you go into Wal-Mart? Do you think you could say, "Well, I just want to take this product home and use it for a bit to decide if I really want it, then if so, I will pay for it."

A gent may come to see me for the first time and end up hating my massage. I can't please everyone. That doesn't mean he gets to not compensate me for the time I spent giving him said massage.

And let's bring up all the countless times a gent books then no shows or cancels at the last minute. Wouldn't it be great if this were a legitimate business and I could keep at least 50% of the session fee? In 8 years of providing, I have only had one gent who canceled on me come back later to pay the full session fee.

Some ladies may agree to this sort of arrangement, but I wouldn't bank on it as a regular thing. Originally Posted by Victoria of Houston
Victoria,
First off I love the Black and white pictures. Also thank you for adding your
points to the thread.
To answer your question i am one of the upper management, non owners
that make companies run.
Do companies build samples or perform some services at no charge to get a contract? You would be surprised.

Let me ask you this a question back. When was the last time you bought a dress without trying it on? Or worse a bra or bikini?
I was not suggesting trying you on for free (unless you ask nicely),
I was asking if meeting for a drink in a nice place before was a option.

Not looking to duck out Victoria just trying to look for another option to
on your mark, get set, Screw! LOL

Now I would ask that all ladies take FIH's lead and keep Jameson at the Incall

R Duke